As Man Thinketh
Assessment by Julius Charles (USA)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
I believe the message is, what we think we become. How we think will ultimately impact our lives and those around us.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. The idea that thoughts can remain secret, but they cannot as they eventually manifest themselves outwardly for others to see.
ii. Changing one’s mindset to positive thinking will drastically alter one’s situations for the better.
iii. Bastille thoughts manifest into drunkenness and sensuality thereby causing destitute situations and even disease.
iv. Impure thoughts manifest into confusing and distracting habits.
v. Thoughts of fear and doubt will manifest into indecision and irresolute habits leading to failure and indigence.
vi. Laziness manifests into uncleanliness and dishonesty.
vii. The idea that our minds are like a garden.
What we water and care for will grow into something beautiful and pure rather than negative bad thoughts that grow into weeds and shrubbery.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
These ideas will help me in my life as I am able to relate to all these in some way or another. I believe these principles or ideas will help me by serving as a reminder that it is easy to slip into such thoughts thereby manifesting them outwardly. In keeping these principles and applying them to my life I believe I can then help others and educate them along their journey as I believe we have all at some point in our lives struggled with some of these if not all.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
The statements that were made in regard to what are thoughts eventually lead to in answer #2 are what stuck out to me the most, as stated previously I can relate. I have been lazy which did cause me to be dishonest such as: Not wanting to go into work so I would make up reasons of not wanting to go due to wanting to party instead or partying the night before with friends and drunkenness. Or having to feel enslaved to people that I was borrowing money from. Or I could use the example of fear and doubt which would cause me go be indecisive about things thereby causing me to lack confidence etc. For me it all made sense. In reading this section each thing the author mentioned made sense to me and I was therefore able to reflect on my life to see if it all fit and it did. All the fore mentioned thoughts of what the negative thoughts crystallized into was true for me even with the drunkenness causing disease. I once got Chlamydia from my actions and not to mention my actions in the past hurt a lot of women with my lack of self-awareness in how I treated them.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
The book was easy to read and understand. It was very insightful as I will be referring back to this book often.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
There were no obvious exercises however I do believe that there are indirect exercises to do and practice such as practice changing our mindsets and practicing gratefulness rather than thinking negative when things are not going our way.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No comments other than maybe the title. I feel that this book can be read by not just men but also women, unless there already is a women’s version. The title may deter women from reading it but both sex struggle with a lot of the same things.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 7
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
Jonathan Livingston Seagull
Assessment by Julius Charles (USA)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
I believe that the author is conveying the message of, do not conform to this world or that of society. Chasing after what you believe in is more important and should be at the forefront, not society’s standards or money ( I think the food in this book was referring to money. I also think the description the author gives is pretty insightful. The flying that Jonathan begins to do is going well at first then doubt creeps in; the doubt is the wind. As soon as the gust of wind comes it throws him off and he is no longer able to fly. Perhaps that gust of wind can be described as the subtle voice in our heads that tell us we can’t, when in all actuality we can if we choose too.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Not to give in to a false narrative that it is better to go with the flock but rather it is best to do what is best for you.
I grew up in Boston, a city were it was very common to follow the norm, paly sports which I loved, go to college graduate get married , stay within a “bubble” and not venture out and be your own person so others would not think you to be “strange.”
ii. Pressure form others can lead to you losing or missing your purpose in life.
Trying to make others around me happy. Fulfilling their goals for my life. I thought I was living the life I was supposed to be living.
iii. Not finding your purpose will only make you unhappy.
Jonathan sought to try to please his parents and meet their expectations for his life. I have been there and tried that only to prolong my spiritual journey.
iv. Some may shun you or criticize you for your decisions as Jonathan was cast out from his family and flock.
When I chose to go on my spiritual journey my mother assumed I was no longer “Christian” and was practicing “evil” things to which she tried to preach to me in which I rebutted with other scriptures. I tried to teach her with an open mind whereas she was trying to get me to conform.
v. Sometimes following your true path can be difficult and feel lonely but if we stay the course, we will find that those that we are meant to find will find us or we will find them.
Along my journey I lost some friends and felt out of place but in staying on my path I found my Tribe so to speak.
vi. Money isn’t everything as Jonathan began to focus on his true calling, he did not focus or concern himself with eating his knowledge and learning was his sustenance.
We live in a world where we are taught and trained to work and work hard for money as this is how we are labeled in our success rather than those things that are not tangible.
vii. During our struggles in trying to “find our true self” we lose sleep or find ourselves lacking sleep.
At times I have found myself to be restless due to knowing that I am not meeting my full potential. I noticed when Jonathan met his tribe, the author mentions that Jonathan fell asleep. I took this to mean that he was at peace.
viii. Reaching “perfection.”
It is not perfection in the way that we think it to mean but perfection I believe is being used in this book to mean purpose. It is a reminder that we all move at our own pace and also not to give into the peer pressure of others or even the pressures of our parents. As Jonathan’s mother seem to be focused on him meeting the standards of society and that of others. Upholding an “image” seem to be more important to her than what her son wanted. She seemed to think his goals and aspirations were to “low” as if to say, “aim higher.” The idea of keeping up with the Joneses is what comes to mind.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
What stuck with me the most was the idea that people look at what we do as not good enough or as if our goals are “low hanging fruit” as did his mother. She thought he was “too good” for what he was doing, as if to say you’re setting your expectations too low which translate in reality to, “your life’s choices are embarrassing me. It was important to me as it reminds me of my past relationships with my mother.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
Also, what caught my attention was how they talked about past lives;
“How Jonathan had learned so much in this life, so he did not have to repeat so many things over again in past lives.”
I am hoping to finally learn in this life how to handle money better and to have that relationship with money that will free my mind and that will give me that capability of flourishing that I may help others.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
I was a little confused with what the meaning was during Jonathan’s transition from when he decided to give up and the part where the author mentions him seeing a bird or flock with short wings? Yes, that’s the answer says the author. This somehow gave Jonathan an idea and he was then able to fly. I don’t quit get that analogy or what it was supposed to symbolize.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
No there were not any exercises that I saw in the book
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
It wasn’t the greatest book or most enjoyable to read. However it did have a great message
Contents were overall straight forward and easy to read
Easy for the most part. Somewhat hard finding some of the meanings the author was trying to relay
It wouldn’t be my first choice
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 5
B. How helpful were the contents? 5
C. How easy was it to understand? 5
D. Would you recommend it to others? 5
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 5
PsychoCybernetics
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey?
The main idea in this book is how our self-image is a story we create and live in accordance to, that we have the individual power to re-write our story and replace negative with positive thoughts. Basically the way we think about ourselves is how we proceed in living, and that we can change out the old negative patterns and replace with more life-affirming thoughts and behaviors which will change our personality to one that is more in alignment with freedom and love.
2. What are the 7 ideas that are personally important to me and why? List these 7 ideas followed by an explanation of why it was important to me. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. The way we operate in life is largely based on unconscious beliefs about ourselves that we accept as true and these beliefs mold our personality and how we move through life.
I find this to be incredibly accurate as I am able to piece together my life by reviewing my past which includes my thinking/feeling as best as I can and see how certain truths I held are actually not facts, but emotional attributes that I have accepted as truths. And it’s fascinating, and disturbing, to realize that much of what I know about myself are unpleasant stories that I made up, no one but me!
Our self-image is changeable.
ii. Thank God for this revelation!
The author uses numerous examples of how changing our inner monologue can bring about significant changes in one’s behaviors, personality, and character. I have used mantras and positive affirmations to help align my self-image to be more self accepting and loving and it has worked. Each of us has instilled by our creator a “life instinct” which works for each of us through a Creative/Success mechanism.
iii. This life instinct is tuned toward all things positive and affirming health and happiness are the goal and result of honing our built-in success mechanisms.
It is up to me to tune my mechanism toward success goals rather than failure goals. Historically, however, my mechanism was self-defeating and negative which led me through many challenging situations. I held a deep belief for much of my life that I was flawed and doomed to a life of loneliness and depression, and I can see how that belief was reinforced anytime I was able to feed that thought pattern. It is a lot of work to undo such familiar thought patterns and replace them with more positive affirming ones but it is possible! A key difference between humans and animals is that man has creative imagination that man is more than a creature, but also a creator.
iv. The part of the book where differences between man and beast was easily understood.
Both have instincts for survival ways of behaving that ensure our survival, but man also has the ability to create his own life while animals simply live to survive. I have historically deemed myself as not being creative, but that is simply not true. I have created my life, and it is easier to see looking back than it is as it unfolds. I see how powerful my thoughts are, and how what I’ve thought often materializes. Knowing this, I am much more careful with the mechanisms of my mind. Our physical brain and nervous system make up a servo-mechanism that we use and operates much like a computer, but we are not a machine.
v. Once I am able to know that my thoughts and actions are results of my choices and my monologue/my story I have the key to continue old patterns of thought/behavior or to take creative control and repopulate the old with positive, life-affirming/enhancing thoughts.
It is simply an inside job. My brain is changeable, and I am the only one who can facilitate the change to something beneficial rather than destructive.
The idea that we are our own healers is another idea I resonated with in this book.
vi. This theme is prevalent in this book.
There is heavy emphasis that changing our monologue with ourselves can create lives that thrive rather than lives that are painful and pointless. I have had lots of help throughout my life but the work lies within me. The work to improve my mind can seem formidable at times, but the results have always proven well worth it. It is empowering and daunting to know that, ultimately, it is up to me to do the work to live a life that is meaningful and productive.
Finally, the concept of mistakes/failures being groundwork for growth rather than attributes that define one’s self, is helpful for me.
vii. All of us make mistakes and “fail” at things.
The lesson derived from this book is that these are all part of life, but not definitions of who we are individually. When I can see errors from my life, I have the choice to accept that as a defining moment or a lesson to keep on keeping on with life. The book uses the example of how we “talk” to ourselves for example to say “I failed” versus “I am a failure” have big implications. To believe that I am a failure is old thinking, to realize that failures are tools for growth is a concept that will bring much relief to me and how I think.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help me in a practical way, both in my daily personal life and in helping create a better world?
Basically this book reinforces the power that lies within each of us to change ourselves first, and in doing that, we change the world. I know that for any good to come from my life, I must be a master of self and this book is a helpful tool to utilize in that pursuit. Often times I have lived without much intention, I’ve let life drag me along without much effort at loving myself. It’s caused a great deal of suffering. I also realize that much of that suffering is self-induced. The battle here is that I am the only one who can change my thinking (which is the meat of this book) but it takes work and intention; daily to reprogram my mind to positive rather than negative. I have used the visualization techniques described in this book to see myself being successful in my current schooling for massage therapy and will continue to do so because it works. Whenever I catch my mind telling a lie I am quicker to replace that thought with something that is more positive and aligned with the life I want to live.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements the author made that got my attention? If so, please quote them and tell why they were important.
“Look forward, not backward.”
The reason this is significant to me is that I’ve always inherently known that I function much better when I have something in the future that excites me (like a vacation or reunion with an old friend). It is such an easy concept and keeps me excited about life. When my focus is on the past, there is often a sense of nostalgia and sadness that can be present. When my focus is on something upcoming, my days are more exciting and purposeful.
“No one can decide what your thoughts shall be but yourself.”
This quote is another that I’ve learned in my lifetime, recently in fact. I had an “aha” moment when I became aware that the only person narrating my life was me or the me that lives inside my head. That knowing has been revelatory in that it gives me permission to re-write my past negative narrative, and replace it with a narrative of personal redemption and triumph. Life on Earth is heavy and dense, and we are all warriors.
“It is merely a matter of what we choose to give primary attention to and what thoughts we hold in the mind.”
I have taken on the idea that what we give attention to is where energy flows. That being the case, it is an important reminder to check my thoughts to discern whether they are bringing about conditions that I desire or that I wish to eliminate. Ruminating on negative thoughts only brings them on stronger, and vice versa. This is another example of the individual power to change one’s thinking and therefore one’s life and therefore the world.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
This book was easy to read and understand and apply to my life. There weren’t any significant ideas that I had difficulty comprehending.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
This book does have exercises at the end of most chapters to guide the reader in a new way of living. I found them to be very valuable and will continue to implement them as I go forth in life.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
There are none on my end.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
Keys to Success
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author gives many directions/ideas/concepts to help one succeed and ties them together beautifully for success is not of one thing but a conglomerate. The ideas are useful and applicable. This book is littered with suggestions of how to utilize the concepts to be a better, more successful human, and therefore make the world a better place. A major concept of the book is developing a positive mental attitude and the rest follows suit naturally. Our minds attract anything it dwells upon. Knowing this fact shows how incredibly powerful we are and how to harness that power to develop a solid mental attitude so that positivity flows in more and more. Definiteness of purpose and applied faith in infinite intelligence are overarching themes that get lots of attention in this book because they are non-negotiables in self development and success, whatever that may look like for each of us individually. All of this book speaks to action, to doing and thinking and being the best versions of ourselves and who doesn’t want that? Persistence is critical to cultivating a life of our dreams. This book is very personally empowering and motivational to go the extra mile, by going above and beyond others who may have the same skills or services that you offer. It may not generate immediate return, but the Law of Compensation will never fail. Having a positive mental attitude is the single most important factor to master the science of success, everything in this book is based with first mastering this attitude.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you, use personal examples from your own life.
i. The starting point of all success is being certain of where you are going in life.
Before we can make progress in cultivating a purpose driven, rewarding life is to first know what it is one wishes to accomplish in one’s life. Without a definitive understanding of this building block of life, we are subject to the ebb and flow of floating about in life with no real direction. In order to achieve any measure of success or purpose we must know what it is that truly drives us. Once we have that figured out this book has a logical and reasonable series of considerations to implement to live life with conviction, passion, and satisfaction.
ii. Finding a burning desire.
Something that burns us (in the best ways possible) to propel us forward with intention and vision. It is very much in alignment with being certain of where you are going, but the burning desire component is critical because it is like a flame within us that grows brighter the more we pursue it.
iii. Faith.
This is another key idea in this book. Faith “makes your mind positive and frees it from the limitations of doubt, discouragement, indecision, and procrastination.” We must have faith that we are here for a purpose, that life can be fulfilling, that our creator would provide us with all the resources we need to have a bountiful life in whatever area that we decide it to be. All of us have experienced difficulty, have questioned the meaning and purpose of life, and faith is what sustains us; knowing that things will get better, that we are cared for, loved, and supported. Although these knowings often become difficult to remember in times of hardship, all we have to do is realize that so far in this life, every seemingly insurmountable obstacle we have faced, we have also overcome. Faith is the driving mechanism behind not giving up even when faced with personal crises, rejection, heartache, etc. The well known quote “Faith without works is dead” is also important to include here. Faith alone is not quite enough, for we have to put effort/work in to see that faith manifest into reality. In other words, we can’t simply expect to have things given to us without putting in any effort. Sitting alone in solitude and loneliness will beget more of the same. Once some effort is put in to help ourselves along, then our Creator always shows up to assist us. Faith is a fine balance and needs to be tuned in order to work. Our creator isn’t a wish granter, a magical fairy who bestows us with every wish and fantasy, but will always work alongside us when we put in the effort. And we must remember that often our creator’s timeline and ours don’t always coincide. So faith, works, and patience are keys to retain and utilize to help us along our way.
iv. The power of the subconscious is another key to success.
As stated in the book, “the subconscious mind does not think, reason, or deliberate – it acts.” this is a powerful statement to be aware of. Often our minds are stuck in thought, a seeming never ending spiral of thoughts which aren’t very useful, so having a subconscious that acts is very relieving and appreciated.
Having a positive mental attitude is perhaps the biggest take away from this book. Our minds are where thoughts are received/generated and the basis for everything that exists. I believe that all things have their origin in thought. This can be a deep rabbit hole to enter, but it is true as far as I can tell.
v. Attitudes are mental constructs that we develop and believe it or not, we have control over.
I’ve found myself at times in life realizing that my attitude is not so pretty and that shades the lens from where I view life. Cultivating a positive mental attitude is an inside job, and one every human has the capacity to tap into and reap the benefits. Sour attitudes produce sour lives, and positive attitudes produce fruitful lives. Training our minds in accordance of positivity will most certainly change the world, one person at a time. When I’ve caught negative attitudes creep up, recognize it quickly, and rewrite/rewire my brain to something along the lines of “everything is happening through me and not to me” has been a game changer. I alone have the power to narrate my life, and exercising a positive mental attitude eventually becomes a habit and then the fruits are sweeter and more abundant.
vi. What we focus on persists (where attention goes, energy flows) is another key idea in this book.
I have found this concept to be very true and potent for me as I navigate the mind. The more I focus on positive things, the brighter my outlook and vice versa. The trick here is to not let too much momentum build in the negative because that can snowball into a lot of unpleasantness.
vii. Living in alignment with good health in all areas of our lives is another theme in this book that resonates with me.
Good health includes all aspects of our being: mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, financial, etc and when one is out of alignment then it affects the others. This is an important reminder for me to encourage me to look more holistically at my life rather than in separate containers, particularly regarding health because I’ve experienced difficulty keeping all these aspects of self in balance and I can look back and see how they are all interconnected and therefore all deserve equal attention.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so how?
I covered this question above in Question 2!
4. Quotes: are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Ninety eight out of one hundred people never make their mind up about their major purpose in life.”
Wow that is an incredible statement, but I believe it is true. I know that I have struggled with finding my purpose in life many times. The most refreshing answer for myself is to just be me, to live my life seeking joy as much as I can and let the rest unfold as it will. I still don’t have a definitive answer as to my one true purpose, but until then I will keep on trudging and believing that the universe is on my side.
“You must be like a chameleon, quickly harmonizing with your environment.”
The reason I chose this quote is because someone in my past told me that I was like a chameleon, but they weren’t offering it as a compliment. I have come to realize that was a positive observation because I can usually easily find a way of relating with people in many different contexts. It is a gift to find common ground no matter who I am around.
“The only things over which you have complete control are your thoughts.”
Oh boy this is juicy stuff. I’ve thought a lot about thinking, wondering why I chose the particular thoughts that there are and have challenged myself with awareness of those habitual thoughts, and deciding to let them go on by or cling on and go for a ride. I believe the most powerful tool we have is our creative minds because everything there is a result of thought. No one else has access to my thinking patterns, and therefore I have no way of accessing anyone else’s. Thank God for that.
“You can pay other people no greater compliment than to concentrate your attention on them when they want it.”
This reminds me of a saying that I love “the greatest gift you can give someone is your attention.” I like this because we all want to be seen and heard; truly and authentically. It is a beautiful thing when you know that you are being paid attention to. Often we get so bogged down in our own minds, about what we want to say, to fix a problem, to offer advice, when some of the best medicine I’ve received is when I know that someone is really paying attention to me – that is priceless.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and if so why?
I didn’t find anything contained in these pages that struck me to be disagreeable so my answer is No there aren’t any concepts in this book that I didn’t understand.
6. Did the book contain exercise for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes there are several exercises to assist as we navigate this book. One in particular I’ve found to be very beneficial is 3 easy steps to build faith. It begins with having a positive mental attitude and a definite major purpose in life.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
The book is well covered and understood.
Please rate the following questions on a scale of 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 7
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 9
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The main idea that the author, Dale Carnegie, conveys in the book
“How to Win Friends and Influence People” is that interpersonal skills
and the ability to genuinely connect with others are fundamental to
success in both personal and professional life. Carnegie emphasizes
the importance of understanding human nature, building positive
relationships, and effectively communicating with others in order to
influence their thoughts and behaviors.
Through numerous examples and practical advice, the book highlights
key principles that can help individuals improve their social
interactions and achieve their goals. These principles include showing
genuine interest in others, listening actively, praising and
appreciating others, avoiding criticism and condemnation, and
fostering a mutually beneficial approach to relationships.
Carnegie emphasizes the power of empathy, kindness, and
understanding, suggesting that by genuinely caring about others and
their needs, individuals can create lasting connections and influence
others without resorting to manipulation or coercion. The book
promotes a people-centered approach to personal and professional
success, focusing on the importance of building trust, fostering
cooperation, and fostering positive emotions in others.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
This idea emphasizes the importance of treating others with respect, understanding their
perspectives, and avoiding criticism or condemnation. It is crucial
because showing genuine empathy and respect towards others fosters a
positive and harmonious environment, leading to better relationships
and effective communication. For me personally, this helps create a
sense of accomplishment and pride because I don’t feel good when I
criticize or condemn others. Genuine empathy and respect are such
valuable tools to employ so that I can harness a sense of joy and
appreciation for those with whom I’m blessed to be around. Dealing
with people is often the greatest challenge in my life, and these
techniques provide a framework for me to operate within.
ii. Six Ways to Make People Like You
These six techniques involve showing genuine interest in others, remembering and using their names, being a good listener, making others feel important, speaking in terms
of their interests, and making them feel valued. It is important to me
because building strong connections and likability is essential for
personal and professional success, and these techniques enable me to
create meaningful relationships with others. Remembering names is a
struggle I often face, and when I am able to do that I feel better and
more connected and I trust the other person appreciates that as well.
Being a good listener is one of my strong suits, and people often come
to me to be a sounding board or just someone who can hold space
without any judgment.
iii. How to Win People Over to Your Way of Thinking
This idea focuses on the power of persuasion through understanding others’ needs and desires, emphasizing shared interests and benefits, and avoiding
arguments and direct confrontation. Mastering the art of human relations is the penultimate goal of my life; to find others to be a source of true connection and relate-ability has been and will continue to be a wellspring of delight in my life.
iv. Be a Leader
How to Change People Without Offending Them or
Arousing Resentment: This concept emphasizes the importance of leading
by example, praising others’ strengths, being diplomatic in criticism, and providing constructive feedback. It is essential because as a leader, it is crucial to inspire and motivate others while maintaining their dignity and self-esteem, fostering a culture of growth and continuous improvement. I never desire to be someone others resent
because I know when I resent someone it is a spoilage to my soul. Same goes for offending people, for I know how damaging that is to my soul and the other whom I offended.
v. Seek to Understand Before Seeking to Be Understood
This idea highlights the significance of active listening, empathizing with
others, and seeking to understand their perspectives before expressing
our own. This is part of a universal prayer from St. Francis of Assisi
where we seek to understand rather than be understood. Classic and
timeless advice for one and all. Once I understand where someone else
is coming from, I am better able to have a bigger picture of how and
why they behave or speak the way they do. I do believe, ultimately,
all humans desire to be seen, heard, and appreciated.
vi. One theme this book offers is regarding the futility of criticism.
That instead of condemning people we ought to try to understand
them. This theme is particularly resonant with me because I know
that, especially in this divided world, finding ways to humanize
others is much more rewarding than casting them into a box or category
as the enemy, or stupid, or even evil. Criticism breeds more of the
same, and that’s not a world I want to be a part of. Understanding
others is far more rewarding and life enhancing. I know when someone
is trying to understand me, I feel seen and heard, but when I’m
criticized I shut down or get angry and want to retaliate.
vii. A Formula That Will Work Wonders for You
This idea suggests that showing appreciation and honest praise towards others leads to motivation, enthusiasm, and improved relationships. It emphasizes the
power of encouragement and gratitude. It is important to me because
expressing genuine appreciation and recognizing others’ contributions
not only uplifts their spirits but also strengthens the bonds between
us, creating a positive and supportive environment.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world. If so, how?
When I am mindful enough to apply these ideas, people become more
enjoyable to be around and feed my spirit in mutual love for humanity.
We live in such a divisive world and I don’t engage in much news
watching because what I hear often feels heavy, dark, and of a world I
don’t want to be a part of. None of what is written in this book is
written for subversive reasons, there is danger in flattery and
insincere approbations. But when genuine desire to understand and
connect with fellow humans is the goal, only good can come from that.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“It takes character and self control to be understanding and
forgiving.”
I like this quote because I desire to be a man of good
character and understanding and forgiving. This is a beautiful
reminder in human relations.
“I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise.”
This quote definitely got my attention as soon as I read it because genuine appreciation and praise are such medicine for my soul especially when, as intended and acknowledged by Carnegie, it is genuine and heart felt. Who doesn’t like to be praised and recognized for their contributions to this world?
“Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for.”
Bam. Simple but profound. Never is a strong word, and that’s probably why I like this quote so much – hurting people is NEVER ok.
We all need to heal and find love and connection, and eliminate any more hurt that one human can cause against another.
“Any fool can try to defend his or her mistakes and most fools do- but it raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility and exultation to admit one’s mistakes.”
I appreciate this quote because when I am in defense mode I want only to absolve myself of any perception that I made a mistake. But it always results in
more embarrassment and self-irritation when I cling to defense. When I am able to admit what I’ve done “wrong” and am willing to own that, then growth happens.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about or are there ideas which you disagree with and if so why?
There aren’t any concepts that struck me as unclear or disagreeable
in this book.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
No, no exercises only concepts to apply
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions. If so, please comment.
I have no further comments.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good
and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
Maximum Achievement
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey in this book?
This book is a personal development and self-help book that focuses on helping readers reach their full potential and achieve extraordinary success in all areas of life. The main idea the author conveys revolves around the principles and strategies that can lead to maximum achievement and personal fulfillment. Maximum Achievement emphasizes the power of mindset, goal setting, and personal responsibility as essential components of success. By incorporating these ideas into my life, I can work towards reaching my full potential and living a more fulfilling life.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you, use personal examples from your own life.
i. Goal Setting
Setting clear, specific, and achievable goals is the foundation of success. By defining what I want to achieve and creating a roadmap to get there, I can focus all my efforts and make progress more effectively. This resonates with me because without a clear goal or purpose I can often get derailed and end up scratching my head wondering what happened. This seems very logical and easy to implement.
ii. Personal Responsibility
Take full responsibility for my life and results. Avoid blaming external factors or circumstances for my current situation. Instead, adopt a proactive mindset and recognize that I have the power to shape my destiny. I appreciate this idea because I ultimately know that my life is uniquely mine, and by reclaiming power over situations or circumstances with a positive mindset makes me feel better. Blaming others and victim mentality only serve to poison my life and I don’t want any part of that.
iii. Continuous Learning
Commit to lifelong learning and self-improvement. Acquire new skills, expand your knowledge, and stay up-to-date with industry trends. Continuous learning enhances my value and adaptability in the changing world. I have had careers in which continuing education was a requirement so that I can stay up to date with new things that will ultimately provide better outcomes for me and my clients.
iv. Time Management
Manage my time efficiently and prioritize tasks based on their importance and urgency. Learn to say no to activities that don’t align with my goals and focus on high-impact tasks that move me closer to success. I appreciate the ability to say no to activities that aren’t in alignment with my morals and values and focus instead on the things that are serving my highest good. No is a complete sentence. I’ve historically described myself as a people pleaser, so knowing that saying no is enough, no explanations are needed has given me personal power in dealing with others.
v. Positive Thinking and Visualization
Cultivate a positive mental attitude and practice visualization. Believe in my abilities and envision myself achieving your goals. This positive mindset can increase my confidence and attract opportunities. Everything is a result of thought so knowing that, if I desire more positivity I must think it into existence. I have personally seen the fruits of daily mantras in how I think and act in the world. Thoughts are powerful! I have also had success with vision boards, where I have a tangible visual thing I’ve created that shows my goals in a 3-d format. By looking at this board and allowing it to soak into my subconscious it eventually becomes real. I had once drawn and written about my ideal living situation, and it has come to be in my life – what more evidence do I need to continue to use these tools to bring forth more abundance and dreams manifest? I still have these writings and boards and it brings me joy to reflect on them.
vi. Self-Discipline
Develop self-discipline to stay focused on my goals, even when faced with distractions or setbacks. By consistently taking action and maintaining discipline, I can build momentum and achieve remarkable results. This has been a challenge for me at times in my life when I felt that I was lacking in self-discipline. And once a habit has set in, it’s very difficult to un-do, difficult but not impossible. All it took to reverse that was dusting myself off and trying again with resolve to persist no matter what.
vii. Building Relationships
Recognize the importance of building strong and positive relationships with others. Networking, collaborating, and supporting others can open doors to new opportunities and create a supportive environment for personal growth. I once had a professor in college who told us that it’s not really about what we know but who we know that can propel us into successful lives. I cannot live in isolation from other humans, nor would I really want to. Relationships are rich for growth and learning. We all have been told that the company we keep is reflective of who we are. I have been in relationship with people who are very high vibe and thriving in life and also, at times in my past, with people who are wrought with trouble. I feel best when I am surrounded by like minded people, people who are trying to live their best lives, who are enthusiastic and encouraging. Since we don’t live in a vacuum it is important to have healthy, motivated, kind people in our lives.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so how?
If I stay diligent with these ideas then it is almost virtually guaranteed that good things will flow into my reality. And if I want to change the world, I must first change myself. Doing the “inner work” is necessary to living a life in a world that brings me joy and peace of mind. It starts with me, then trickles to those who I am around regularly and flows outward from there. I do believe we can change the world because I know that we can each change ourselves. Having positive supportive people in my life who encourage me and truly want to see me thrive is one of life’s greatest blessings.
4. Quotes: are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“You are where you are today because that is where you have chosen to be.”
I chose this quote because it is a fundamental reminder to fully take responsibility for my life. I can no longer attribute my place in this world because of parents, situations, circumstances, etc because that isn’t true. I live in a place that I visualized 10 years ago and I have completed an education path that was another dream of mine come manifest. This quote is inspiring and powerful; especially for those times when I can get on a “pity-pot” and whine about my life. It’s all my doing and that is both a relief and a great challenge.
“The most dangerous habits you can form are mental habits.”
I have long been curious about the workings of the mind. An early memory of mine was wondering what it would be like to “trade” brains with someone for a specified period of time. I now know that if this were possible, I’d probably still chose my brain because it is familiar and comfortable, even if the mental habits aren’t so good. I’ve managed to re-wire my thoughts but it is very challenging and requires diligence and patience. The mind is such an interesting entity.
“The secret of the ages, the key to health, happiness and prosperity for you and me, has been found in what is called the “super-conscious mind.”
How could this quote not get my attention? Yes I desire health, happiness and prosperity. So what is the super-conscious mind? It’s been described by many people throughout time and space to put into words the concept of being “tapped in” to the source of all, the creative mechanism that has made all things. I have had glimpses of this super-conscious mind in my own life so I know it’s there and available for me to use more. It is that indescribable connection to the divine. That is what I shoot for in my life, to get out of the egoic mind and into source consciousness.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and if so why?
I didn’t find anything in this book to be difficult to understand or implement in my life.
6. Did the book contain exercise for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes the book has lots of exercises which help reinforce the ideas presented in this book and to give practical steps to achieve maximum fulfillment in my life.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
I can think of none.
Please rate the following questions on the scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 7
B. How helpful was the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to other? 8
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Success through Positive Mental Attitude
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey through this book?
The main idea of Success Through Positive Mental Attitude by Napoleon Hill and Clement Stone is that cultivating a positive mental attitude is essential for achieving success in life. The book emphasizes the power of one’s thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes in influencing their outcomes and overall quality of life. The authors argue that maintaining a positive mindset can lead to improved personal and professional achievements, increased happiness, and better health. As has been the theme for many of our books here at IIGL, having my mind as my best ally in creating an abundantly happy life seems to be the way to go. I do desire professional achievements, increased happiness, and better health and the way to is through the maze of the mind. Turning my mental scape into a beautiful tapestry of love and light.
The book offers practical advice and principles for developing and maintaining a positive mental attitude, including techniques to overcome negative thinking patterns, visualization exercises, goal
setting, and the importance of surrounding oneself with positive influences. Hill and Stone stress the idea that the mind has the ability to shape reality and that by aligning one’s thoughts with
their desired outcomes; they can overcome obstacles and reach their
goals.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you, use personal examples from your own life.
i. Positive Mental Attitude (PMA)
The foundation of the book, PMA is the belief that maintaining a positive mindset leads to better
outcomes in life. It involves focusing on possibilities, solutions, and opportunities, rather than dwelling on problems and obstacles. This is personally helpful to me because I am very aware of how my
thoughts become things, that thought is the basic building block of everything that has been and ever will be. I’ve seen my own personal triumphs by utilizing positive vibes (vibrations being energy which is
everything is energy) to pull myself out of seemingly bottom less pits of despair. Choosing one thought that is an inkling more positive is where I must begin and then momentum takes hold and
eventually that bottomless pit becomes a new garden for growth. Furthermore, I am a believer and proponent of the quote “where attention goes, energy flows.” In specifics to this particular writing
I know that dwelling on problems and obstacles seems to only magnify
them; it’s the hump of going from that realization to redirecting to
the positive that can trip me at times.
ii. Definiteness of Purpose
This theme emphasizes the importance of setting clear and specific goals. Having a definite purpose helps
direct your actions, thoughts, and efforts toward achieving what you desire. It provides a sense of direction and motivation. I can struggle in direction and motivation in my life and this book has
helped me remember that when I have a plan for my day, it trends toward being a more satisfying day than when I don’t. That doesn’t mean I don’t allow time in my life for “free” days, but when I find
myself facing long periods of no daily schedule I easily revert to being slow sluggish and seemingly lost. I most certainly resonate with the power of having a purpose and aligning my days to achieve
that purpose. And when I do those things, and I am seen and appreciated by one person, even if that person is myself, then I have further proof that having a definiteness of purpose is highly rewarding.
iii. Enthusiasm
Enthusiasm is seen as a driving force behind success. When one approaches tasks with enthusiasm and passion, one is more likely to put in the necessary effort and overcome challenges. It also
has a contagious effect on others. It is a joy to be in company of others who effervesce with enthusiasm about life. This enthusiasm thing is powerful as anything else especially when joined with the
other themes this book presents to those who are willing to hear/see/read/implement. I find that when I exude enthusiasm it is always received favorably by at least one person. I desire to find more to be enthusiastic about, because it is contagious in the best sense of the word. Every time I’ve had a new job and had to be “the new guy” the times when my mentor was enthusiastic my energy raised to
meet theirs. When the opposite was true it required more of my other tools to keep me at a slightly above baseline mentality.
iv. Belief
Belief in oneself and one’s ability to succeed is crucial. Without self-confidence and belief, it’s difficult to persevere through setbacks and failures. Belief in your goals, as well as in your own capabilities, is a key component of success. Belief has been described to me in many ways, and the one I prefer is “a belief is
just a thought you keep thinking.” that I can appreciate. I also know how intertwined belief is to mental attitude from both studying the brain and also living as a human in this world. Many of my old
belief patterns can still get activated (and I’m speaking about the “not so good” ones) from just living life. When I am able to recognize this early and stop the momentum of thought that follows I
can re-write my brain patterns and strengthen the new ruts of thought that are positive in nature and are also true. It’s taken a lot of personal inner work to begin the inner standing of my brain’s workings
and it’s a lifetime of work that will continue so long as I hold the belief that I am capable of anything.
v. Specialized Knowledge
Gaining expertise and specialized knowledge in a chosen field is essential for success. This theme encourages continuous learning and self-improvement, as well as the acquisition of knowledge that sets you apart from others. I have, at this point in my life, received 3 degrees as an adult learner. One was a regular BS of Business Administration with focus in Marketing which ultimately provided me with a piece of paper with those credentials, but little else as my life then was very chaotic and unclear basically I got the diploma because it what was expected of me, not out of something I desired or cared much about. Life then began to teach me and guide me and the two subsequent degrees; an associates in Physical Therapist Assistant and now Licensed Massage and Bodywork Therapy; I have come from desire, motivation, and enthusiasm for what I was learning and doing. Both of these also require continuing education to keep track of the latest revelations from these two fields of study.
vi. Imagination
Imagination involves creative thinking and visualization. By imagining myself achieving my goals and living my desired life, I can stimulate my subconscious mind to work toward
those outcomes. I like to associate imagination with manifestation (just semantics I know) but basically same principles. Ten years prior to moving into my version of Shangri-La, my slice of heaven on
Earth, I posted an “imagination/manifestation” post to Facebook where I described my ideal life – and now I’m living that reality. It was a shock to me to be reminded by FB of that post but it took my
breath away when I read it because as I read it I was living it mountains, friends, nature, streams, an idyllic life. Anytime I catch wind of someone disparaging vision boards or something like that I
want to share my story and sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t got to look at the audience for receptivity on some things. Imagination brings forth dreams manifest.
vii. Organized Planning
Success requires a well-organized plan of action. This theme stresses the importance of strategic planning,
setting priorities, and taking systematic steps toward your goals. Planning helps you avoid aimlessness and ensures efficient use of resources. If I have a check list or something written down regarding
my plans I find it to be a very useful thing. Something visual for me to reference to keep on track is a tool that I find incredibly useful and easy to implement. It has been my experience that if I can find a
partner who is a lover of planning to assist, then there is exponential energy that comes from a helper who enjoys planning and organizing. We all have gifts, and together shared every triumph and
joy is exponential and every trial and travail is halved.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so how?
These themes are tools that are available to me, you, anyone who has the desire to be fed. Once the door for inner growth, understanding and desire for a better life is opened there are resources galore to
help. This book is an echo of many books I’ve read and many thought’s I’ve conjured and learned from others. I believe that the way to change the world is to change oneself and this book is a
helpful tool for reference and reminder. Once change has been achieved/activated within one person, or even the pursuit of change in that direction the stream continues to flow carrying us all to a place
of unity and true brotherhood. This human life we live is heavy but thankfully there is lightness and joy available to us all. Change my mind, change the world.
4. Quotes: are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Man’s greatest power lies in the power of prayer.”
This quote I resonate with because prayers are thoughts, right? And through the
books from this leadership study, it is apparent to me that thoughts
are where all power is. The journey in my life is to align, more and
more and more, the things I think to the things I desire and so far
the results have spoken for themselves.
“To be an expert achiever in any human activity, it takes practice, practice and practice.”
This resonates with me because although at times I wish Creator was a granter of mere wishes, but the
true joy lies in knowing that I’ve practiced something enough to KNOW fully in my ability to achieve anything.
“Keep your mind on the things you want and off the things you
don’t want.”
This is yet another reminder of the fact it is up to me alone to change my thoughts and subsequently my life, It is my job, not anyone else’s. I can have loads of help but I alone am the keeper
of my mental going’s on and keeping that in check is a practice that
yields results, every time!
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and if so why?
No there wasn’t.
6. Did the book contain exercise for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all the exercises and did you find them helpful?
This book did contain some exercises to further reinforce the ideas presented and guide the reader to better understanding.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
Not that I can think of at this point.
Please rate the following questions on the scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful was the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to other? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Awaken the Giant Within
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey in this book?
The main idea of the book is to empower individuals to take control of their lives, overcome their limiting beliefs, and achieve their goals. Robbins emphasizes the power of the mind and how one’s beliefs and thought patterns shape their behavior and ultimately, their destiny. He provides practical strategies and exercises to help readers identify and change unproductive habits, set clear and compelling goals, and develop a mindset that fosters personal growth and success. The book encourages readers to tap into their inner potential, take responsibility for their actions, and make positive changes in various aspects of their lives, including relationships, finances, health, and personal development. It’s about unleashing one’s full potential to create a life of purpose, passion, and fulfillment.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your life.
In “Awaken the Giant Within,” Tony Robbins introduces several key ideas and concepts to help individuals take control of their lives and achieve personal growth and success. Here are seven of the core ideas from the book:
i. The Power of Beliefs
Robbins emphasizes that our beliefs shape our behaviors, decisions, and ultimately, our destiny. By becoming aware of and changing limiting beliefs, individuals can transform their lives. This is impactful to me because I know that beliefs are thoughts I keep thinking and therefore I am the only entity that can rewrite some or all of what goes on inside my head. It is also important to me to remain teachable with a healthy dose of discernment so that I can continue to grow into my most authentic self.
ii. Take Massive Action
Robbins encourages readers to take immediate and massive action towards their goals. He believes that decisive action is crucial for creating lasting change. These are big components of his teachings and I appreciate the seriousness implied with this concept. I know how fulfilled I feel when I’ve made an immediate and big shift in life to bring about better more desirable circumstances. Trusting that the universe is always in alignment with my highest good and when I am synced up with thought and action big changes happen.
iii. The Importance of Physiology
Robbins asserts that our physical state, including posture, breathing, and movement, profoundly impacts our emotions and overall well-being. He advocates for using physiology as a tool to change one’s emotional state. This is a fact for me. When I am lazy and inactive for too long my emotional state follows suit. And in those times where it seems that life is stale and less than satisfying I can chose to remain in the stew of negativity or do something. And never has moving my body and paying attention to breath and posture failed me.
iv. The Triad: Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions
Robbins introduces the idea that our thoughts, emotions, and actions are interconnected. By consciously changing any one of these components, individuals can influence the other two. This is something I wholeheartedly believe in. It is only my self who is capable of being aware of and willing to change my thoughts, feelings, and actions. No one else has this power. Therefore I must remain vigilant when any of these three get out of whack. I’ve struggled at times with depression and I see how the negative thoughts contribute to the sad feelings and the resultant desire to sleep as much as possible and zone out on television. And on the flip side when I am meditating, paying attention to my thoughts I am able to stop any negativity from becoming the master of my existence. In other words I can recognize the negative thought and consciously chose another that is more positive and loving; thereby minimizing the potential of that train of negativity to gain momentum.
v. Emotional Mastery
Robbins teaches techniques for managing and directing emotions effectively. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and controlling one’s emotional state for personal empowerment. Emotions are powerful players in our lives and I used to think that they were random, genetically predetermined, and very confusing. I’ve done a lot of inner work over the past 14 or so years and I now believe in the realms that one (me included) should feel the emotions fully but don’t believe that they are true. They are valid and very human but they aren’t usually ever the truth. I suggest to myself and others to have no shame in feeling the feels but don’t stay there too long and don’t believe they are facts.
vi. Setting and Achieving Goals
Robbins provides a comprehensive framework for setting and achieving meaningful goals. He emphasizes the importance of clarity, purpose, and commitment in goal-setting. For me personally and historically, goal setting hasn’t been an easy one for me. I appreciate and will utilize the framework Robbins has laid out in this book. I know how fulfilling it is to have a checklist and check each thing off. It’s like a grown up scavenger hunt when the end is at hand and the prize of accomplishment are delicious.
vii. Creating Lasting Change
Robbins discusses strategies for making positive changes that last. He introduces concepts like the “Change Cycle” and provides tools to help individuals sustain their progress over time. What a gift to have guidance over time for life long personal growth. I hope that the positive changes I’ve made do contribute to a better world. It has for me so I can deduce that by improving myself I’ve improved the world and I believe that is the key for a world where heaven is a realized state of our lived lives.
3. How will this ideas help you in a practical way both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world if so how?
I know that in order to change the world, the way I see and operate in the world can change to fit whatever story I wish to create. So if I live purposelessly without much guidance, insight, curiosity then I will create that by default. I have a different desire in life and that is to live joyfully and authentically and that has required work, effort, pain, and ultimately a life I had only envisioned is now my reality. All of the concepts in this book are ideas and guidance that solidify the inherent value each of us possess and when we live with purpose and intention we create a new world. We can’t do it for anyone but ourselves and there is great challenge and reward in a well designed life. So one by one we are rising the tide of personal authenticity and power so that we can just live simply in this beautiful world. It’s an inside job but we can help each other discover our own unique divine selves and have fun along the way.
4. Quotes: are there any statements which the author made that particular got your attention? If so please quote and comment as to why they were important to you
“The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.”
I appreciate this quote because I’m a big believer in our capacity to narrate our lives. Im the only narrator of my life so I’ve wondered why it is that I keep thinking certain things over and and over again and then the aha moment that I can chose different things to think. And it’s worked. Victim mentality is pervasive in our world but it’s just a story we adopt. It’s a lifetime challenge to know this and then rewrite the narrative to something better. Chose a different story. Easier said than done but it’s so worth while!
“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that you’re in control of your life. If you don’t life controls you.”
Wow the pain and pleasure duality is so mystifying and alluring and at times confusing. Again, following the them of this book it is my challenge to learn how to use pain and pleasure to be at my command rather than me at their mercy. It takes serious desire to look at pain and pleasure and their role in either their control of us or our mastery of them.
“It’s the events in our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.”
My life (as with every person) has had some significant events that shook my entire universe to the core. I can chose how I tell those stories and how much weight they still carry on me. It’s again a lesson in how we talk to ourselves that is the most important thing to decipher and decode and rewrite if we chose to. My brothers early death is one such event and I can use it to elicit sympathy from others or to mope around (and I may have done such things) but it’s not something that I burden myself with anymore. It certainly reshaped my entire existence and identity but life goes on and life is what we make it out to be. It’s all a story, right?
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about or are there ideas which you disagree with? If so why?
There was nothing I read that I didn’t understand or agree with.
6. Did the book contain exercise for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all the exercise and did you find them helpful?
Yes there are exercises to do to improve the efficacy of reading this book.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous question? If so please comment.
No there is nothing I can muster up on this question.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from one to ten. Ten is good and is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful was the content? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 9
E. What is the over all rating you would give it? 9
Creating your Path through Leadership
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey in the book?
The main idea of this book is representing how this IIGL curriculum has become a self-guided study to encourage it’s members/students to utilize their inherent gifts and change the world one person at at time. This book shows how IIGL has impacted it’s students, staff and donors. It is a forum, in some respects, to allow others to see the benefits of this program which have changed the lives of some of the past students and graduates. It is a motivational book which allows the personal stories of this self guided program to inspire those who are currently enrolled. To become a leader in one’s community is the ultimate purpose of this program, and this book highlights the journeys of many of it’s accomplished members. It serves to inspire, educate, and motivate the community of IIGL to continue doing the good in this world that is so desperately needed.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Mentorship is a vital asset to the journey we are on as fellow students of this program. Mentors have been down the path I am currently on so they understand the nuances of how this form of study can be a challenge for greater personal development.
Mentors are simply people who have done the work and offer guidance on how to make the most of the lessons learned here. They are an excellent tool for those of us just starting out, and can play a vital role in continuing the desire to be leaders in the world. Leadership is a challenge, no doubt, with ups and downs and mentors can be great help in continuing the drive to do the hard work so that our impacts on our communities can be best received. They also provide a sense of community to us and create bridges that can strengthen the impact of this marvelous work. Mentors have played critical roles in my life, in recovery we have sponsors who act as a personal lifeline to help us keep on track with the challenges we inevitably will face living without our substance of choice. Mentors in work have also provided a safety net for me when situations come up that I’m not sure quite how to handle. It is a blessing to have a mentor and also to be one, as I have had the fortune of being on both sides of this mentorship aspect.
ii. To be a leader, one ought to be a lifelong learner.
To assume that at the end of a curriculum or set of teachings is the end all of that particular subject is inaccurate. There are always new ways of seeing the world, new ways of solving problems, and having a continuance of education is very appropriate. Throughout many of my careers, continuing education is a requirement because as I stated already, new ways of honing one’s expertise are always popping up. To stay current and cutting edge, learning throughout one’s career is very important. To assume that I have all the knowledge needed in a particular area is pompous and stifles new advancements which can best serve myself and those with whom I am working with.
iii. Communication is key.
This is such a widely known but often overlooked bit of living. Communication in relationships means success or failure. Most of us know this but practicing it often falls short. Whatever relationship we are involved in, good healthy strong intentional communication is often the indicator of positive, negative, or neutral outcomes. Obviously, I desire to have the healthiest communications in all my relations but I fall short often. This is when mentorship can assist, and the desire to admit fault, ask for forgiveness, and try better next time can make or break one’s success in life.
iv. Leadership is the process of influencing the activities of a group towards achievement.
To be an effective leader, I must find the power to influence others. Many, if not all of the books I have read as part of the IIGL curriculum focus powerfully on the power of influence. That to gain the trust and support of others, I must find the nuanced ways of influencing people to get behind me in a positive way. The best and worst of humanity have demonstrated the power of influence on others. I believe that the curriculum of this program will rightly guide us to use the power of influence on others to bring about positive changes in the world. After all that is why we are enrolled here, to make the world a better place by using our abilities in the most beneficial ways.
v. True happiness comes from living life for oneself rather than to please others.
I know I have power to change the world. I also know great struggle and doubt. Finding my joy in the world and sharing it with others has proven far more effective than spouting off things I don’t really have direct experience on. No greater teacher has there ever been for me but that of experience. As stated I’ve been to high highs and low lows, so I need not sap others experiences, mine have given me a treasure trove of life experiences that no one can deny. I have lived my life according to what I think others see as successful (parents in particular, but also society at large) and it didn’t turn out so well. I’ve worked too many jobs that suck the soul out of me simply to earn a paycheck and live. My experience has taught me that tapping into what makes my soul and spirit sing songs of joy are good enough no matter the amount of money or the “wow” factor that others may see. In other words, when I live doing what has made me joyful things fall into place and the universe meets me there. When I live for others approval I crash and burn.
vi. Personal development is a critical life long journey.
This is similar to other things I’ve typed so far, but it is very important to remember that as long as I live and breathe I hope I continue to evolve and grow as my experiences do the same. To become stagnant in any field, to believe I have it all figured out, to assume I need not learn any more is only detrimental to myself and therefore hindering any more positive change I can influence in my life.
vii. The universe is divinely ordered as such so too should our individual lives; as above so below.
To be successful, my life must be in order. To follow divine order, I must get my stuff in alignment. I have the belief that our individual spaces are reflections of our internal states of mind and I do believe that, albeit begrudgingly. My car and my room are chaos; not dirty but cluttered and scattered. This is reflective of my internal state of mind most of the time. I am aware of this quandary and often feel less than good about my surroundings. I am in the process of cleaning and organizing my external life so that my internal life can be more harmonious. There have been many times in my life where I have been extremely organized and intentional about my stuff. As of late this has fallen away.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Nothing else that I haven’t stated in Question 2!
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Every challenge carries a gift.”
I appreciate this quote because it is a relief to me. Life is a challenge, no doubt, and seemingly so more and more. This is a reminder that I have weathered many storms in life and always emerged with new found strength, resolve, kindness, compassion, and appreciation for the challenges of life. Sometimes I wish the challenges would stop, but I also know how fortunate I really am to be afforded the life I have. So remembering that every challenge carries a gift helps me keep on keeping on.
“It’s our choice.”
I like this quote because it is a reminder that I have the choice how I narrate my life.. Me and only me. No-one else is inside my head telling the story of my life, it is only I and given that I have the power to chose. That is a big deal. I remind myself of that often. I find my mind to be a very curious thing… often wondering why I keep thinking the same kind of thoughts, and then I remember I can change the thoughts, the narration in my mind. If I want I can look at life as a big mess of challenges and seemingly unfair situations, or I can chose to reframe it that I am blessed beyond measure with the people and circumstances in my life. I think this is one of the greatest challenges and gifts we can give to one another, the reminder that it is up to each of us to frame how we tell the story of our lives. And no matter what we chose, it’s all ok. In the end, I believe I can look at my life with love and compassion for the journey I chose to take.
“I was created to be an original, not a photocopy.”
Heck yeah on this one. I am one unique human and that gives me pride, not in an egotistical way, but in a humble way (I hope). I most certainly have not lived a life of “normalcy” whatever that means. I have carved out a very unique path, and my parents and best friends tell me often I should write a book. And I will. I have had the blessing of many lives lived in one. I have lived with people in the “lowest” of circumstances, at a sober house which housed destitute people, most straight out of jail or prison, as we who inhabited this community were broke, un-insured, and in need of a safe place to put our lives back together. I have also lived in the company of very privileged people – one guy whose father owns the second largest home in North Carolina, and I got to visit there for a few nights, and actually got lost inside their sizable home. I can feel at home with just about anyone, and that is a unique gift that only I have experienced.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
There were some suggestions from the book and I did utilize them as I read along.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No there isn’t.
Please rate the following questions in a scale of 1 to 10. Ten is good and One is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful was the content? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)
1. What is the main idea the author is hoping the reader gains from this book?
The main idea in “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” is that personal and professional effectiveness is not solely based on techniques or quick fixes but rather on developing and embodying a set of fundamental habits that lead to long-term success and fulfillment. The author proposes a holistic approach to personal development and effectiveness. He emphasizes principles that govern both individual and interpersonal aspects of life.
The Seven Habits serve as a framework for cultivating a proactive mindset, aligning actions with values, managing time effectively, fostering positive relationships, and continuously seeking improvement. Covey suggests that by adopting these habits, individuals can achieve a balance between personal and professional life, develop strong interpersonal skills, and contribute to meaningful and lasting positive change in various aspects of their lives.
The book encourages readers to shift their paradigm and adopt a more principled-centered approach to decision-making and goal-setting. He writes about the importance of character development, integrity, and aligning one’s actions with fundamental principles to achieve long-term success and happiness.
In essence, the main idea is that effectiveness is not just about what you do but also about who you are becoming in the process, and by cultivating these seven habits, individuals can significantly enhance their overall effectiveness and fulfillment in life.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your life.
i. Be Proactive
Take initiative and responsibility for your life. Be proactive rather than reactive. Focus on what you can control and influence. These are important to me because I find being proactive is better than being reactive. My life is mine for the to create and is no-one else’s responsibility. Whenever there have been times I needed to improve myself in some area, it was and always will be up to me to take the initiative to change.
ii. Begin with the End in Mind
This idea prompts me to have clearly defined long-term goals prior to beginning any task so that I can proceed with purpose. It is helpful to create a mental picture of what I want the outcome to be as well. This is spoken of by many people and rightfully so. It works.
iii. Put First Things First
This idea helps shift a to-do list into a manageable, accomplishable task. It encourages me to focus on what’s most important rather than what seems to most urgent. It’s a way of making overwhelming lists more easily digestible.
iv. Think Win-Win
Whenever I am able to see things as mutually beneficial in relationships and interactions, I am more at ease and able to accomplish the task at hand with less stress and more excitement. I operate best when I feel that I can find a solution that benefits all parties involved, rather than some other being the “winner” and the other a “loser.”
v. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
This is a big one. I’ve loved this idea since I first heard it in church. I think most conflict in the world stems from not understanding the “other.” A desire to understand who or whatever is on the other side is magnificiently helpful. This can be done by developing empathetic listening skills, and truly understanding the other’s perspective. Communication is and always seems to be the solution to any disharmony.
vi. Synergize
By fostering teamwork, I find the whole to be greater and more useful than the sum of its parts. This concept encourages true collaboration and teamwork to strengthen the outcome – that by working with one another our outcome will be far stronger than if we went at things solo – bulldozing our way through life rarely creates harmony, but more often discontent and conflict. True leaders must harness the idea of synergism in order to be effective.
vii. Continuous Improvement and Renewal
Leaders who take care of their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being are likely to be more resilient, compassionate, and capable of contributing positively to the well-being of others. This I’ve seen in many of the fields of work that I’ve participated in – having a requirement of continuing education so that we are informed of changes that are more impactful and beneficial to those we serve. If everyone was on a journey of continuous improvement and renewal we’d be a lot more harmonious.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping to create a better world? If so, how?
Personal Responsibility and Proactivity: The emphasis on being proactive and taking personal responsibility encourages individuals to be agents of positive change. By instilling a sense of responsibility for one’s own actions, people may become more mindful of their impact on the world and take constructive steps to contribute positively.
Values-Based Decision-Making: The habit of beginning with the end in mind encourages individuals to clarify their values and create a personal mission statement. When people make decisions aligned with their core principles, there is a greater likelihood of ethical and socially responsible behavior, leading to positive societal outcomes.
Effective Communication and Understanding: The habit of seeking first to understand, then to be understood promotes empathic communication and active listening. Improved communication can foster understanding and collaboration, reducing conflicts and enhancing relationships on both personal and global levels.
Collaboration and Synergy: The habit of synergizing encourages collaboration and teamwork. In a world facing complex challenges, the ability to work together toward common goals is essential. Synergistic efforts can lead to innovative solutions and positive societal transformations.
Time Management and Prioritization: The habit of putting first things first encourages individuals to focus on what truly matters. When people prioritize activities that align with long-term goals and values, they are more likely to contribute meaningfully to their communities and society as a whole.
Global Citizenship: The principles in the book promote a mindset of global citizenship. As individuals develop a sense of responsibility beyond their immediate surroundings, they may engage in actions that contribute to the well-being of the broader global community.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
”The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
I find this quote to very appealing because often life can become full of to do’s. This can overwhelming and make me crazy. However if I schedule what’s most important on the list, tackle that it feels better to me, more manageable. My Grandma used to say – do the one thing only, a nice way of putting one thing at a time into.
”Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
This is a big one for me. I’ve had courses in listening practices so that I can be a better communicator, particularly listening. I find most people listen to reply, and I’m guilty of that too. I am able, at times, to shift my auto response of holding a reply till I am able to speak it into existence to fully listening to what the other is saying.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and if so why?
No, I found everything in this book incredibly useful and easily understood.
6. Did the book contain exercise for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all the exercises and did you find them helpful?
The whole book, in my opinion is a exercise to complete, in that the ideas presented encourage me to be empowered in my personal and professional life. There were a few exercises that were suggested in the book and they were helpful to me for sure.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment?
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10