Kyle Hemauer – Assessments

As Man Thinketh
Assessment by Julius Charles (USA)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

I believe the message is, what we think we become. How we think will ultimately impact our lives and those around us.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. The idea that thoughts can remain secret, but they cannot as they eventually manifest themselves outwardly for others to see.

ii. Changing one’s mindset to positive thinking will drastically alter one’s situations for the better.

iii. Bastille thoughts manifest into drunkenness and sensuality thereby causing destitute situations and even disease.

iv. Impure thoughts manifest into confusing and distracting habits.

v. Thoughts of fear and doubt will manifest into indecision and irresolute habits leading to failure and indigence.

vi. Laziness manifests into uncleanliness and dishonesty.

vii. The idea that our minds are like a garden.

What we water and care for will grow into something beautiful and pure rather than negative bad thoughts that grow into weeds and shrubbery.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?

These ideas will help me in my life as I am able to relate to all these in some way or another. I believe these principles or ideas will help me by serving as a reminder that it is easy to slip into such thoughts thereby manifesting them outwardly. In keeping these principles and applying them to my life I believe I can then help others and educate them along their journey as I believe we have all at some point in our lives struggled with some of these if not all.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

The statements that were made in regard to what are thoughts eventually lead to in answer #2 are what stuck out to me the most, as stated previously I can relate. I have been lazy which did cause me to be dishonest such as: Not wanting to go into work so I would make up reasons of not wanting to go due to wanting to party instead or partying the night before with friends and drunkenness. Or having to feel enslaved to people that I was borrowing money from. Or I could use the example of fear and doubt which would cause me go be indecisive about things thereby causing me to lack confidence etc. For me it all made sense. In reading this section each thing the author mentioned made sense to me and I was therefore able to reflect on my life to see if it all fit and it did. All the fore mentioned thoughts of what the negative thoughts crystallized into was true for me even with the drunkenness causing disease. I once got Chlamydia from my actions and not to mention my actions in the past hurt a lot of women with my lack of self-awareness in how I treated them.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

The book was easy to read and understand. It was very insightful as I will be referring back to this book often.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

There were no obvious exercises however I do believe that there are indirect exercises to do and practice such as practice changing our mindsets and practicing gratefulness rather than thinking negative when things are not going our way.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

No comments other than maybe the title. I feel that this book can be read by not just men but also women, unless there already is a women’s version. The title may deter women from reading it but both sex struggle with a lot of the same things.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 7
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10

 

 

Jonathan Livingston Seagull
Assessment by Julius Charles (USA)

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?

I believe that the author is conveying the message of, do not conform to this world or that of society. Chasing after what you believe in is more important and should be at the forefront, not society’s standards or money ( I think the food in this book was referring to money. I also think the description the author gives is pretty insightful. The flying that Jonathan begins to do is going well at first then doubt creeps in; the doubt is the wind. As soon as the gust of wind comes it throws him off and he is no longer able to fly. Perhaps that gust of wind can be described as the subtle voice in our heads that tell us we can’t, when in all actuality we can if we choose too.

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. Not to give in to a false narrative that it is better to go with the flock but rather it is best to do what is best for you.

I grew up in Boston, a city were it was very common to follow the norm, paly sports which I loved, go to college graduate get married , stay within a “bubble” and not venture out and be your own person so others would not think you to be “strange.”

ii. Pressure form others can lead to you losing or missing your purpose in life.

Trying to make others around me happy. Fulfilling their goals for my life. I thought I was living the life I was supposed to be living.

iii. Not finding your purpose will only make you unhappy.

Jonathan sought to try to please his parents and meet their expectations for his life. I have been there and tried that only to prolong my spiritual journey.

iv. Some may shun you or criticize you for your decisions as Jonathan was cast out from his family and flock.

When I chose to go on my spiritual journey my mother assumed I was no longer “Christian” and was practicing “evil” things to which she tried to preach to me in which I rebutted with other scriptures. I tried to teach her with an open mind whereas she was trying to get me to conform.

v. Sometimes following your true path can be difficult and feel lonely but if we stay the course, we will find that those that we are meant to find will find us or we will find them.

Along my journey I lost some friends and felt out of place but in staying on my path I found my Tribe so to speak.

vi. Money isn’t everything as Jonathan began to focus on his true calling, he did not focus or concern himself with eating his knowledge and learning was his sustenance.

We live in a world where we are taught and trained to work and work hard for money as this is how we are labeled in our success rather than those things that are not tangible.

vii. During our struggles in trying to “find our true self” we lose sleep or find ourselves lacking sleep.

At times I have found myself to be restless due to knowing that I am not meeting my full potential. I noticed when Jonathan met his tribe, the author mentions that Jonathan fell asleep. I took this to mean that he was at peace.

viii. Reaching “perfection.”

It is not perfection in the way that we think it to mean but perfection I believe is being used in this book to mean purpose. It is a reminder that we all move at our own pace and also not to give into the peer pressure of others or even the pressures of our parents. As Jonathan’s mother seem to be focused on him meeting the standards of society and that of others. Upholding an “image” seem to be more important to her than what her son wanted. She seemed to think his goals and aspirations were to “low” as if to say, “aim higher.” The idea of keeping up with the Joneses is what comes to mind.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?

What stuck with me the most was the idea that people look at what we do as not good enough or as if our goals are “low hanging fruit” as did his mother. She thought he was “too good” for what he was doing, as if to say you’re setting your expectations too low which translate in reality to, “your life’s choices are embarrassing me. It was important to me as it reminds me of my past relationships with my mother.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.

Also, what caught my attention was how they talked about past lives;

“How Jonathan had learned so much in this life, so he did not have to repeat so many things over again in past lives.”

I am hoping to finally learn in this life how to handle money better and to have that relationship with money that will free my mind and that will give me that capability of flourishing that I may help others.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

I was a little confused with what the meaning was during Jonathan’s transition from when he decided to give up and the part where the author mentions him seeing a bird or flock with short wings? Yes, that’s the answer says the author. This somehow gave Jonathan an idea and he was then able to fly. I don’t quit get that analogy or what it was supposed to symbolize.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

No there were not any exercises that I saw in the book

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

It wasn’t the greatest book or most enjoyable to read. However it did have a great message
Contents were overall straight forward and easy to read
Easy for the most part. Somewhat hard finding some of the meanings the author was trying to relay
It wouldn’t be my first choice

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 5
B. How helpful were the contents? 5
C. How easy was it to understand? 5
D. Would you recommend it to others? 5
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 5

PsychoCybernetics
Assessment by Kyle Hemauer (USA)

1. What is the main idea the author is trying to convey?

The main idea in this book is how our self-image is a story we create and live in accordance to, that we have the individual power to re-write our story and replace negative with positive thoughts. Basically the way we think about ourselves is how we proceed in living, and that we can change out the old negative patterns and replace with more life-affirming thoughts and behaviors which will change our personality to one that is more in alignment with freedom and love.

2. What are the 7 ideas that are personally important to me and why? List these 7 ideas followed by an explanation of why it was important to me. Use personal examples from your own life.

i. The way we operate in life is largely based on unconscious beliefs about ourselves that we accept as true and these beliefs mold our personality and how we move through life.

I find this to be incredibly accurate as I am able to piece together my life by reviewing my past which includes my thinking/feeling as best as I can and see how certain truths I held are actually not facts, but emotional attributes that I have accepted as truths. And it’s fascinating, and disturbing, to realize that much of what I know about myself are unpleasant stories that I made up, no one but me!
Our self-image is changeable.

ii. Thank God for this revelation!

The author uses numerous examples of how changing our inner monologue can bring about significant changes in one’s behaviors, personality, and character. I have used mantras and positive affirmations to help align my self-image to be more self accepting and loving and it has worked. Each of us has instilled by our creator a “life instinct” which works for each of us through a Creative/Success mechanism.

iii. This life instinct is tuned toward all things positive and affirming health and happiness are the goal and result of honing our built-in success mechanisms.

It is up to me to tune my mechanism toward success goals rather than failure goals. Historically, however, my mechanism was self-defeating and negative which led me through many challenging situations. I held a deep belief for much of my life that I was flawed and doomed to a life of loneliness and depression, and I can see how that belief was reinforced anytime I was able to feed that thought pattern. It is a lot of work to undo such familiar thought patterns and replace them with more positive affirming ones but it is possible! A key difference between humans and animals is that man has creative imagination that man is more than a creature, but also a creator.

iv. The part of the book where differences between man and beast was easily understood.

Both have instincts for survival ways of behaving that ensure our survival, but man also has the ability to create his own life while animals simply live to survive. I have historically deemed myself as not being creative, but that is simply not true. I have created my life, and it is easier to see looking back than it is as it unfolds. I see how powerful my thoughts are, and how what I’ve thought often materializes. Knowing this, I am much more careful with the mechanisms of my mind. Our physical brain and nervous system make up a servo-mechanism that we use and operates much like a computer, but we are not a machine.

v. Once I am able to know that my thoughts and actions are results of my choices and my monologue/my story I have the key to continue old patterns of thought/behavior or to take creative control and repopulate the old with positive, life-affirming/enhancing thoughts.

It is simply an inside job. My brain is changeable, and I am the only one who can facilitate the change to something beneficial rather than destructive.
The idea that we are our own healers is another idea I resonated with in this book.

vi. This theme is prevalent in this book.

There is heavy emphasis that changing our monologue with ourselves can create lives that thrive rather than lives that are painful and pointless. I have had lots of help throughout my life but the work lies within me. The work to improve my mind can seem formidable at times, but the results have always proven well worth it. It is empowering and daunting to know that, ultimately, it is up to me to do the work to live a life that is meaningful and productive.
Finally, the concept of mistakes/failures being groundwork for growth rather than attributes that define one’s self, is helpful for me.

vii. All of us make mistakes and “fail” at things.

The lesson derived from this book is that these are all part of life, but not definitions of who we are individually. When I can see errors from my life, I have the choice to accept that as a defining moment or a lesson to keep on keeping on with life. The book uses the example of how we “talk” to ourselves for example to say “I failed” versus “I am a failure” have big implications. To believe that I am a failure is old thinking, to realize that failures are tools for growth is a concept that will bring much relief to me and how I think.

3. How will these ideas or lessons help me in a practical way, both in my daily personal life and in helping create a better world?

Basically this book reinforces the power that lies within each of us to change ourselves first, and in doing that, we change the world. I know that for any good to come from my life, I must be a master of self and this book is a helpful tool to utilize in that pursuit. Often times I have lived without much intention, I’ve let life drag me along without much effort at loving myself. It’s caused a great deal of suffering. I also realize that much of that suffering is self-induced. The battle here is that I am the only one who can change my thinking (which is the meat of this book) but it takes work and intention; daily to reprogram my mind to positive rather than negative. I have used the visualization techniques described in this book to see myself being successful in my current schooling for massage therapy and will continue to do so because it works. Whenever I catch my mind telling a lie I am quicker to replace that thought with something that is more positive and aligned with the life I want to live.

4. Quotes: Are there any statements the author made that got my attention? If so, please quote them and tell why they were important.

“Look forward, not backward.”

The reason this is significant to me is that I’ve always inherently known that I function much better when I have something in the future that excites me (like a vacation or reunion with an old friend). It is such an easy concept and keeps me excited about life. When my focus is on the past, there is often a sense of nostalgia and sadness that can be present. When my focus is on something upcoming, my days are more exciting and purposeful.

“No one can decide what your thoughts shall be but yourself.”

This quote is another that I’ve learned in my lifetime, recently in fact. I had an “aha” moment when I became aware that the only person narrating my life was me or the me that lives inside my head. That knowing has been revelatory in that it gives me permission to re-write my past negative narrative, and replace it with a narrative of personal redemption and triumph. Life on Earth is heavy and dense, and we are all warriors.

“It is merely a matter of what we choose to give primary attention to and what thoughts we hold in the mind.”

I have taken on the idea that what we give attention to is where energy flows. That being the case, it is an important reminder to check my thoughts to discern whether they are bringing about conditions that I desire or that I wish to eliminate. Ruminating on negative thoughts only brings them on stronger, and vice versa. This is another example of the individual power to change one’s thinking and therefore one’s life and therefore the world.

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?

This book was easy to read and understand and apply to my life. There weren’t any significant ideas that I had difficulty comprehending.

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?

This book does have exercises at the end of most chapters to guide the reader in a new way of living. I found them to be very valuable and will continue to implement them as I go forth in life.

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.

There are none on my end.

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.

A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10