Lawal Christopher – Assessments

As a Man Thinketh
Assessment by Lawal Christopher (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The main idea that the author was trying to convey in the book is the power of thought. The author tries to explain how potent the power of thought is, in that it is capable or it is the machine for steering the affairs of a man’s life. The author really emphasized the human mind as the molder of character and the maker or shaper of conditions, environment, and destiny.
Furthermore, in trying to convey his message on the power of thought the author divided his message on the power of thought into sub-headings in order to elucidate the almightiness of thought on the various aspects of life. He argued that character emerges as a result of the thought of an individual and that character is in fact the complete sum of a person’s thought. He also explained the effect of thought on circumstances whereby he made it clear that the outer condition of person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state.

In addition, he explains that man is where he is today as a result of his previous thought and would remain where he is, if he continues to think in the same manner either positively or negatively. The author then tries to explain the effect of thought on the overall wellbeing of the body and also the linkage between thought and purpose. Also, the manner in which thought helps an individual to achieve and the beauty of serenity as a result of self-control, experience and the operations of thought.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. A person is usually what he thinks, his character becomes the sum total of all his thought.

This idea is important to me because overtime I have discovered that my thought is reflected in my character consciously and unconsciously. For example, when I was growing up, I used to think that humans cannot be trusted and that people are always looking out for their selfish interests. Due to that kind of thought, I was unduly suspicious about people’s motives. However, when I realized or started thinking good about people, my attitude was immediately transformed towards people.

ii. Effect of thought on circumstances.

This idea also is important to me because it revealed the hidden truth of how my circumstance or my outer conditions is as a result of my thought which tend to be happening within me. And also, how circumstances happens to be 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I respond to it. For example, there was a time I ran out of cash and it got so bad that my thought started becoming pessimistic because of the situation. But immediately I lifted up my thought and became optimistic, I felt some feeling of relief and soon after that my needs were met in an unexpected fashion.

iii. Circumstances do not make a man. It reveals him to himself.

I love this very idea due to the fact that it enlightens and sensitizes me. Before now, I always thought circumstances especially the unpleasant ones, are some kind of punishment brought upon me. This reminds me of a quote that says “nothing great has ever been achieved or accomplished except by those who believe something inside of them was greater than their circumstances”. I also learnt from this idea that circumstances comes to develop us and makes us discover our dormant potentials. I also remember vividly, before I got into college I had to wait for 2 years. The feeling if waiting while my peers forge ahead in life was unbearable. Howbeit, I learned patience and I was able to groom myself intellectually. At the end of the day, the 2 years I spent at home was judiciously used and what I learned might not have been learnt if I had gotten into school immediately I finished high school.

iv. Effect of thought on health and body.

The idea that the body is the servant of the mind and that it obeys the operation of the mind whether it be deliberately chosen or automatically expressed is particularly interesting. When one is happy, glad and have beautiful thought, the body becomes stronger and in good health, but when reverse is the case, the body sinks into disease and decay. When I am unnecessarily worried about issues, my body system is always in disequilibrium but when am happy and joyful, my body becomes light and my health improves miraculously.

v. Thought and purpose.

The idea that until thought is linked with purpose there is no intelligent accomplishment. In other words if one doesn’t have a purpose, the thought is left to wander aimlessly. When I set out to achieve anything I make sure that I focus my thought on what I want and the rest like they say becomes history.

vi. All that a person achieves and all that a person fails to achieve is as a result of thinking.

This idea is quite revelational because it makes me understand that I am the architect of my own destiny and that any success or failure on my part is my responsibility. So instead of blaming circumstances or people for my failures or success, I should take charge of my life by taking charge of my thought.

vii. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of long and patient efforts in self-control.

I love this idea because it just suggested a pathway to experiencing serenity. I know I have not fully attain calmness of mind because more often than not, there seems to be circumstances that seems too difficult to surmount but I believe that through consistence practice of self-control, I will most definitely attain calmness of mind.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?

These ideas or lessons will help me in various ways both in my daily personal life and also in creating a better world in my interaction with people. Since I have learnt that a person is literally what he thinks, and that character is basically the sum total of a person’s thought. In my personal life, I will strife to think positively and this positivity will then extend to my character which is who I am. And in creating a better world, I will infect the world with my positivity in character which will be of great admiration. Also, I learnt that circumstances or my outer condition is as a result of my thought. I will thrive to make sure that my thought, create an enabling environment and circumstances and make sure that I envision circumstances as a teacher trying to lecture me on a particular aspect of my life. In addition, since circumstances reveal man to himself, I will be very observant to take into cognizance every details of a circumstances, so as to be able to draw out the lessons I have learned and the progress of my improvement as a result of my circumstances. I will also make people understand this fact in creating a better world.

Furthermore, the effect of thought on health and body will enable me and provide me with immunity against diseases and illnesses because of my right attitude and thought, which will be contagious to people around me thus, creating a better world. Also, my daily personal life will be such that my purpose in life will be the central point of my thought and this will help me to achieve my goal with ease. Also, since all that I achieve or fail to achieve is as a direct result of my thinking. In daily personal life, I have learnt to take responsibility for my actions and inactions. And, in making the world a better place, I believe the peace eluding the world is as a result of man’s thinking. Some individuals think violence is way of life. Thus, what is happening in the world today such as; war, crisis, corruption and poverty is as a result of people’s thinking which is reflected in their actions. Lastly, calmness of mind will help me in not being overly nervous, tensed or worried about circumstances. In creating a better world I would be an advocate for persistence self control for achieving serenity.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“The thoughtless, the ignorant, and the indolent, seeing only the apparent effects of things and not the things themselves, talk of luck, of fortune, and chance. Seeing a man grow rich, they say how lucky he is! Observing another become intellectual, they exclaim how mighty favored he is! And noting the saintly character and wide influence of another, they remark how chance aids him at every turn! They do not see the trials and failures and struggles which these men have voluntarily encountered in order to gain their experience; have no knowledge of the sacrifices they have made, of the undaunted efforts they have put forth, of the faith they have exercised, that they might overcome the apparently insurmountable, and realized the vision of their heart. They do not know heartaches; they only see the light and call it light. They do not see the long and arduous journey, but only behold the pleasant goal and call it good fortune, do not understand the process but only perceive the result and call it chance.”

The quote by the author really got my attention because this kind of statement is common among people. Actually, I do make that same mistake too. But I have resolve to not to call the achievement or fortunes of some individuals luck or chance. After reading this book my eyes were opened to the truth that, if you must achieve what you set out to achieve, there is always a price to pay. And that playing down on people’s success is a sure way to maintain and justify one’s lowlife and mediocrity.

“A strong man cannot help a weaker unless that weaker is willing to be helped, and even then, the weak man must become strong of himself; he must, by his own efforts, develop the strength which he admires in another. None but himself can alter his condition.”

This quote is of interest to me, because it buttressed the point that you are responsible for your life and actions and whatever you do or fail to do is what an individual set out to do, and no matter what an individual set to do, and no matter the resources disposable to him, if he lacks the willpower to carry out his resolve, nothing will be achieved.

“A man can only rise, conquer and achieve by lifting up his thoughts. He can only remain weak and abject and miserable by refusing to lift up his thought.”

This statement brings to mind the power and influence of one’s thought. One can change his miserable state by first altering his thought, that his having a paradigm shift of one’s thought. In addition, one’s ability to move out from one’s comfort zone is the beginning of one’s opportunity to explore and conquer.

“A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances.”

The author is simply making me understand that one might not be able to choose what happens to him, but we can choose how we respond to it, through the power of our thought Thereby, creating our experiences and circumstances indirectly.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

The author has been so precise and clear in his book. I agree with everything in the book with the exception of a statement or rather a quote by the author which says “ a man doesn’t get what he wishes and pray for, but what he justly earns. His wishes and prayers are only gratified and answered when they harmonize with his thought and actions.”

The statement in itself is a very interesting and has a literal meaning however, based on my faith and from experience, I have witnessed so many super-natural blessings that cannot be explained scientifically because it has defied logical and rational explanation. Most a times those blessing in whatever form are not even thought of much less acted upon. It came divinely. In addition, sometimes when someone ask God for something, he gets exceedingly abundantly above what he asks or even thought about. This is my reservation on the quote by the author nevertheless, the quote in its contextual is correct.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

Of course, the book did contain some exercises more or less suggestions and most are exercises of a lifetime. So each passing day, I have been trying to inculcate one or two of the suggestions into my daily life and so far, it has been immensely helpful.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

There is nothing in particular that I would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10

 

 

Jonathan Livingston Seagul
Assessment by Lawal Christopher (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author in his book was trying to create an analogy using a gull whose name was Jonathan Livingstone Seagull a sea bird who wants to break free from the stereotypic belief that birds of his kind cannot learn or should not worry itself about flying at high altitude. And that it major pre-occupation should be eating and not really concern about flying in high altitude and that flying is only important in the event of food gathering or hunting. Aside of that, having a desire or wanting to fly is against the norm and values of the gulls and is therefore anti-gull in all its ramifications. The using this analogy now tries to convey his message to humans that we can rise above our limitations only if we have the thought and desire to break free. Also, if we are willing to make the necessary sacrifice of continuous practice or action to see that our aspirations and goals come to fruition.

Furthermore, the author also made it point clear that in spite of our background, financial status, or long standing norms or values of limitation, we can break free from all of these limitations and achieve a ground-breaking success. He also noted that rejection, persecution, or worst banishment might result from our own standing resolve to succeed, but nevertheless that we should persevere and be persistent in our efforts and that sooner than later, those that have opposed you will come and cheer you in the euphoria of your victory. In summary, the author tried to convey the message of sticking to your goals no matter the opposition. And that we should also dedicate time, effort and resources each day to that brings us closer to our goal. And that as we make progress in the attainment of your goal, mighty forces we come to come to your aid and people who also share the same vision with you and have the been there before will be willing to assist you in the realisation of your goal. The key word by the author is never give up, although he didn’t categorically state it but I suppose that is the summary of the book.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. “Why is it so hard to be like the rest of the flock, Jon? Why can’t you leave low flying to the pelicans, the albatross?”

This idea is important to me because in relation to humans, I have observed that society foist a particular image or limitation on individuals. When I say society I mean families, friends, peer groups or even people in your immediate environment. The reaction or solution to this, is to break free from people’s opinion that tends to limit one’s capabilities and deaden one’s potentials. One has to recreate himself and be the master of his own destiny. For example, in Africa where I come from, Nigeria to be specific, there was a time when women were relegated to the background and their place was in the kitchen. This continued until the women decided to take their destiny in their own hands. They decided to break free from the occupation and lowlife position that society has foisted on them. There are also time when I wanted to venture into something but based on the sensitivity of the venture, I will be dissuaded from doing what I had in mind with little convincing justification as to why I shouldn’t do it or why I can’t do it.

ii. Continuous practice leads to perfection.

This idea by the author is so fascinating because it is a universally accepted idea. What you spend most time on the most you become a master at it. Few years ago, I decided that I wanted a perfect body. That is a body which a nice shape and physique, because then I was a little bit chummy. I embarked on early morning physical training and exercises, I continued on with this though at first it wasn’t easy. It takes discipline and willpower to wake up very early and it was all about sacrifices and opportunity cost. At the end of the day it was worth it because I got the physique I so desired.

iii. When people turn their backs on you because of your resolution for greater performance, few other people out there are ready to accept you because of that same resolve for greater performance.

When one decides to conquer his limitations either due to his mindset or due to values and norms of the society, one is faced with undue antagonism and opposition which if not handled properly will result in a worse state than the person had been. However, if one is resolute despite the opposition, as the individual thrives and forges on in his success journey, along the way he will find out that there are people who will readily accept you and be willing to help you achieve your dreams and aspirations. For instance, when I was growing up, I was in a community where vices and unruly behavior was the order of the day. The friends I had were into these behaviors, when I made up my mind to break free and become a better person, I was out rightly rejected and opposed. Sooner than later, I was able to hook up with people who accepted me for what I wanted to be and encourage me to be a better person.

iv. In spite of people’s antagonistic attitude towards you show kindness and love to people and be ready to forgive those who have hurt you.

This idea is also quite appealing to me because it takes a brave heart to forgive those who have caused him harm and be kind and loving towards them. But I have also come to the understanding that kindness and love and your ability to forgive those who have offended you is the hallmark of a successful individual. All this becomes possible one’s thought has been made free and one now see things differently as an achiever who has become principled. For example, as a very young person I have experienced some unpleasant things, people consciously or unconsciously hurt my feelings. But overtime I have come to understand that it is not what people does to you that matters but how you respond or react to what have been done. Also life become good and better off when you hold no grudges against anybody.

v. when you have attain a particular level of excellence or have a knowledge about something, educate people who are willing to learn.
This is a universal principle of life. The author tries to convey this message in his book when he said Jonathan Livingston taught other seagull how to fly at a very high altitude and how to achieve that perfection in flying by breaking the chains of their thought in order in order to break the chain of their body. This simply means breaking the limitations that has been created by their mind. For example, in my college when I have a very good understanding of a particular topic or course that has been taught, I take it as a responsibility to teach my fellow course mates. I observed that in doing so I get a better understanding of the topic than I had before I taught it. This is also true in every other aspect of human endeavor. The principle of educating people is immutable.

vi. Everything that limits us we have to put aside.

This idea is straightforward but I find it important to me because before we assume any kind of limitation we had to think it, so in putting aside any every limiting factor has to be concluded in the mind. In addition, there is more comfort in sticking with what we know but putting aside every limiting factor is launching out into the unknown in order to conquer the world. It takes the courageous individuals to put aside their limitations. I used to be fearful about things, but as soon as I realized that my fears has been limiting my accomplishment I decided to break it free form it. It was the mind that fashioned it and it is also the mind that can dispel it.

vii. Determination is what separates the achiever from the under-achiever.

I have come to observe that if one is determined about a particular goal, come what may, whether obstacles, challenges or trials, he has the courage to surmount the insurmountable than the person who is not determined, if one has determination to succeed he will be able to discover things that has been there all along but haven’t been noticed. He will be enthusiastic about new discoveries that will pave way for his success. Before I got into college, I spent almost 2years at home but because I was determined, I persevered and I got into college.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?

Firstly, it has taught me that no matter the limitations foist on me by people or circumstances, if am determined to break free the sky will be my starting point. In addition, since I have come to know and understand this principle I can go ahead to give advice to people whore limited by what society have foist on them and advocate for need to recreate themselves because the world cant wait to see them unleash their the potentials that is lurk within them.

Secondly, continuous practice will be evident in my daily life not only in the area of athletics but also in other vital areas of my life. I have a goal so I will pursue it with studying and getting the necessary knowledge. Right now I am in my final year in college and my goal is to come out in flying colors. When this is achieved I will be a living witness to friends and people around me that diligence pays off.

Thirdly, when people step on my toes I will be able to pardon them because nobody is perfect and the realization that as long as I relate with people, offense becomes inevitable. When people learn to forgive people that have hurt them and just let go the world be less chaotic and becomes a peaceful place live.

Lastly, determination should be my watchword and song in my pursuit of academic excellence and other areas of my life captivating because when one is determined he will be able to surmount the insurmountable. I will become resilient and people around me will acknowledge my resilience and will want to emulate me.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“We choose our next world through what we learn in this one. Learn nothing, and the next world is the same as this one, all the same limitation.”

This quote is particularly because of an adage that says “garbage in garbage out.” I don’t learn anything, there is no way we can develop, because development is as a result of the knowledge and information we have at our disposal. Learning is a liberating exercise, life is all about learning, the more you live the more lessons you learn. When one is not informed the mind becomes deformed and when is not updated, he becomes outdated.

“Break the chains of your thought and you can break the chains of your body too.”

The refusal of the body to take any actions or a leap of faith is as a result of the captivity of the mind and thought. A man’s success or failure is already concluded in his thought. If a man thinks he can achieve a particular objective set for himself, he will definitely achieve it but if a man think otherwise, that will also be his lot. If a man’s thought is free and it is without any barrier or blockade, he can achieve any goal he set for himself because As a man Thinketh, so he is.

“Why is it that the hardest thing in the world is to convince a person that he is free, and that he can do anything he sat for himself only if he would just spend a little time practicing.”

This quote is also appealing because it causes me to ponder the answer to the question above. I believe it is difficult for a person to be convinced that he is free because of the limitation of his thought which might be as result of his circumstances, his environment or the nature of his upbringing. Actually, I am a firsthand witness of this tragedy also. In my college, there are people or course mates’ thinks or have the pre-conceive notion that they don’t have the capacity to understand what has been taught in class, even when I try encouraging a handful of them that are closer to me, that if they open their mind and cultivate the habit of reading they will succeed in their exams. Then I realized that if it is the mindset of such individuals that made it difficult to comprehend. I came to the conclusion that people will be easy to convince that they can achieve whatever they set their hearts to achieve if they can only believe that nothing is impossible.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

Generally speaking, the author has done a very wonderful job in making the details in the book as simple as possible. However, what is mind boggling about the book is the part where the other seagulls from Jonathan specie, especially the elders, refused to acknowledge and come to terms with reality that they can actually fly and conquer space only if they believe and make practice. In relation to humans, I have observed that people who hold animosity against you or who say you can’t achieve a goal, either because of their limiting mind set or whatever circumstances has befell them. They still detest you the more even you have succeeded or achieve that in which they say you can’t. Just thinking out loud.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

Of course, since the book is for personal empowerment and success, directly or indirectly, there are a lot of lessons to be learnt which requires practice and inculcating this values into my daily life. Applying those lessons in my life has been helpful although it is a lifelong process.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

Of course not, the previous question was really encompassing because it covered the gray areas of the book.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 8
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 8

 

 

Keys to Success

Assessment by Lawal Christopher (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The book encapsulates the keys to success which was explained by the 17 principles of personal achievement. Every one of the 17 principles is inter-related to the other, and they are all encompassing principles that are needed to succeed. The master of all the principles is knowing where you are going, which is also known as having a major definite purpose. It is when one’s major purpose is defined that the other success principles begins to fall in place. The author was also emphatic, about building a positive mental attitude because it has to do with thinking right in any given situation either with people or circumstances. The positive mental attitude gives the individual the ability to also learn from defeat and also to become resolute and relentless in the pursuit of his/her goals because whatever the mind can conceive and believe, that it can achieve.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List the seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. Assembling an attractive personality

This idea enable me to relate with people in manner that will leave a lasting impression and also makes people want to be around me. I found out that on my way to success and in other to attain my goal in life, I must learn to relate with people in a manner that is pleasant by applying some of the aspects of my personality such as; having a positive mental attitude, flexibility, courtesy, habit of smiling, to mention a few. I do have issues with my girlfriend in respect to the tone of my voice. She picks offense in what I say especially when I don’t really take cognizance that I have offended her by what I said based on the tone of my voice. After reading this idea, I have been able to adjust and now we get to quarrel less as regards the tone of my voice.

ii. Overcoming disbelief: sometimes, I battle with unbelief especially when it comes to reaching what I have set my mind to achieve.

Ultimately, I overcome some of those unbelief but a times I don’t achieve the goals. This idea was personally appealing because it makes me understood that my mind is the only thing I have complete control over, so I can channel that for my advancement. I also came to believe in the power of infinite intelligence because it is a per-requisite to achievement. I want something, I see myself already in possession of it, I then act to make it a reality.

iii. Replacing fear with hope.

This idea helped me in understanding some underlying facts about fear especially the irrational ones. What I fear will haunt me and at the end day what I fear might probably happen. I have learnt to focus my mind on what I want, instead on dissipating my energy on what I don’t want because keeping my minds on my objectives makes me focused and when backed by applied faith, my dreams comes true. I used to have this fear of lack of finance for my upkeep in college, and most times my fear comes to actualization. However, after shifting my focus to what I want, I get abundance opportunities to make provision for my upkeep.

iv. The rewards of positive mental attitude.

I find this idea interesting, so I make it a business of having a positive mental attitude daily because I have nothing to lose but a whole lot to gain by having a positive mental attitude. So far, I have been able to experience the wisdom to understand myself and others. Also, I have been able to enjoy enduring friendships and peace of mind. I know that as I make PMA a life style, the rewards will be immense.

v. Personal initiative creates opportunity.

This idea has been my watchword and song ever since I read about it. It has affected my life positively. Since personal initiative is taking actions without waiting to be told, it is more or less like going the extra mile. In college, we had an idea about creating a foundation called Youth Alive, where we minister to youth and equip them to face daily challenges and creating a brighter future through positive thinking and actions. After much hesitation, I and a friend took up the initiative to go meet the college management, in other to get permission to go ahead and organize a seminar for the students. It became a success at the end of the day. This has given the foundation the opportunity to reach out to youth who are interested in taking their destiny into their own hands.

vi. The rhythm of life.

This idea reveal to me that nature is orderly and regular and so is the human life. Therefore there is need to balance all aspect of my life so as to be in perfect rhythm with nature. This means to work with play, mental effort with physical effort, seriousness with humor, so as to be effective and efficient. Most times I always try to be happy and cheerful all day, but sometimes, without any specific reason I will see myself being moody and dull. I do feel strange about it like something is wrong with me. However, after going through this idea, I found out that interference with normal rhythm produces so many problems, and if I always seem happy, my happiness would be dull.

vii. Budget your time and money.

This idea is revelational because it gives me a proper understanding of the essence of budgeting time and money, which is one of the principles of personal achievement. It also made me understood how to budget my time and money. With the assistance of the exercise recommended in the book, I have been able to make most of my time and it has also helped me in evaluating my progress towards success.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you create a better world? If so, how?

The ideas explained above will be part of my daily living, because it has in one way or the other helped me in becoming a better person and also keeping me on track towards my goal and my objective in life. It practicability cannot be over-emphasized. I will consistently continue to apply these ideas to my life and also encourage those around me to follow suit, so as to make the world a better place. The ideas such as; assembling an attractive personality, overcoming disbelief, replacing fear with hope, rewards of a positive mental attitude, use of personal initiative to create opportunity, maintaining harmony in the rhythm of life and budgeting time and money, will be imbibed through memorization and application. If I can change myself, the world will be a better place.

4. Quotes: Are there any which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“Going the extra mile makes you indispensable to others.”

This puzzled my mind for a while before I finally grasp its meaning. It reveals the power of doing more than you are being paid to do, or assisting others without expecting anything in return because you derived pleasure from doing it. This then comes with numerous benefit because it gives me an edge over other people.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, that it can achieve.”

I particularly love this quote because it strengthens my faith in the beauty of my goal. It gives me the conviction that nothing is impossible to achieve, if I have set my mind on it backed with actions. It also reveals to me the power of the mind coupled with creative vision and infinite intelligence.

“The worst thing that can happen to you may be the best that can happen to you, if you don’t let it get the best of you.”

This statement enlightens me to the fact that for every crisis there is always an opportunity. Also, that every adversity comes with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit, if I only have a positive mental attitude. I discovered that any challenge I face is a stepping stone or stumbling block to greatness, based on my perception of the situation.

“Defeat is nothing but a signal for greater or more determined effort.”

This statement makes me understand the benefit of separating fact from my opinion. I might suffer defeat but it is always my interpretation or perception of the defeat that becomes a big obstacle to my success and not the defeat in itself. In addition, I also came to the realization that anytime I suffer defeat, am no failure unless I accept the defeat. Defeat itself should make me more determined and unrelenting to achieve my goal because failure is not an option.

“Faith exist only when it is used.”

This statement proved my notion wrong that when you have faith, you can achieve. I now understand better that it is when you have faith and apply it with action that you can achieve because faith without action is void. This inspired me to go all out in achieving my goals with actions because it is applied faith that works.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with, if so, why?

Almost all the ideas in the book are simple and easy to understand. I agree with all the idea in the book because I can relate it to my life.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

Most definitely, the book did contain a lot of exercises that has helped me in evaluating myself and the progress I have made thus far in the quest for personal achievement. It has also helped me to adjust and correct my errors. The exercises have been of tremendous benefit to me. It is a continual process because success is a journey.

7. Was there anything in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

Of course not, the questions asked dealt with the crucial aspect of the book and it was encompassing. The book is a sure book for personal achievement. I have benefited greatly from reading it. IIGL you guys are wonderful for these wonderful inspirational books recommended to better the lives of people globally. It’s a super exciting gesture. I really appreciate you guys. You rock!

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10

 

 

Success through a Positive Mental Attitude

Assessment by Lawal Christopher (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author’s main idea is achieving success through a positive a mental attitude whether it is physical or mental success, moral health, happiness, wealth and any worthwhile goals that does not violate the laws of God and the rights of your fellow man. Also, the author’s emphasizes the power of applying the 17 principles in daily living which will serve a guide in one’s attainment of success. Positive mental attitude was stressed throughout the book because according to the author’s, it is the first principle to success. This means getting one’s head straight from the inside because man is a mind with a body. Positive mental attitude is the right mental attitude in a given situation, this gives the individual an edge to be successful unlike the negative mental attitude which is the reverse of the positive mental attitude.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List the seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. Having a magnificent obsession

This idea was appealing was appealing to me because it inspired me to start having thoughts that are bigger than me. In the sense that, I started to have obsession about reaching out an impacting in the lives of others. A non-governmental organization called Youth Alive, of which am a member is the platform I have been able to use to reach out to my fellow colleagues in school and also other youth within my environs.

ii. Getting satisfaction in one’s job

I found this idea particularly captivating because it is something that I want to achieve as a person. Although I haven’t started working per say, but will be soon. Since am in college at the moment, I will still apply this idea. I found out that to get satisfaction in what am doing, I must love what I do and it must also come naturally. However, in a situation whereby I have to get engage in something I don’t particularly find interesting, in order to raise finances for my ultimate goal, I can still find satisfaction by applying a positive mental attitude towards anything that I do. At the end of the day, it could be fun and satisfactory.

iii. The secret of getting things done

This idea blew my mind when I first read about it and the thought of it still does. I have been a victim of procrastination but as I read through this idea, I was able to adjust, and also have the impetus of getting this done in spite of the situation at that moment, because there is a lot to be gain and nothing to lose. The ‘do it now’ self-motivator has always been my guide, as it helps me plan my schedule for the day and enables me to go all out to achieve my target for that day.

iv. Meeting problems with positive mental attitude

I find this idea captivating as it has helped me to understand how to confront problems which are inevitable in daily living, because life itself is a series of problems and my attitudes towards it, is what determines the outcome. This idea has also taught me how to figure out an opportunity in any challenge whatsoever using positive mental attitude. It is only positive mental attitude that releases the genius in me which is able to see opportunity in a given problem.

v. Develop inspirational dissatisfaction

This idea is similar to the previous idea above but deep-rooted as regards exhibiting the virtue of faith and hope. This idea was most amazing to me especially, when I saw the word ‘inspirational dissatisfaction’. It was when i read about it that I got to understand the message of the idea. In my daily living, there are times when I almost get frustrated because of rejection of my offer and request. For example, when my organization members and I go to solicit for funds, we get turn down sometimes and that could be very discouraging, but reading this book has thrown a new light on the discouragement. The last time I went to solicit for funds to execute one of our projects, I was turned turn but I wasn’t discouraged, few days after, I went back and after the discussion I was able to convince the individual to support out project. Thanks to the authors’ idea on inspirational dissatisfaction.

vi. Have a self-motivator that will inspire you

This idea also taught me how to use the power of my positive mental attitude that seeps down from my conscious to my sub-conscious. As a result of this idea, I have been able to make use of some of the self-motivators in this book and am glad to say, that it has been working for me. Every morning before I get out of bed, I say ‘I know every day in every way, by the grace of God am getting better’, and doing the day also I repeat the self-motivator ‘I feel healthy, I feel happy, I feel terrific’. All these self-motivators makes me feel better and inspired. Every morning I do go for physical training but a times, I do get lazy to get out of bed, so when my alarm beeps I just dismiss it. After reading this, I now get over the lazy feeling by saying to myself ‘do it now’. This spurs me to get up and go for my morning shake up.

vii. Exploring the power of the mind

This idea is so fascinating to me because it makes me understand that mind is my greatest asset, that houses unlimited power both known and unknown, which if explored properly can set me on the road to achievement and success. I learnt through this idea to always communicate with my mind through conscious auto-suggestions of what I want to achieve, until I can see myself already attaining my goals. As I see myself solving the needs of others and making the world a better place starting from my environment. I communicate this every day to my sub-conscious mind and I see myself already doing that. Through my sub-conscious, I have been able to program and plan in the attainment of my goals.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you create a better world? If so, how?

These ideas will help in numerous of way to improve on myself and also help make the world a better place. Having a magnificent obsession to help others will enable me to be sensitive to the plight of people around me and it will also prevent me from being self-centered, this will enable me share what I have with others, thereby making other people happy.

Also, getting satisfaction in what I do will enable me go all out to make sure I give in all my best to see to the realization of my goal. I will also teach people how to get satisfaction in what they do, so that they can live a fulfilled life and impact the world in their own way. In addition, since time waits for nobody, I will see that I get things done as quickly as possible and avoid wasting precious time. I will also encourage people to avoid ‘African time’ a phrase which I think is one of the cause of lateness to important meeting in the continent. Anything I have to do, I have got to do it now.

Furthermore, when faced with difficulty or challenges, I will be sure to make use of positive mental attitude, which will help me get my head straight and my thinking right in other to enable me assess the situation and come up with a feasible solution. Also, I will not give up easily on what can be changed, in terms of opportunities and I will also develop inspirational dissatisfaction until I realize and attain my goals.

Lastly, I will continue to develop self-motivation that will inspire and motivate me in my daily living and as I strive to achieve my goals in life. I will also explore the power of my mind by communicating words that are full of faith and hope in other to spur my sub-conscious mind to action. I will make the world a better a place by recommending this book to all and sundry.

4. Quotes: Are there any which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“The more you share, the more you will have.”

This quote reveals to me the hidden truth and principle of success. It made me understand that for you to succeed, you must be selfless and you must look out for others. According to the authors’, what you share will increase but what you fail to share will diminish. This revealed to me the beautiful irony of life.

“Age is not a question of years, it is a state of mind.”

This quote also opened my mind to the saying that create a need for more life because when you have a goal or something to look forward to, you live longer. Now I know that, am as young as my faith and that no matter my age, if I want to achieve something and I have faith, it can be done.

“Thought is the foundation upon which all else is built by man.”

This quote reminded me of James Allen’s book As a man Thinketh, which he emphasizes that we are a definition of our thought. It also brought to my knowledge that what I am today and who I am, is as a result of my thought and what I will be tomorrow is still contingent on my thought. This gave me a wakeup call to get my thinking straight in the light of PMA and not NMA.

“A positive mental attitude and definiteness of purpose is the starting point towards all worthwhile achievement”: this quote captivated me and it is also self-explanatory. I was able to come to the understanding that for me to attain any worthwhile goal, I have to juxtapose a positive mental attitude and a definite goal so as to break grounds and conquer.

“Character is the corner stone in building and maintaining success.”

This quote is revelational, as it exposed me to the great secret of achieving and maintaining success, which is character. It also helped me grasp the fact that a good character that exhibit honesty, love, faith, hope and integrity is definitely on its way to self-fulfillment. So, I have made it a point of duty to have a character that exhibits all these virtues. So am convinced that am on my way to success.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with, if so, why?

Everything in the book was clear and precise. I can confidently say that I got the main idea of the book. It is a mind-blowing piece.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

The book did contain a lot of exercises and I was able to complete a handful of them. They were immensely helpful. The book will serve as a guide on my journey through life.

7. Was there anything in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

Not really, I just want to say that the book is a real guide to successful living and it is also motivating and inspiring. The ideas of the authors’ are pretty mind-blowing and heart-searching. I love this book. The authors’ did an amazing job.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10

 

 

The New Psycho-Cybernetics

Assessment by Lawal Christopher Nigeria

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author tries to bring to my understanding the rediscovering and realization of one’s self. In other words, the search for truth about oneself, in terms of one’s true potential, one’s true personality, one’s true desires, one’s true aspirations, one’s true talents and abilities and one’s true character.

Also, the essence of psycho-cybernetics which the author was trying to convey is the accurate, calm, and ultimately automatic separation of fact from fiction, fact from opinion, actual circumstances from obstacle, so that our actions and reactions are solidly based on truth and not based on our own or others opinions. In addition, the author was also emphatic on improving one’s self-image and self-esteem because they are the core by which all actions, thoughts, and our responses conform.

Furthermore, the author also talked about self-expression that is the ability to show-case, exhibit and display one’s talents, skills, and abilities in unlocking one’s true personality. This means turning on our lights and letting it shine so as to live life to the fullest and achieve the maximum.

The author also explains that human-beings are goal-oriented in nature, which means that we have got a servo-mechanism within us that is always striving to achieve a goal. This goal is dependent on the conscious thought of the individual. If the goal has been set, the author argues that there is no need to worry about the processes and the manner in which the goal is going to come about. The automatic success mechanism will unconsciously take care of the processes, and there will be a correction course in the form of a feedback mechanism that helps the individual in the actualization of his/her goal. Thus, the process takes a zig-zag pattern in the attainment of a particular objective.

Lastly, the author also emphasize on the power of imagination which he referred to as the theatre of the mind. This theatre of the mind helps in creating a particular situation in our imagination of what we expect to see happen in the actual sense. This mental imaging according to the author helps us to get a winning feeling before the actual feeling of winning in attainment of a goal or objective. This mental imaging can also assist one in bringing back a situation of past success and the feeling of that moment, which serve as an impetus and confidence in the believe that if he/she has succeeded previously, that means it can be done again (de juvu effect).

Generally speaking, the book on psycho-cybernetics entails the author’s ideas on how an individual can personally develop himself using the psycho-cybernetics techniques and principles, such as; analyzing your self-image, pruning erroneous programming imbedded in your self-image, using your imagination to reprogram and manage your self-image and effectively using your imagination to communicate with your servo-mechanism, so that it acts as an automatic success mechanism. To simply put, psycho-cybernetics is a communication system for effectively communicating with yourself.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. Your opinion matters most of all

This idea was personally captivating in a world where we get worried and excessively concerned about people’s opinion about us. There is a saying that “the deepest craving of man is the need to be appreciated”. However, there are some people that will never see anything good in what you are about to embark on, instead it is the question of; Are you sure can do it? Will this idea work out? Just drop that thought, it is not going to work.

I have found out that you cannot avoid people’s opinion about you but the ultimate opinion and reputation is the one we acquire for ourselves based on our self-esteem. It is our opinion about ourselves that really matters and counts after all. In my college, am one of the best student in my department, so most times when I stand up to ask or answer question in class, some of my colleagues often call me a braggart and that am out to intimidate them. Before now I had always felt bad about it based on the acceptance of their opinions, but after reading this idea in this book, I soon realize that it is not my intention to intimidate anybody or prove that I am better than them. It is just a way of expressing myself to the best of my abilities, not minding what my colleagues think of my innocuous actions and gestures.

ii. Don’t take things so personally

This idea is so appealing to me that I had to spend hours going over this idea time and again. In all honesty, I am used to not taking things so personally because taking things personally gives the other person the opportunity to make you feel miserable as a result of your permission. This idea has made me more self-reliant in my interaction with other people. As a result of one’s unavoidable interaction with people, the hurt of one’s feelings becomes inevitable. However, it is the way and manner we respond to it that makes all the difference. As a self-reliant person, I have learnt to let insignificant issues or comment pass, which would have otherwise provoked me. My antidote is telling myself that I have more pressing issues to deal with, than to let some insignificant comment or action of other people piss me off. The saying “that nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission” also works for me.

iii. Be willing to see the truth

The willingness to see the truth is another striking idea that is important to me in the cause of reading psycho-cybernetics. It is as a result of the fact that many a times I tend to shy away from the reality of a situation or try kidding myself by having a mental picture of who I am which is not truly in resonance with who I am in the actual sense. This idea has helped me put aside that notion because it is not an attitude typical of a success type-personality. I have come to acknowledge the truth about any situation because it gives me a leverage to respond appropriately to it. Also, I have come to the understanding that am not a perfect being however; I am unique in my own way. Therefore, I take responsibilities for my mistakes, learn from them, set them aside and move forward because now I know that am not my mistakes.

iv. Happiness lies in the present, not in the future

This idea is really mind-blowing. I was also delighted in discovering this truth about happiness. That happiness is a mental state of mind in which you have pleasant thought a good share of the time, which is not dependent on solving some external problem or in anticipating the occurrence of future events like getting married, getting a better job, or getting into college. Before I got into college, I used to be unhappy because I had not been able to secure admission into college. I do think that, I will be happy when I get into college, but as soon as I got into college, there was the issue of payment of my school fees and other expenses. That also made me unhappy. However, having digested this idea, I now realize that happiness is a state of mind and attitude which if it is not learned or practiced in the present, it can never be experienced. And also, that happiness cannot be made dependent on solving external problems because life is a series of problems, when one problem is solved, another problem arises. So taking the advice of the author, if I am to be happy at all, I must be happy period! Not happy because of some external conditions.

v. The pursuit of happiness is not selfish

The idea is also captivating to me because it has succeeded in refuting the pre-conceived notion I had about happiness, in the sense that I do think of being selfish when am happy especially when those around me are unhappy. I do feel that I am being unfair and selfish in expressing my happiness by being cheerful while those around me are unhappy and gloomy. However, as I read this part of psycho-cybernetics on happiness as not being selfish, I come to the realization that one of the pleasant thought to any human being is the thought that he is needed and important enough to help and add to the happiness of the people. I also came to the understanding that happiness is not a moral issue or something we earn as a reward for being unselfish or unhappy. Therefore, the best way to help the unhappy is not by being one of them but by being happy.

vi. Try to do only one thing at a time

I particularly find this idea of the author interesting. Most people are guilty of doing many things at a time of which am inclusive. Many a time I am involved in what the author called multi-tasking, that is trying to do so many things at the same time. For instance, when I read academic materials which are particularly boring and bulky, I practice multi-tasking unconsciously, instead of focusing on what am reading at that particular moment and get the idea, I begin to think at the back of mind, the number of pages remaining or start thinking of the other activities I have to do. Reading this book has thrown a new light in the way and manner to go about things based on the truth that we can only do one thing at a time. This realization enables me to be relaxed, without any feeling of hurry and anxiety which makes me concentrate and think at my best.

vii. Create a need for more life

I find this idea particularly interesting in spite of the fact that am still in my prime and have not achieve much in terms of substantial goals. This idea is going to motivate me in looking forward towards reaching my targets and goals in life. Since I now know that my servo-mechanism is goal-oriented and the only way to create more life is to anticipate and look forward to the future because you have a goal to live for and to look forward to. Based on this idea, I now know that the secret to create a need for more life is based on positive expectations and engagement.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?

Firstly, knowing the fact that my opinion matters most will serve as a guide my in daily interactions with people and not taking things so personally when I hear a derogatory remark or an action capable of hurting my feelings. Also, since I know that am not my mistakes, I only learn from it, put it aside and move on. I will make it a point of duty to be willing to see the truth about myself and about any situation I encounter, this will enable me respond and react appropriately. In addition, this will also affect my interaction with people positively and I can help people understand this fact by explaining to them. However, my actions will speak louder.

Furthermore, the fact that happiness lies in the present and not in the future will motivate me in staying happy a pleasant share of the time and my happiness will not be dependent on external conditions. I will also explain this to those around me, which will enable them also live a fulfilling life. This can be done through a foundation called Youth Alive Foundation of which I am an active member. We are building future leaders through self-development and empowering youth on how to face challenges confronting us daily.

Since I now know and understand that the pursuit of happiness is not selfish, I will not make a moral issue of happiness and help those around me that are not happy because my happiness will become infectious, so those unhappy will be infected with happiness. This will make the world a better place. Also, in trying to do one thing at a time, I will make it a point of duty to focus and concentrate on doing one thing at a time, so as be efficient and effective. And I will also encourage my colleagues, friends and family around to follow the same pattern which will help them perform better without any frustration and anxiety accompanied by multi-tasking.

Lastly, the need for more life will inspire me towards being goal-oriented and always making me expectant and engaged, looking forward to the future and living for tomorrow is a result of the goal I have set, that is yet to be achieved. As I abide by the psycho-cybernetic techniques, I will become outstanding in my area of expertise. Thus, people will become curious and will want to find out the secret for my success. I will encourage those around me to read this book and practice the exercises instructed in the book.

4. Quotes: are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“Inferiority and superiority are reverse sides of the same coin.”

This quote is quite important to me because it has helped me in understanding that being inferior or being superior is not real but a pigment of a fake imagination. And that nobody is inferior or superior, that am simply me, a unique and one of a kind. This has really boosted my self-esteem and I now have a strong and healthy ego.

“Ideas are not change by will but by other ideas.”

This quote by the author has also made me come to the understanding that will-power does not hold much water when it comes to ideas which have been deep-rooted, as a result of one’s self-image. And that the only way is to have a change of ideas which comes from questioning the authenticity of the previous ideas and confirming how painfully wrong and untrue the ideas have been.

“A chief cause of unhappiness is taking things personally that are not personal at all.”

This quote is important to me because, there is many a time that I get frustrated from situations or events that are impersonal. For instance, if I the sun is so scorching and I am walking under it, I tend to get angry with the heat which is being expressed facially by frowning. However, as soon as I read this book, I found out that taking things personally that are not personal at all doesn’t change the situation of things but just shows me at my worst, which is unnecessary and illogical. I have learned to make the most of every moment no matter how unpleasant it seem.

“Many a times we create confusion when we add our opinion to facts and come up with the wrong conclusion.”

This quote also inspires me because I have fallen easy prey and victim to this mistake. The author makes me understand that fact and opinion are two different things and that the confusion and anxiety created is as a result of interpreting a situation with our opinion and making a wrong conclusion. As a result of the author’s elucidation on this particular subject matter, I have been able to discern a fact from opinion and not fall victim of making wrong conclusion based on adding my opinion to a situation that is unpleasant.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

From all indication, I think I understood Psycho-Cybernetics from start to finish and I also went along with the flow of the book. The book is mind-blowing and self-revealing. There are some exercises in the book that are seemingly funny but have worked for people who had made use of it. So I can also create a mental imaging of what will work for me as far as relaxation is concerned for instance.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

Of course, the book did contain a lot of exercises and prescriptions. Psycho-cybernetics is a life-long book and the exercises are continuous. I have been able to put some of the exercises into practice and I find them very helpful in making me a better person.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

Not necessarily, everything I think should be commented on has been covered in the questions.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the content? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9

 

 

Real Magic

Assessment by Christopher Lawal (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author in his book real magic tried to make us understand the divinity of the human mind with the immeasurable power that is attached to it. He tried to expose the undisputable truth about the power of the mind and our opportunity to create real magic if only we could suspend our unbelief and doubt, and go within to harness the boundless and infinite intelligence within us. In addition, the author didn’t mince words when he said everything was possible if we can conceive and believe it because our mind has no barrier and that the universe is within us. In summary, it is all about creating miracles in our everyday lives because we have got what it takes within us. It is all about believing.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally important to you and why? List the seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you.

i. Recognize that there is an invisible life force within you.

This idea cannot be over-emphasized. The very understanding that there is an infinite intelligence within me that I can actually harness to work with me in any situation is an awesome enlightenment. It is in the light of this belief and understanding that I have been able to free myself of some needless besetting thoughts and stress. I can proudly say that I am now a student who is ready because my life is now about reaching out to people, serving and giving in my own little way and still expanding.

ii. Know your thoughts originate within you.

This idea has practically helped me in coming to terms with the facts that I am in control of my physical experiences through the position and direction of my thought. In addition, I can now profess that I have the capacity and capabilities to attain anything that I set for myself because the universe and all that is required is within me and it permeates all over my body. As a result of that, I have been able to improve my condition in terms of health, harmony of the body and mind amongst others.

iii. Realize that there is no limit.

Interestingly, this idea has given me an improved turn around in my life. I now trust and know that there are no boundaries to my experiencing real magic in form of miracles in my day-to-day living. I now know better than to react with hate to someone showing me hatred, I now know better than to say that there are so many life challenges that cannot be surmounted. I can now experience the beautiful harmony and peace of mind which is as a result of living my life on purpose which is rooted in my perception change and mind redirection.

iv. Know that your life has a purpose

The very thought of this idea does it all. Since nature is order and regular and all things are in the universe for a reason. It is only logical to believe that my advent on earth is not coincidence or a fluke. It is this enlightenment that I carry about within me that I was made to serve, love and to give because that is the basic essence of life. I now value my physical being that houses my soul. As a result of this, I sense a harmony between myself and every living being habituating this planet.

v. Overcome your weakness by leaving it behind

I was wowed by this principle. Although it seems easier said than done initially, but having processed this principle by the author about creating miracles by focusing on the things you need, I have succeeded in creating a miracle. I have realigned myself with my spiritual side with no limit by trusting in the infinite intelligence within me. I am now living the life I imagined, no worries, no stress, no hate, and no depression. I am just in harmony with my physical body and the world in general. What a wonderful feeling!

vi. Examine what you believe to be impossible and then change your beliefs.

The idea of possibility just reaffirms and reasserts the belief that I already have that whatsoever I can conceive, if I believe it then I can achieve. This very believe in possibility have paved new frontiers for me in my daily interaction with people and my perception about the situation in my country.

vii. Go beyond logic

This idea principally caught my attention and fixed me in a pensive mood while trying to take in the potency of the idea. Life itself is all about magic and miracles. Trying to process everything with my senses and evidences has proved abortive. This principle make me come to the conclusion that our very thought emerges from nothingness and it becomes physically manifested and able to create super terrific miracles. Believing in the super natural abilities of my mind has positioned me in places I never imagined.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you create a better world? If so, how?

Firstly, an individual that wants to make impact in my world by reaching out to people, I have come to the understanding that there is an infinite intelligence within me, and if I am able to channel that, in my personal living and my interaction with others, so many individuals around me will see the transformation and I will also help them understand that this divine force flows in all living things. In that moment, we have succeeded in making the world a better place.

Secondly, the fact that I am able to create my physical experiences as a result of my thoughts and intention will make me, come up with thought, changing situations and circumstances for the best, in spite of what seem impossible. The mind which is boundless and limitless will also help me in the physical sense, reach out to others out there and I will be able to sensitize them that their circumstances is not unconnected with what goes on within them. I will continue to live my life on purpose without expecting any outcome because that is my purpose for being on earth.

Lastly, the idea of overcoming weaknesses by leaving them behind will assist me to channel my energy on what I want to achieve and not the challenges confronting me at any given moment, because now I know that I cannot get enough of what I do not want. I will live out these ideas and adhere to it principles religiously in my relation with other people. I will also preach it because I am a living witness of it efficacy and potency.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“You see what you believe.”

This quote is revealing in the sense that it makes me trust in the infinite intelligence for miracle. Keying into this quote by the author has given my life a new dimension, because as a result of the surrounding thoughts from within, then I see situations working out in my favor as I have visualized them.

“Anything that has been accomplished by any other human being is within the field of possibility.”

The burning desire to make a difference in life by serving and loving everything in the universe is a daunting challenge. Howbeit, this quote has rekindled my resolve in the sense that it helped me get to the understanding that I can achieve whatever I set my mind on because its mind and resilience over everything.

“You can never get enough of what you do not want.”

At the periphery of this idea, it can be said to be mind boggling, however, when I read further and got the breaking down and insights of what the author was trying to communicate, it all made the difference. I now know better that if I want to do away with whatever it is in my life, I should not waste energy and time focusing on what I do not want, instead I should channel my intention on what I would love to see happening in my life.

“Solitude can become your most meaningful companion.”

There is now an understanding that setting yourself apart for meditation and spending time communicating with the life force within can make all the difference because that it where the power that sits in the center and knows reside and everything physically manifested has its origin from within. I have been able to find unprecedented bliss, by putting to practice this principle.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there any ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

So far, so good, the ideas of the author was straight to the point, and even those ideas that I wasn’t sure about has been clarified in the superseding pages of the book.

6. Did the book contain exercises for reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

Of course, there were some practical exercises contain in achieving real magic. I am still in the process of practicing them and so far, the difference has been obvious in my life.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

No comment.

Please rate the following questions in a scale of 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 9
B. How helpful were the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9

 

 

The New Dynamics of Winning

Assessment by Christopher Lawal (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author in his book attempts to expose us to the life of a champion, which is taking the first step of action in the mind, because according to the author “it is mind over everything.” He also emphasized the drive to succeed and going all out to ensure that the commitment and sacrifice needed is paid. After that, one must believe that he/she is a winner and must have integrity that is saying what you mean and meaning what you say by doing it.

The author also expatiated on the visualization of victory that is seeing your goal actualized in your mind’s eye before it becomes real because believing leads to achieving. Also, as a result of visualizing, there is self-confidence which emanates from the positive self-talks and affirmation which is used to transform self and situations by expecting the best, planning for the worst and preparing for a surprise. All these are achieved through mental toughness. Lastly, after all is said and done, the individual become successful and exhibits the quality of leadership which enables him/her empower others to succeed.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. Be true to yourself.

This idea was appealing because it speaks volume on the originality and the importance of self in terms of my knowledge, my ability, my talents, my aspirations, my attitude and composure which creates limitless opportunity. For example, I was to give some younger students tutorials on a particular subjects and I know can teach that particular subject, by admitting I can got me the slot to take those students with all its benefits.

ii. Make each day your master piece

The principle contained in this idea has taught me to make the most of everyday because when I make each day my best, then there will be no room for regrets over what I didn’t do or fail to achieve in the previous day. This therefore gives me a sense of purpose and the mind-set of a champion. After having completed my undergraduate programme, I teach in a school at the moment and I endeavor to give my best by imparting knowledge. This itself makes every day worthwhile.

iii. Help others

Champions or “want to be” champion make it a duty to reach out to others and assist them in any area possible. These ideas is not new but it stills sends a message that I should help others because what I do for people will be recompensed to me in multiple folds. Apart from that it makes me happy and excited whenever I am able to render assistance to someone that needs it which in turn also boots my self-esteem.

iv. Read good books

The benefits of this idea to me cannot be over-emphasized because there is a saying that the secret of the world is hidden in a book. I love reading good books especially motivational and inspirational ones. This idea definitely increased my desire and hunger for reading more good books. I must say that what I am today and my level of thinking is thanks to the good books I have read that has helped re-shape my thoughts which ultimately have affected my actions.

v. Make friendships a fine art

This idea by author uncovers some many issues and topics about friendship. Nobody is an island and every successful people are made as a result of the people around them. In the light of the foregoing, I have made some friends of late who are capable of influencing and challenging me to greater height and also same to them.

vi. Build a shelter against raining day

This idea was striking to me as it helps me come to terms with the fact that I have to expect the unexpected. That is, expect the best, plan for the worst and prepare for a surprise. As a result of this idea, I have been schooling myself mentally to build shelter against rainy days.

vii. Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day.

This idea cannot be taken lightly as it exposes me to the teachings and doctrines of my faith. Before I embark on any project or activities, I pray for guidance and also make it a point of call to also appreciate God for the blessings am given every single day, because when I thank God for what he has done and given me, he is motivated to increase my blessings.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you create a better world? If so, how?

First, learning to be true to myself will help me strive to achieve the best I can by my own standard and working to improve myself without necessarily competing with others, thus making the world less antagonistic and conflicting.

Secondly, the idea of making each day a master piece has also help me make the most of my day by doing my very best like it is my last day on earth. This has also made me aware of the fact that what I do daily is what either make me or mar me , and by giving my best , I am also impacting lives my adding value.

Furthermore, helping others has become my second nature because I am a firm believer in the saying that “give people what they want and you will get what you are looking for in return”. This has motivated me to assist people in need within my power and thereby creating a better world where love is supreme.

Also, reading good books has also helped me immensely to understand people and it has given insights to some things that I would not have known had I not read them. It has widen my horizon and made me also view the world from a wider perspective. In addition, this has further helped me to sensitize and influence people around me positively.

Finally, the idea of connecting with people, that is looking out for each other makes the world a better place. Also, building a shelter against rainy days has enabled me to expect the best, plan for the worst and prepare for a surprise. In addition, praying for guidance and given thanks for my blessings every day has indeed added colour to my life because I am certain that my going out and coming in is directed my God, so I would not venture into any activity that is not in alignment with my principles and values thereby making the world a little safer and coordinated than it is.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you?

“Losers let it happen, winners makes it happen.”

This quote got my interest because it is a clarion call to be pro-active instead of being passive and at the receiving end of things. It is a challenge to innovation, creativity, exploration and service. It is a wakeup call for me to launch out in the direction of my goal instead of waiting for a change of fortune without any input; it is a real eye opener!

“It is not who you are not that holds you back but who you think you are not.”

This quote is another challenge for me to discard any excuse concerning my weakness or failures and focus all my strength by utilizing it optimally. Instead of me sulking and sobbing on what I don’t have, I should launch out with the resources I have to conquer my world through the mindset of a champion.

“Get comfortable with the unfamiliar.”

The level of understanding this quote poses is incredible. It made come to the realization that there is more to life than my comfort zone. It also dawn on me that I cannot achieve much within my comfort zone unless I launch out into the unknown with all the risks, and still maintain a positive mental attitude that I can conquer because I am a champion. This quote has inspired me to do things I would otherwise not have, I now have a choice of changing my routines form rigid to flexible. Such a wonderful experience because I now explore life from a whole new dimension.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there areas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

The author’s ideas and messages were explicit and clear.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

The book indeed contained a 21-day plan for the benefit of the reader to practice, that is setting goals and making efforts to realize them through some laid down guide. It was indeed helpful and interesting.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment

The previous questions has covered the grey areas of the book, it was encompassing.

Please rate the following question on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor

A. How interesting was it to read? 9
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 8
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 8

 

 

Giant Steps

Assessment by Lawal Christopher (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

Generally speaking, the author was projecting making small changes to attain a big difference in every area of life, ranging from personal development, setting of goals, relationships to behavioral change to mention a few. Giant steps basically was advocating for a paradigm shift in our pattern of thinking, behavior and even our actions and emotions. In addition, the author was of the opinion that taking a step with a leap of faith can make all the difference because the thinking and actions that brought me to where I am cannot take me to where I am going.

2. What are the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal example from your own life.

I. Just know that all decisions have consequences. Even making no decisions at all is a decisions in its own way II. We must commit to learning from our mistakes instead of agonizing over them III. Live with an attitude of gratitude IV. We must take personal responsibility for our change V. Know that we can condition any behavior if we do it with enough repetition and emotional intensity VI. Just because you do not see immediate results, doesn’t mean you are not making progress VII. If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself.

i. Just know that all decisions have consequences. Even making no decisions at all is a decisions in its own way.

Life is all about making choice. I realized that my life as it is presently is the quality of the decisions that I have made overtime, and how it is going to be tomorrow will also be contingent upon the decision I make today. I have also learnt that indecision is also a decision thus, I making choices either way whether I am aware of it or not.

ii. We must commit to learning from our mistakes instead of agonizing over them This idea is a master piece as it creates a deviating from the norm pattern. I used to agonize over my mistake, beat myself up but as I came to the understanding and realization that I am a work in progress, I now look out for the lesson to be learnt from my mistakes and move forward.

iii. Live with an attitude of gratitude

Personally, I have cultivated an attitude of appreciation and giving thanks for my life, everybody and things surrounding me. This idea just served as a reminder and consolidation to what I already know and put into practice. An attitude of gratitude for me makes me see situations as challenges to be surmounted to become a better and refined me for the task ahead.

iv. We must take personal responsibility for our change.

Ruminating on this idea got me thinking about the ancient Zen proverb which says “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” There is an understanding that nobody can make me behave or do certain things without my permission. Rediscovering myself and being who I should and want is my sole responsibility.

v. Know that we can condition any behavior if we do it with enough repetition and emotional intensity.

This idea strikes a chord in me as it got me thinking on the power of repetition. It dawn on me that anything is possible with consistency. Overtime, I have been struggling with negative thoughts that more often than not weaken me. This idea made me believe I have the control of my mind and with consistent repetition, it can be conditioned overtime.

vi. Just because you don’t see immediate results, doesn’t mean you are not making progress.

In world, where we are more concerned with results, it got me thinking for a while how progress could not be obvious. I pondered on this for a while, and then it stuck me that as long as I am moving in the right direction of my goal in my bid to change the pattern of my thinking, behavior and action, I am making progress, it is all a matter of perception. Mind over everything.

vii. If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself.

Looking at this idea from the superficial angle can be confounding; however, I have been privilege to get an insight that has left me with an indescribable feeling. Anything whatsoever that I would like to change start from me, as a result of this I have started working on improving myself because I know for a fact that I can only give what I have.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in practical way both in your daily personal life and in helping you create a better world? If so, how?

Firstly, knowing that all decisions and indecisions have consequences, this will prompt me to be decisive in any situation I find myself and ensure that the pros and cons of every decision are weighed before launching out. Living by example will also enable me reach out to family and friend, to ensure they take responsibility for their lives.

Secondly, the idea of learning from my mistakes instead of agonizing over them will ensure that I become conscious in any situation and learn from my mistake in a bid to redefine myself and become a better person thereby impacting the world positively.

Thirdly, the lesson of gratitude has changed my orientation, as it has given me a new perspective on the significance I place on challenges and problems. When faced with challenges, instead of sulking over it, I will exhibit feeling of gratitude for the blessing that has been bestowed on me and see how I can make the most of the situation.

Lastly, I am super convinced that whatever I want to become and whatever I want to see in others and by extension the world, starts with me. I have also come to realize that nobody can change or influence me if a part of me doesn’t want to be. I am an extension of the world, we change ourselves, we change the world.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you?

“If you don’t like the way you are feeling, either change your focus, perception or what you are doing.”

“First we make our habits, then our habits make us.”

“The only true security in life comes from knowing that every single day, you are improving yourself in some way.”

“If you don’t like the way you are feeling, either change your focus, perception or what you are doing.”

This quote captivated my being as it strikes a chord at the core of my emotion. There are times when I just don’t enjoy the way I feel and sometimes I am left with no clue of what to do. I am grateful that alternatives and solutions to changing the way I feel in embedded in this quote.

“First we make our habits, then our habits makes us.”

Another brilliant quote that wowed me! In making my habits, I have to be wary of having a bad habit because in the long run, it is going to affect me and it might determine the quality of my life.

“The only true security in life comes from knowing that every single day, you are improving yourself in some way.”

This quote places emphasis on continuous personal development and self-improvement which is the true test of quality life. It has enable me strive to become a better person than I was the previous day in every area of my life.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

The ideas of the author were well communicated and articulated.

6. Did the book contain exercises for reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercise and did you find them helpful?

I am still working on making sure every idea in the book is practiced to enable me benefit optimally from the book.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

The questions above were encompassing.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10

 

 

How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age

Assessment by Lawal Christopher (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author in his book was basically trying to explicate the steps and methods to be internalized in one’s bid to influence other people and make friends in this contemporary time. He succinctly stated that despite the fact that the digital age has opened a lot of avenues and opportunities for individual to transact business that we are still supposed to focus on the business of humanity. It is our inter-dependence and interaction that makes us find a common ground where business activities will thrive. Furthermore, the author was more concerned about impacting on the lives of others at whatever relational level because according to the author, “there is no neutral exchange, you leave a person a little better or a little worse.”

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. There is no such thing as a neutral exchange.

I am still dwelling in the finesse of this idea which states that there is no neutral exchange in a communication or interaction between people. I was enlighten to always make it an obligation and a point of call to always leave people better in a dialogue, because in a world where we care less about people’s feelings, this very principle as a matter of fact stands out. I have a choice to leave a person a little better or worse. I tangle with the former and the result has been magical!

ii. To influence others to act, you must first connect to a core desires within them.

This idea has been insightful. It reveals that the power of influence lies in connecting with people, it is not about being manipulative, but about being authentic, able to build trust, being considerate and engaging in dialogue. I have applied this principle in my interaction with others. I try as much as possible to make the dialogue mutual and appeal to the desire of the other person. This has given me meaningful friends in less time than I can imagine.

iii. Wherever you are be all there

Amazingly, this idea got me thinking about undivided attention and full-fledged presence. In a digital age where I want to be heard, even in face to face conversation, I have been able to suppress my self-centered attitude and this has given me the opportunity to listen attentively to what people around me have to say as long as it is worthwhile. I have noticed that giving rapt attention to what somebody has to say create a wonderful connect, when I finally get the opportunity to respond.

iv. Physical proximity is not the main issue, relational proximity is.

I have come to understand in depth as a result of going through this book that even if physical proximity creates a level of connect, it cannot be compared to the greater extent when combined with relational proximity. This is in terms of how well I am able to influence people and create a connection because ultimately that is what counts.

v. Always begin on a positive note

The effect of this idea is incredible; I guess the simplicity of the words makes it easier said than done. I have resolved that in my interaction with people, no matter how bad a situation is, I will always begin on a positive note before bringing up the unpleasant version of the incident however, in a manner that will not demoralize the receiver of the message. In the class I tutor, even when students perform below par, I encourage them by emphasizing the potentials they have that have remained untapped.

vi. Reign with names

It is hilarious writing this as one main idea that got to me. That said the impact has been of significant value. Personally, I am not used to remembering names of people I meet, most times I forget names of people and this hasn’t gone well with me even before stumbling on to this idea by the author. Internalizing the principles of this idea has given me a whole new understanding of the innumerable benefits of not forgetting the names of people because people have a feel of value when you remember their names.

vii. Give others a fine reputation to live up to.

Every individual has a prospect for development of the inherent abilities deposited within them. As a result of this understanding, I have learnt to always relate and treat people the way they ought to be treated and not as they are. Reaching out to the giant in people breaks the barriers and brings them out at their best. I have been able to implement this idea time and time again. The results have been profoundly impressive. It is all about making people better than they taught they should be.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you create a better world? If so, how?

In the quest to win friends and influence people, I will ensure that those I interact with daily will always be better off after our conversation because I know better than to say interaction is a neutral exchange. Also, in reaching out to people and impacting their lives, I will endeavor to connect to core desire within them, this will be made possible by asking questions which will enable us to connect and have a mutual ground for collaboration. Furthermore, I will ensure that in my interaction, conversation and dialogue with others that I register my presence without been distracted. This will enable me gain their trust and together we can make the world a better place through positive influences in the digital age because we are first engaged in the business of humanity.

Lastly, reaching out to people by first beginning on a positive note will help me set the precedence for impacting and motivating others to actualize their full potential. In addition, I will make it a point of call to relate with others on the basis of who they are capable of becoming and not what they are at the moment. This will bring out the best in them which will ultimately make the digital space better for all of humanity.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you?

“No one expects us to be right all the time. But when we are wrong they certainly expects us to own up to it.”

“Remember, abilities wither under criticism and blossom under encouragement.”

“There is no limit to what a man can do or where he can go, if he doesn’t mind who gets the credits.”

“No one expects us to be right all the time. But when we are wrong they certainly expects us to own up to it.”

This quote got to me because over time, I have been guilty of not owning to my mistakes, instead I trade blames. I now have an understanding which has enable me take responsibilities for my actions and inactions and readily make amends for my pitfalls. This has generated me admiration and trust from those around me.

“Remember, abilities wither under criticism and blossom under encouragement.”

This quote is particularly fascinating as it got me thinking about my innate drive to always look out for pitfalls in people in order to cast aspersions. Howbeit, it has enlightened me on the possibility of building people up through encouragement because that is what is needed in everyday living.

“There is no limit to what a man can do or where he can go if he doesn’t mind who gets the credit.”

I am still taken aback on a positive note by the message of this quote. In a world where we lustily seek credit and recognition for what we have done or even try to steal someone else’s limelight. I cannot be more interested in the revelation of this quote. I concur to the perspective that in a bid to influence people and make friends, surrendering the credit is a way of life to embrace because it shows people that you appreciate them and grateful for having them around you.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and if so, why?

I was able to relate with every idea of the author. It was well understood.

6. Did the book contain exercises for reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercise and did you find them helpful?

Of course, it did contain some practical steps to achieving influence and I have been putting some of the ideas into practice and they have been helpful.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions if so, please comment.

The previous questions are all inclusive, as it has covered the crux of the subject matter.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9

Goals
Assessment by Christopher Lawal (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author was basically talking about goals. He argued that having a goal is the starting point of achieving and being a success. The bottom line of the book is that to achieve something extraordinary, you must have a goal. He also made me understand that having a goal is not enough, that I must pen down these goals, strategize and make plans to achieve them, and work on my strategy and plan every single day. To cap it all, once I have a goal that is clear and precise then I have focus and direction on the journey of life.

2. What are the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. Write down your Goals.

Write down your goals, make plans to achieve them, and work on your plans every single. This idea by the author really got me pondering on the power of clarity. Having come across the principle some years back, I didn’t really see the need until I was reminded by this book. I have written down my goals in respect to what I want to accomplish as I pursue my masters degree in Political economy and international development. I have written down my plans on how I intend making this goal become a reality. As it stands now due to strategies and plans I adopted, am almost in the last phase of the program as I write my dissertation.

ii. Limits

There are no limits to what you can achieve except the limits you place on your own imagination. Overtime, I have been victim of visualizing small as a result of my perceived shortcomings, but reading this book has enlightened me on the power of visualizing big because As a Man Thinketh, so he is. Also, I believe that if I can conceive it then I can achieve it. This has made set lofty and realistic goals for myself in terms of continuous personal transformation and impacting my world. I want to lead a campaign against economic deprivation of the masses across African continent. I believe with time my voice will be heard.

iii. One rule of success

It doesn’t matter where you are coming from, all that matters is where you are going to.
An amazing idea by the author! It made me remember a passage of the bible that says “forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to what is before.” I now have this unflinching conviction that my ambitions have little or nothing to do with my background.

iv. Accepting responsibility

When you accept complete responsibility for your life, you take giant step from childhood to adulthood. This idea by the author has made me realize that putting blame on others makes me less of someone who is ready for success because achieving comes with responsibility. I can now gallantly accept responsibility for all areas pertaining to my life and it has given me a sense of maturity and put me in charge of my life.

v. Greatest Enemies

The greatest enemies of success and happiness are negative emotions of all kinds.
This is true because negative emotions such as blame game, rationalization, justification to mention a few, puts us at the mercy of the situation and deprives us of the positive energy we need to be happy and succeed. I have resolved and still basking in the victory of being able to do away with those negative emotions. I must say it hasn’t been easy since it has been ingrained in us to always worry about situation and circumstances.

vi. The future

The further you think into the future, the better decisions you will make in the present to assure that future become a reality. The idea of positive visualization has assisted me in prioritizing my schedules daily as to prune what isn’t necessary or a time waster is discarded. I see myself as a world class political economist, proffering solution to the myriads of deteriorating economic situation be de-valuing the third world countries. So I ensure I equip myself and have a firm understanding of the economic order of the world and how it has been sustained. Also, in my little corner, I ensure I kick against any traces of exploitation in whatever form and crusade for fairness.

vii. The road to hell is paved with good intentions

The paradoxical nature of this idea made me contemplate. I came to the understanding that wanting to succeed is not good enough. I have to go all out to reach my goal and pay the price because at the end of the day, I only get what I pay for.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so how?

Planning is very crucial in whatever project that is to be embarked on as, if I fail to plan, we plan to fail. Therefore, I will ensure that before I engage or embark on any activity I have mapped out my strategy in hitting the bull’s eye. Also, the power of positive thinking and visualizing enables me as part of the people in the cosmos to attain and unleash my greatest potential to marvel the world. Relatively, we human also have the capabilities to do the impossible. So I have to reach out to people and the message is clear: never stop believing in the power of your positive imagination. Furthermore, since success is a journey and everybody is a traveler, I will ensure that my past doesn’t dictate or define my future. So I will use the resources available at my disposal to create a successful world where I can impact positively in the life of those I come in contact with and even those I don’t directly come in contact. Lastly, I will ensure that complete responsibility for my life becomes my watchword and also encourage others to do same and together we can create a world of limitless possibilities.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“No matter who signs your paycheck, view yourself as self-employed.”

“Success is goals all else are commentary.”

“Living without clear goal is like driving in a thick fog.”

“No matter who signs your paycheck, view yourself as self-employed.”

“Having the right mental attitude is paramount to success. This quote opened my understanding to giving your all and going the extra mile no matter where I find myself and treat every workplace like it’s my business because that is a success mentality.”

“Success are goals; all else is commentary.”

“To be successful, having a goal and giving and doing all it takes to achieve it is the key.”

“So without a goal, there can be no success as the goal is the drive and the motivation.”

This keeps me going and I am loving the results am getting as my goals keeps me focused on one thing at a time.

“Living without a clear goal is like driving in a thick fog.”

This quote particularly got my attention because of the wonderful analogy is contains. The emphasis in having a clear makes me convinced that when I have a clear goal, my sense of direction is keen and no matter the obstacle, I will keep pushing forward because I am convinced about what I want and where I am going.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about? Or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

The book was straight to the point and well-articulated.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

It did contain exercises and I find them helpful.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

Of course not, the preceding question covered all.

Please rate the following question on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9

 

 

Nonviolent Communication
Assessment by Christopher Lawal (Nigeria)

1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey in the book?

The author’s argument was centered on communication that will leave everyone better off instead of communication that is going to have a negative effect on either or both parties. The author also emphasized the important of expressing ourselves especially in a world where we have been taught to always look out for others and meet their needs while neglecting our own need. The book was also focused on the Nonviolent communication process which are: observation, feelings, needs and requests as the way to solve, settle inter-personal problem and also negotiation between individuals and states having issues.

2. What are the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

Observation
Feelings
Needs
Request
It is in everyone interest that people change not in order to avoid punishment but because they see change as benefitting themselves.
We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think and feel.
One language that blocks compassionate communication is moralistic judgments.
Observation

i. The NVC Process

The first process of NVC by the author is one that is particularly interesting to me as the process to NVC. This is because in everything we do observation without evaluating or judging is important and the key to a balanced relationship and communication. I have been able to express my observation about friends and people without putting up defenses because I have learned to air my views without judging and this singular act has improved my relationships tremendously.

ii. Feelings

The second NVC process which is feeling is critical in dealing with situations in relationship at all level because we first have to understand what someone is feeling or what we are feeling that makes us act the way we do. A lesson I drew out from this idea is to express always my feelings when the need arises instead of dying in silence and also to be able to observe and understand the feeling of others especially those that haven’t been able to express theirs.
iii. Needs

The author explicitly made a distinction between saying what you do not want or like and explicitly saying what you want. I have also come to terms with the fact that most time instead of communicating my needs within the context of a situation, I end up saying what I do not want and these habit has made my relationship is no any better. But after applying the principle of expressing my needs in terms of what I want, there has been a whole dimension in my relationships.

iv. Request

Just like expressing my needs, the last process of NVC is the making request stage, where I express my thought on what I would like to see happening and what I expect from the other party in a relationship at any level. The author explained that the NVC process is a two way street (that is, in relating with other and also relating with oneself which is equally important.

v. Change

It is in everyone interest that people change not avoid punishment but because they see change as benefiting themselves. This idea got me thinking in trying to figure out the position or perspective the author was discussing change in an individual. I realized that threat of sanction or punishment doesn’t really change a person as the change will always be short term. This is evident in inmates who are incarcerated in correctional facilities with the hope that they will change but most times become worse off than they were. I have been crusading for change as necessary and significant where change is beneficial to the person involved but not to avoid punishment.

vi. Being Unconscious

We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think or feel. The mantra “I didn’t have any choice” has been a convenient excuse for all sort of behavior that have negative consequences like domestic violence, killings and assault and battery to mention but a few. This idea pricked my conscience as I am guilty of excusing some of my thoughts, feelings and actions. I have come to the understanding and a knowing that I should be responsible for my actions, thoughts and feelings instead of blaming others or circumstances because just as the saying goes ‘circumstances is 10% what happens to a man and 90% how we respond to it.

vii. Judgments

One language that blocks compassionate communicate is moralistic judgment
The tendency to feel or think that someone deserves to be punished for being ‘bad or wrong’ has always been with us from the moral ground and according to the author, it blocks compassionate communication that can bring about meaningful change. This idea has enabled me to reconsider words that judge others within the context of their behavior but instead understand their position in the scheme of things. It is noteworthy that this is not to excuse the behavior of others but to have a proper perspective in effecting significant change and making the world a better place.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world, if so, how?

The NVC process of observation, feelings, needs, and request in daily interaction with others will improve our relationship and it will also help me to have a non-violent communication with myself as more often than not, I tend to myself as more often than not, I tend to judge myself, neglect my feeling and needs. But this process has started transforming my inner communication. I will also reach out to others and help them see the benefit of the NVC process as the key to a better world as the power of words in our daily lives cannot be underestimated. Furthermore, change has to been seen as benefitting someone not the threat of punishment. I will ensure that in trying to change someone, I will ensure that I make them see the benefit and also herald the message to as many as are willing to listen through my seminars and programs. Lastly, I will ensure that I am not judgmental as this bias blocks compassionate compassion.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

“Observing without evaluating is the highest form human intelligence.”

“Receive appreciation without feelings of superiority or false humility.”

“Express appreciation as a way to celebrate, not to manipulate.”

“Observing without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence.”

This is a powerful quote that I have consciously make efforts to imbibe. In a world whereby our observation is within the microscope of opinion, bias and prejudice, evaluation becomes inevitable. However, this quote proves it is possible with concerted effort to observe without evaluating. I believe am on the path to attaining the highest form of human intelligence void of judgment and prejudice.

“Receive appreciation without feeling of superiority or false humility.”

Due to the fact that I can relate with this quote, I find it an eye-opener because over the years, I tend to feel superior with appreciation for kind gestures or to deflate the praise with false humility word such as “it’s nothing.”

This quote has made me more enlighten that I can celebrate with the person complimenting me so long it is genuine by wanting to know what of action of mine brought about the compliment, what needs of his/her was met and the feelings that emanated from the met need

“Express appreciation as a way to celebrate not manipulate.”

This quote particularly got to me as most a times, I tend to appreciate others in order get more favors but this timely enlightenment has alter my perception as I now see appreciation as a way to celebrate another for affecting me positively and meeting my need. I now ensure that I appreciate their kind gestures when my motive for that is to celebrate that person, nothing more nothing less.

5. Is there is anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about? Or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

The author was clear in his ideas. I love the perspectives of the author in respect to the context of the book.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

It contained a lot of exercises that enabled me have a full grasp of the information contained in the book.

7. Was there anything in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous question? If so, please comment.

The preceding question did justice to the major issues in the book.

Please rate the following question on a scale from 1-10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 9
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9