As a Man Thinketh
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
How/what an individual turns out to be in life is a direct result of the thoughts he harbors. What goes on internally in the brain, consciously or otherwise, manifests itself in what an individual does, their situation, their state of health and ultimately their success or failure in life.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. A noble and God-like character is not a thing of chance but is the natural result of continued effort in right thinking:
I am a Christian who above all else values her relationship with God. My ultimate reason for being is to serve Him and walk in His ways and do right by Him. In order to achieve this I choose to walk in God’s way and this idea highlights that this is attainable through power of a persistent drive and effort in positive thinking.
ii. As a being of power, intelligence, and love, and the lord of his own thoughts, man holds the key to every situation:
Every situation unfolds because of how I personally react to it. The impulse to fight or flee, argue or remain quiet, laugh or cry, in any situation will shape how that situation will ultimately unfold. Because I am in control of what I think, I ultimately have the power to shape my circumstances using the tools of power, intelligence and love. Being the lord of my own thoughts instills a confidence in me in knowing that even though external factors exist which might not be in my control, such as two people fighting in the street, what I think about them and the situation is totally up to me.
iii. Discovery is totally a matter of application, self-analysis and experience:
The notion of being positive with your thoughts is not automatic. It requires training of the mind and experience means the more it becomes a habit the more it becomes natural. This idea is positive in that even thought I may not have attained complete conscious mastery of thought; I can teach it to myself and develop the art through experience. I am a frequent traveler and these results in having significant amounts of time away from my routine area of work. I will use these opportunities to self-analyze and meditate.
iv. Whether or not you work on structuring/improving your thoughts- they will always bear fruit
Time is constantly in motion and does not stop just because I may be going through a rough patch, or because I’m feeling particularly lazy. The seasons come and go and it is up to me to make sure that I work on improving myself in all the aspects of life. If I continue to concentrate on the negative and harbor ill thoughts, they will bear fruit when it is ripe. It is imperative that I have an immediate start on cultivating my mind so that from today as each day goes by, I have positively contributed to reaping fruit which I will be proud of.
v. Men are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves.
I have realized that every person (myself included) wants to be successful. I have so many ideas in which I can generate income, and I have set goals for myself which will be an indicator for success. When however an opportunity to learn, attend a workshop appears it seems as if this will take away from my productive hours. Sometimes I am blinkered to fast results and I forget to invest in knowledge. Meditation and self-analysis have also suffered neglect in my everyday schedules but I realize that these aspects of self-improvement have a direct impact on achieving the very same goals I value and have set for myself.
vi. Blessedness, not material possessions, is the measure of right thought; wretchedness, not lack of material possessions is the measure of wrong thought:
Success is not measured ultimately by materialistic wealth. Financial resources have been the benchmark of success. This idea has broadened my view in that success is not a one-dimensional materialistic measurable. Indeed one can attain materialistic wealth but be “wretched” and live a horrible life.
vii. Individual responsibility must be absolute.
Often there is a temptation to try and shift blame of what is happening in my life to another individual- family, friends, and business partners. The notion of absolute responsibility does not allow me to accommodate anyone else’s action and blame them for my situation/circumstance. This is an empowerment idea which puts me in control of me.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
These ideas have helped me to appreciate that my thoughts are a powerful weapon in my life. My situation and circumstances are a direct reflection on what I choose to allow my mind to dwell on. I am passionate about social entrepreneurship- coming up with innovations that improve society’s problems and making them self-sustaining profitable businesses. If I am able to work towards achieving that positive impact in society, passion with a purpose, I will begin to influence my sphere of people and this will have a ripple effect and create a better world one person at a time. Starting with me.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Man is made or unmade by himself.”
Just as an individual can build themselves up to success, they can equally contribute to their own downfall.
“Man is always the master, even in his weakest and most abandoned state.”
You are never in a position when you cannot control how you respond to a situation
“He that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.”
Biblical quotation which resonates with my Christian beliefs.
“Circumstance does not make the man, it reveals him to himself.”
True character comes out when an individual is placed in difficult circumstances
“Men do not attract what they want, but what they are.”
Positive thoughts yield positive fruits and vice-versa. I may want what is good but if I constantly think negatively that is what I will attract.
“Achievement of any kind is the crown of effort, the diadem of thought.”
There is no accidental success that exists.
“A man only begins to be a man when he ceases to whine and revile.”
Anyone can complain, it takes a mature, grown-up person to toughen up and take it in without moaning about circumstances
“Until thought is linked with purpose, there is no intelligent accomplishment.”
Everyone needs a goal to work towards.
“The strength of the effort is the measure of the result.”
What you sow is what you reap
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
I do not agree with the idea that man is the shaper of his environment. I believe an individual is in charge of how he responds and reacts to his environment and surroundings to a greater extent than what his actual surroundings are- i.e. natural acts of God; politics. The notion that every man is where he is by the law of his being does not bode well with my belief and the situations I’ve seen. As I mentioned earlier, I believe an individual’s response/reaction to a situation is what they can control 100%. Indeed the reaction can lead to changes in the situation itself but before that chain of events has ocurred it is my opinion that a person cannot be responsible for his surroundings.
Suffering is always the effect of wrong thought in some direction- this is not 100%. Some people experience droughts; flooding; wars and other natural disasters which cause suffering not because of their thoughts. Other people some from diseases which are not a result of their thoughts- cancers, disabilities, road accidents caused by the other driver and such like
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
None.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 7
D. Would you recommend it to others? 7
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 8
Jonathan Livingston Seagull
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
When you have a vision and set goals it doesn’t follow that everyone else will instantly buy into your ideas and see from your perspective. You have to stand firm in what you believe in despite what others around see and you have to work hard to attain the vision.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Practice makes perfect
I am a trained aircraft maintenance engineer who does not have any formal training in business studies, finance/accounting, law but who decided to become a social entrepreneur. I am passionate about what I do and have had to learn a lot of aspects quite quickly in order to cope. The idea that practice makes perfect spurs me on to continue learning and experiencing the entrepreneurial ventures because that is how I will refine my skills to back up my passion.
ii. You will face discouragement even from those close to you whom you love and who love you
Unfortunately not everyone interprets a situation the way I do and the way I see it. When I perceive an opportunity not everyone sees it as such. Resistance to my choices has come at different times in my life but of note is when I decided to leave my formal employment and migrate back to my home country to found my businesses. I appreciate that my family and friends meant well and probably advised me mainly out of love, but not all the advice was is support of the intended move.
iii. Even if you try to conform, when you’re meant for a higher purpose you will not be happy and comfortable until you achieve your goal
I have personally experienced this in the few years I worked in my qualified profession of aircraft maintenance engineering. The spirit to start something else, to be my own boss was dominant and resulted in an unhappy period. I was good at my job but I was not content in what I was doing and felt I had to break out and start my own business
iv. You will stall and fall in your journey to achieving
It is not a smooth ride to success and to achieving one’s goals. There are pitfalls along the way, learning curves which cost- financially, physical and emotionally on the journey to reaching set goals and targets.
v. Sometimes in the lowest moments that is where you’ll find a solution to your problems.
Tiny wing solution; From my experience I work best under pressure/or in difficult situations. It gives me an allowance to be innovative. I am also proud to be associated with finding solutions when the chips are down
vi. The zeal to want to share what has been learned
A strong idea that also comes through from the book is the zeal and eagerness to share what Jonathan has learnt. In my life and experiences I have realized that I learn better from watching others, sharing and talking to them about how they have succeeded. It is also important for me to impart the knowledge and experience I’ve learnt to those who’re ore junior either in age or business experience.
vii. Kindness and love are the greatest lessons
My Christian values resonate very well with this idea. You can have everything else- patience, kindness, charity, willingness to teach and learn but if you don’t have love then all is in vain. When love becomes your driving force, and your core reason for doing whatever you want to do in life there comes a sense of fulfillment and contentedness to your achievements.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Practically I am going to practice and learn consistently to business well, to become a profitable entity and to effect positive changes in my community. I am going to set goals to achieve my vision and mission and work hard to get to the milestones. My vision is not going to be a static one because as I learn and excel I will begin to see more opportunities and aim for more than what I have started with. Learning will come through reading, studying, sharing experiences but a significant portion will be from my own individual effort to work on and refine my weaknesses.
It is important for me to pass on my skills and experience to those who are younger than me and or less experienced. There are always people in the community who might have similar ambitions to start up their own business or become leaders but need mentorship and guidance. Even though I also need mentorship the information and experiences I have gone through will be valuable to another individual. Love is an important element in setting out goals, accomplishing them and reaching one’s full potential. Love should be the drive and main motivational factor in doing business. When love anchors all my projects and businesses this means that I will be ethical, honest and constructive in my dealings.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“The gull sees farthest who flies highest. In order to get a broader vision you have to seek to acquire more.”
You have to be a high achiever and you will see more opportunities. Those who put in the most effort will have access to more opportunities.
“Everything that limits us we have to put aside.”
There are tendencies which I have, socially which do not support or aid me in attaining my goals. I have to make necessary sacrifices and leave them behind in order to realise my full potential. Identifying these limits is a great step in the right direction.
“Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding, find out what you already know, and you’ll see the way to fly.”
There is more to life, more attainable goals than what I see in my day to day life because I am restricted by a number of factors. Just because I cannot see it at present doesn’t mean it is non-existent.
“Instead of being enfeebled by age the Elder had been empowered by it.”
With experience comes confidence and a self-assuredness to carry out one’s duties. As I grow older I shouldn’t count it a disadvantage that I am getting older. Should embrace it and use it to my advantage
“Perfection doesn’t have limits.”
I cannot define the ceiling of perfection. There’s always room to do better and improve. When I get good at one thing I have to aim to find a way to do it better continuously.
“To fly as fast as thought, to anywhere that is. You must begin by seeing that you are there.”
I must mentally accept my vision, and see myself as a success in my mind before I get to the destination.
“Keep working on love.”
I must make a conscious effort to love and to keep loving everyone.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
I did not understand the concept of time travel and space travel. I also didn’t understand whether Jonathan died and came back a as a ghost or whether he resurrected Fletcher seagull.
Heaven is not a place or a time. It is about being perfect- I do not agree with this statement. My Christian beliefs are that there is life after death. If one has followed God’s commandments and lived in righteousness that is when they will experience heaven
The only true law is that which leads to freedom- I do not agree with this statement. The only true law is to Love, as Jesus loved. “Forget about faith!” Chiang said it time and again. “You didn’t need faith to fly, you needed to understand flying.” I do not agree with this statement. Faith, a belief in what you don’t see is an important concept in my Christian life,
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
No exercises contained in the book.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
PsychoCybernetics
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The way we see ourselves as individuals, our self-image is what drives us to achieve, or not to achieve. When we consciously picture ourselves in a state of success, the subconscious automatically works to help us attain that visual which we have consciously set for ourselves.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. “Self-image” sets the boundaries of individual accomplishment
It is important for me to realize that it is not how others see me, but instead how I see myself which is crucial in achieving my goals and being successful. As an individual I am a very likeable person and I relate well with individuals from different levels in society. The danger however is that occasionally there are individuals who intentionally or unintentionally disprove/disrespect and talk down on me. When this happens, I have often let it pull me down and begin to doubt my own abilities. If truly self-image sets the boundaries of my accomplishments, then no external factors can limit my ability. I am enterprising and innovative. Hard-working and ambitious. What I need to do is focus on the big picture. Let go of the insecurities and thoughts of self-doubt which come up occasionally when I dare to dream big.
ii. The science of Cybernetics does not tell us that “man” is a machine but that man has and uses a machine. Moreover, it tells us how that machine functions and how it can be used.
The author goes on to use an example of a car. The car does not drive itself but has a driver to command how it operates. My mind and body are tools which will assist me to get to the destination and goals I have set for myself. The “I” in me, my individuality, my thoughts, my personality, will drive these machines whether consciously or sub-consciously. I have control over what happens in both states directly and indirectly.
iii. The torpedo accomplishes its goal by going forward, making errors, and continually correcting them.
When a target is set, and an object is propelled towards it, many deviations may occur due to external factors. As long as I have a clear cut vision of my target and I have started heading for them then I am in the right track. The concept of achieving the target/goal does not take a direct path. I am going to face set-backs, distractions, decelerators, detractors. Whenever I falter, make mistakes I need to continue moving forward and adjust myself so that I am not permanently misguided to my goal. Constant checks and balances will assist to ensure I still follow the correct trajectory.
iv. A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his environment.
This notion highlights to me that I am truly the master of “my” universe. It shows me that nothing is outside my control. My reactions to situations and my perception of what occurs around me are all anchored on what I have told myself is true. In as much as this is a liberating thought it also indicates to me that I have no control of how others around me will react to me or to any given situation. Their own imaginations of what is true and correct will define their reactions and I accept I cannot have control over this.
v. Utilizing the Power of Rational Thinking
Conscious thinking is what ultimately controls sub-conscious thinking. Errors and mistakes which have been made in the past should not be continually referred to as that is not what defines me or my success. When I have not succeeded I should use the lesson to focus on how I have corrected the mistake and hold on to the positive outcomes and positive steps taken thereafter. According to the author- a man should make up his mind with emphasis as to what he rationally believes, and should never allow contrary irrational beliefs to pass unchallenged or obtain a hold over him, however brief.
vi. Ingredients of the “Success-Type” Personality and How to Acquire them.
It is very possible to inculcate within myself a success-type personality. The formula as stated by the author is to have a sense of direction; understand what is going on around you; have the courage to stand up for what you believe in spite of anything or anyone else; be charitable; have a good dose of self-esteem, self-confidence and self-acceptance.
vii. Developing a more self-reliant attitude.
This idea is a positive notion in my day to day life as it encourages me to be independent and to have more control of my life and situation. It is easy to relax and blame other people for the situation I might find myself in but self-reliance eliminates the dependency syndrome. In the book the author refers to self-reliance as a sure way to discard emotional scars.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
I have practically started setting and seeing a clear vision of where I want to be and making steps to get to my goals. I am determined to be self-reliant and to be in charge of my emotions and reactions to any situation. I intend to fully, to whatever extent is possible, be in charge of my emotions and state of happiness.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“As I use it, success has nothing to do with prestige symbols, but with creative accomplishment. Rightly speaking no man should attempt to be a success, but every man can and should attempt to be successful.”
It is important to me to know that every success. I achieve might not be accompanied by trophies or acknowledgements from my peers but that does not take anything away from the fact that it is a success.
“Discovering your real self means the difference between freedom and the compulsions of conformity.”
I am individual, there can be no one other than me who speaks, feels, emotes the way I do. I should be content in myself and not try to fit into other person’s idea of normal
“Do the thing and you will have the power.”
Unless I do something I am not going to be able to do it!
“Stop measuring yourself against their” standards. You are not them and can never measure up. Neither can “they” measure up to yours—nor should they.”
I am entitled to my beliefs and perceptions without fear of victimization, so are others.
We do not all have to see things in the same manner.
“Ideas Are Changed, Not by “Will,” But by Other Ideas.”
To get out of doing something repetitively, do something new and different
“You simply must learn that if you can interest the neighbor you can interest all the neighbors, or the world, and not be frozen by magnitudes.”
I should not set boundaries or limitations for my abilities.
“When once a decision is reached and execution is the order of the day, dismiss absolutely all responsibility and care about the outcome.”
I should not let anything deter me from achieving what I’ve set out to achieve. This includes over-thinking ideas
King Solomon said in his Proverbs: “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dryeth up the bones.”
Happiness is as good as medicine and does good to the body, mind and soul
“Happiness is not the reward of virtue,” said Spinoza, “but virtue itself; nor do we delight in happiness because we restrain our lusts; but, on the contrary, because we delight in it, therefore are we able to restrain them.”
I cannot rely on achievements to make me happy. I should be happy in order to achieve
“It doesn’t matter who’s right, but what’s right.”
Truth should not be a matter of where it is coming from but the fact that it is truth
“Touch a thistle timidly, and it pricks you; grasp it boldly and its spines crumble.”
When you have a go at something, go with all your heart and strength
“When we feel hurt or feel offended, the feeling is entirely a matter of our own response.”
I am in control of how I feel
“You Make Mistakes; mistakes do not make you.”
I am not defined by what I have done wrong in the past.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
“Psychology, which began with the study of man’s psyche, or soul, almost ended by depriving man of his soul.” I do not agree. The study itself has been good in getting to understand an aspect of the human being which was necessary.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes it did. I have been doing the relaxation exercises and the visualization exercises to assist me in having a clear vision of my goals and to keep me in a relaxed happy mood.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Keys to Success
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The resonating theme in the book is that an individual can be successful in any aspect of life they wish to succeed in by following 17 principles. The author has observed different individuals who have succeeded in their different fields and has attributed the accomplishments to the 17 principles.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Develop definiteness of purpose
Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of accomplishing goals. When one has a clear picture of what has to be achieved, what heights and achievements are going to make life worth living and it is clear-cut then the mind starts to focus on that goal and is focused on attaining that objective.
I personally have a number of objectives and targets I want to reach in my life at certain stages. I have managed however to de-clutter my ambitions and objectives by introspecting and ascertaining what I want to achieve. All my dreams and aspirations have to tie up to one ultimate clear goal which will be fed into by the different aspects. I choose to be a social entrepreneur starting up and stirring businesses that will bring economic empowerment to the hard-working women in my country.
ii. Strategic alliances are important
It is necessary to have a mastermind group which shares my vision or directly compliments my vision. A lot can be learned from other people’s experiences. It also helps to achieve faster and better results by delegating those experienced in a certain field to carry out specialized tasks.
A mastermind group which is strategically handpicked will assist in achieving milestones towards accomplishing my definite purpose in life. It is also crucial to constantly meet up with the alliance and ascertain targets and roles for meeting those targets.
iii. I have the power to assemble an attractive personality
An attractive personality is an admirable trait. It invokes respect and attention from peers, strangers and subordinates. An attractive personality prompts those that surround you to be drawn to you and to buy into your vision and goals.
There a number of aspects which contribute to an attractive personality some of which can tend to be overlooked. The author highlights several aspects and of the ones which are listed I paid special attention to my weak points i.e. tone of voice; frankness of manner; emotional control and facial expression.
It’s an important matter for me to realize that through certain exercises and practices I can develop and strengthen the aspects which I identified as weak points
iv. “You must always render the most service you are capable of, with the best attitude, and you must do so regardless of your immediate compensation, even if it appears you will receive no immediate compensation.”
Often we seek for instant gratification. This very important aspect highlighted in the book encourages doing everything I undertake with maximum effort just for the fulfillment and satisfaction of undertaking the activity wholeheartedly. It might seem at times that when I undertake certain tasks and jobs I am doing it for no compensation but ultimately there is a reward in each task I undertake, it is not necessarily financial or immediate but it is definitely there. Often times the need for compensation comes from those who surround us who’ll have seen the work put into a certain task be it starting a business or undertaking an educational course. The people who surround me might not necessarily see the benefits of undertaking the activity and can tend to be a source of discouragement but as long as I focus and appreciate that gratification is inevitable it’ll assist me with my day to day works of charity and of building businesses which empower the community.
v. Act as soon as you must
Deferring and postponing issues and activities to be done is an unproductive trait. It is also time consuming and time wasting. Unfortunately this is one of my weaknesses which I am now actively and consciously working on. What I’ve realized is when I postpone dealing with a certain issue it is mostly because I assume it will take a lot of time. This however has turned out to be untrue and has helped me to get the otherwise dreaded tasks carried out promptly so that I can move on to other items. I have managed to have more “free” time to pursue activities which I thought I didn’t have time for because I have unclogged my schedule and am now leaving less tasks “to complete later”.
Acting as soon as possible is also important in that you take up different opportunities which avail themselves in the passage of time. Delays often times have the negative effects of losing out on opportunities which require prompt action due to strict timelines.
vi. You need a technique to protect your inner-self, your ego, from the damaging effects of negative ideas.
Unfortunately I cannot control the negativity which stems from the community around me. It’s great however to note that I can protect myself from the effects of the negativity.
vii. Learn from defeat, defeat can be resistance training
There’s always a positive lesson which can be learnt from defeat. Persistence in any endeavor that I might take up will result in success at the end. Each defeat is to be taken as a trial run, a lesson on how a certain result cannot be accomplished.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
These ideas/lessons have assisted me in ascertaining that success is inevitable for me if I persistently pursue the virtues highlighted. It has been an important lesson for me to note that it’s not about having just the 4 or 5 strong points or qualities whilst disregarding the rest. All the 17 aspects listed in the book complement each other and others are so intertwined they cannot be separated.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, your mind can achieve”
My limiting factor is my mind.
“Be sincere, first of all to yourself, and you will steadily grow in self-reliance.”
There is no need to lie about any issue especially to myself. If I am candid about every situation and am realistic about it I will respond to it in a truthful manner as well.
“Courtesy is… the habit of controlling selfishness in all form.”
Selfishness is an ugly trait which I would like to get rid of 100%
“Always stay focused on doing your best possible work.”
I doesn’t matter what I am working on at a particular moment, I should focus on it and perform to the best of my abilities.
“Trust yourself and you will always have someone to rely on.”
Self-reliance is crucial to success. The buck has to start and stop with me.
“Never wait for an outside force to trigger your actions.”
I need to be more proactive in my actions than reactive.
“Train yourself to look for the seed of equivalent benefit in every possible disappointment.”
Silver linings are always there for the finding if I reflect well enough.
“Adolf Hitler found the opportunity to use his power so destructively because so many other people failed to use theirs constructively.”
Negativity only becomes a force to reckon with when we let it
“Defeat is never the same as failure unless and until it has been accepted as such.”
Defeats can be taken as trial runs, or preparations for success. Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better. This statement boosts my PMA each time I recite it in the morning before beginning my day.
“Tell me how you use your time and how you spend your money, and I will tell you where and what you be ten years from now.”
Habits formed determine what we’re headed for.
“Repetition is the mother of habit.”
You can train yourself to have positive habits
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
The notion that sex is an emotion. I’ve always believed to be a physical act which morally should be a result of love but more often is a physical act between two individuals attracted to each other.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes it did. I have been practicing my facial expressions exercises regularly.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
None.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 9
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Success through a Positive Mental Attitude
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
Success in whatever aspect of life- spiritual, career, social, financial and health (list not exhaustive) can be attained by framing one’s mindset to a positive state. Viewing each and every situation in a positive light will yield positive outcomes
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. We translate into physical reality, the thoughts and attitudes which we hold in our minds.
I grew up in a high-density suburb. My mother was a single parent, a teacher who got assistance from my dad with regards to tuition fees and other expenses but who had the load of taking care of me and my sister on her shoulders. I’ve grown to be a well-respected individual. Well spoken, intelligent and respected by those I interact with. Myself as a product of my environment is a testimony that what my mother sought to achieve, her belief and conviction that her daughters would do well and succeed , that we’d make her proud, defied the many obstacles that we grew up with including her schizophrenia. I’m convinced more than before that physical reality follows what our minds conjure up. I’ve already started experiencing the changes which have been brought about by the positive images I’m continually reflecting on and thinking about.
ii. Individuality- there was, is and will never be another person like me.
Right from my first name which shocks all of those who understand my mother-tongue, to my uniquely spelt name there can be no other like me. How I think, interpret events and actions cannot be duplicated by someone else. My definite purpose in life therefore is exclusive to only me and can be carried out by myself only which I take on as a huge responsibility. I’m going to do what I have to do to contribute to the community and world. Each person has a role to play in their uniqueness and individuality.
iii. You are what you think.
If I limit the extents of my achievement in my mind then they will translate to reality. Before I succeed in attaining my definite purpose, before I become an effective and highly successful social entrepreneur I have to think it. Because I would want to be classified with the notable women in my society, I have to accept and adjust my mind-frame to be of their caliber. Sometimes there’s an inferiority complex which wants to settle but I need to actively eliminate that frame of thinking.
I recently won a prestigious award and was recognized as one of the top 20 outstanding business women in the country. I’ve had acceptance issues in my mind of whether or not I deserved the award but I realize that part of the reason is due to an inferiority complex. I look at the award now constantly (it hangs on the wall in front of my desk) and I’m conditioning my mind to accept what others have acknowledged. I have great entrepreneurial skills. I am that, I will continue to think that.
iv. The most important word in any language is God.
This particular theme resonates well with me because I value my relationship with God. It is to me the ultimate relationship which is critically important in any aspect of what I do and what I set out to achieve. My relationship with God is the most important of all, it therefore follows that in any language, and the most important word is God.
v. Dare to explore the powers of my mind.
The number of ideas especially in business that I come up with is on the high side. I occasionally do not explore the full merits of the ideas which constantly spring up in my mind due to a number of reasons and unfortunately this sometimes is because of fear. Fear of exploring what might come out of the thoughts and ideas. It definitely is a dare, a great challenge for me to exercise and exhaust the full potential of what goes on in there.
vi. Do it now
Procrastination is such a drawback of progress. I’ve found that this activator, “do it now”, or as I’ve personalized it to “Just do it” removes most of my inertia and I get things done. It’s a weakness I am constantly working on to improve and I hope my subconscious kicks in soon to assist.
vii. Mind over matter
I’ve had this debate with my friends for such a long time. I’m a runner and I’m convinced that mind does contribute more to completing any long distance race. I’m still to complete a full marathon, but with the half marathons I’ve participated in I totally agree. Mind over matter. The illustrations used in the book to back this notion further emphasize that this is true.
3. Will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
The ideas which come through from the book definitely help me to see life in a positive manner. My positivity directly affects those I interact with in my everyday life and I business.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Greatness comes to those who develop a burning desire to achieve high goals.”
Its’ not enough to set goals- its necessary to have a zeal and be obsessed about seeing them come to fruition.
“I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.”
I ultimately determine what happens to me.
“If a man is right, his world will be right.”
It begins with the self before everything else becomes ok/satisfactory.
“Your world will change whether or not you choose to change it.”
It’s important to be relevant and adaptable.
“What the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind of man can achieve.”
The mind is the limiting factor- if you allow it to be.
“Direct your thoughts; control your emotions; and ordain destiny!”
I should be in control, always.
“Man is more than a body with a brain; You’re a mind with a body.”
The mind is more important than the body, it controls everything and is therefore superior.
“You and everything in the universe are in a constant process of change.”
Nothing stays the same, both myself and the environment are constantly changing.
“You can direct your thoughts and control your emotions, and thus regulate your attitude.”
Nothing which happens to me is under someone else’s power. I am fully in control and in charge of myself and my reactions.
“Every adversity has the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit for those who have PMA.”
There is always something positive to take out in any negative situation. I just have to look at the situation with a positive mental attitude.
“Make a fortune or achieve your aims by understanding cycles and trends.”
The world is constantly evolving, opportunities stem and are there for the taking for those who anticipate needs and trends.
“What we see is always an interpretation of the mind. We have to train the mind to interpret what we see.”
A situation can be viewed and taken differently by different people. How we see things is a direct result of how we interpret them.
“The job where you can start at the top is the job of digging a hole.”
You have to start building from the bottom up.
“Sow an action and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.”
Habit can be taught and good habits build a great character. One brick at a time.
“Every result has a given cause.”
Nothing happens by accident.
“Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.”
Excessive anything is not good.
“Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself.”
Avoid unnecessary speech.
“Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.”
I need to be orderly.
“Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.”
Do not procrastinate, this aids in getting things done and accomplishing goals.
“Be always employed in something useful.”
Time is important, it should be wasted doing what will not be beneficial.
“Money can beget money and its offspring can beget more.”
It’s important to gain financial wisdom and astuteness.
“Let every occasion be a great occasion for you cannot tell when fate may be taking your measure for a larger place.”
I need to enjoy the moments and opportunities as they come.
“Just keep giving until the Master stops giving to you.”
I need to be generous with what I’ve been fortunate enough to be given by God.
“A failure uses up as much energy in his work at failing as a successful person uses in winning success.”
If I’m to put my energy towards anything, I might as well channel it to being successful.
“I pray daily not for more riches, but for more wisdom with which to recognize, embrace, and enjoy the great abundance of riches I already possess.”
It’s easy to take situations and people for granted. I should constantly take stock of, and appreciate what I have.
“Copy from success.”
Learn from others.
“Where there is nothing to lose by trying and everything to gain if successful, by all means try.”
If the goal is worth the effort then it’s definitely worth the try.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
Necessity is the mother of invention and the father of crime- I don’t understand PMA as a talisman- PMA as a talisman implies that it’s a fluke. I believe it’s an asset, intangible though it might be but definitely not a good luck charm. Satisfaction is a mental attitude. You should be satisfied with your job.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes, I completed most of it. There were a lot of reference books to go through which I’m still going through.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 9
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
We can control how people respond to us, win them over to our way of thinking and influence them by how we respond, listen and interact with them.
What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Ways to make people like you
I’m a social entrepreneur. In order to be successful in the business ventures I choose to start-up there is buy-in required from business partners, investors and the target market. In order to agree and have constructive discussions it is important that people like me. This results in respect and an attentive ear when putting proposals forward.
Socially having people like me is also very beneficial. It makes life a whole lot easier to deal with family and associates. When people like you there is less probability of negativity directed towards you.
ii. Avoid arguments
I’m one of those individuals who like to get their message across. I believe the truth should always be spoken as it is without mincing words. This trait inadvertently leads to a lot of arguments from the many dubious characters out there. From this book I’ve learned that arguing, even though my argument might be correct and I might ultimately convince the other party of my opinion, serves little in gaining the other person to my way of thinking. Arguing leads to a defensive stance form the other party and rarely leads to creating friendship. There are better ways to get my points across which are not through arguments.
iii. Show appreciation
I’ve discovered that whenever someone shows appreciation for what I’ve done or achieved I am motivated to do better and I actually like that person more. It is easy to take favors and people from granted but showing appreciation invoke loyalty and respect from the other party. Even in circumstances where the person might be an employee or is paid to do what they’ve just done, saying thank you almost always produces a smile. That in itself is a worthwhile achievement that I will continue to do. It’s a trait which was instilled in me at a very young age which I am thankful to have.
iv. Motivating and encouraging people
In order to get the best out of people they have to be motivated and enthusiastic enough to get the job done. I’ve noted that when staff is enthusiastic they have positive energy in their work and in the tasks they carry out. As a result the workplace becomes a positive environment to work in and positive results are noticed.
v. How to handle complaints
When dealing with complaints it is important to listen to people. From the examples cited in the book, once you use the approach of putting the customer first, treating them like they are right they are more willing to compromise with regards to the complaints they’d have raised. Instead of attacking a complaining customer and possibly chasing them away from my business, it is much better and more productive for me to handle them graciously and as a result generate repeat business or better still, recommendations.
vi. Be interested in people and what people do
In becoming genuinely interested in what people do I’ve discovered that I can attain a lot of knowledge from individuals. When you express interest in people and what they do they immediately like you because you’re giving them attention
vii. Admit when you’re wrong
The quicker the admission of guilt the better. Afterwards you can get to concentrate on other issues and progress
3. Will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
The lessons contained in the book are very practical and useable in day to day living. In order to effect any significant change in my family, community, society I have to be able to influence people, win them to my way of thinking before we can start to all contribute to achieving significant targets and changes. In as much as I am a very important component to what I’d want to achieve through my social entrepreneurship projects I have to be in constant interaction with those who’ll assist me and those who will gain from the ventures. The book teaches on how to communicate that through.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee.”
Even if I don’t already possess the skill of dealing with people, or if it doesn’t come naturally to me I can still learn acquire it through learning.
“Compared to what we ought to be, we are only half awake.”
There’s so much untapped potential within me.
“The human individual thus lives far within his limits. He possesses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use.”
This quote stirs me up because it challenges me to make full use of myself
“The great aim of education is not knowledge but action.”
There’s no point in acquiring knowledge if I’m not going to act on it.
“I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence.”
Not everyone thinks and reasons the way I do. I need to constantly acknowledge that fact
“The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned.”
Criticizing someone doesn’t result in a corrected.
“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.”
There is more to any situation (and how people deal with it) than the facts of the matter at hand
“A great man shows his greatness, by the way he treats little men.”
Respect should be shown to everyone in spite of their social status.
“God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.”
It’s not my position to judge anyone’s actions or choices.
“Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.”
Flattery is not constructive.
“Teach me neither to proffer nor receive cheap praise.”
Praise should be genuine.
“Use what language you will, you can never say anything but what you are .”
What comes out my mouth is a reflection of my thoughts, views and muses.
“Honest appreciation got results where criticism and ridicule failed.”
“Every man I meet is my superior in some way, In that, I learn of him.”
My attitude to others should be such that I don’t look down on anyone. There’s always something to learn from the next person.
“Bait the hook to suit the fish.”
Offer people what they want and like and not what you would want.
“We are interested in others when they are interested in us.”
I need to be interested in others.
“The expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.”
I need to master my facial expressions. They communicate loudly to whoever I’m interacting with
“The average person is more interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put together.”
I need to make an effort to learn and remember people’s names.
“When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary.”
Disagreements are necessary for progress in a business.
“Men must be taught as if you taught them not And things unknown proposed as things forgot.”
It’s more effective to make suggestions to someone and have them see from your point of view than to force opinions.
“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within himself.”
The greatness of individuals already lies within them.
“Be wiser than other people if you can; but do not tell them so.”
“Seek wisdom but remain humble.”
The reason why rivers and seas receive the homage of a hundred mountain streams is that they keep below them.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
“My popularity, my happiness and sense of worth depend to no small extent upon my skill in dealing with people.” My opinion is that my sense of worth is dependent on me mainly and then to a lesser extent my interactions with others. This is because if I’m working hard, and if I’m powered by a positive image of myself, little else will affect my sense of worth. I understand that I’m my own woman, destined to achieve what I’ve been set out to do. Most of the names cited in the book of people who’ve been successful are not familiar names. When the examples come up therefore they are not as powerful as probably they are to someone who is familiar with them.
A person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one- I do not agree with this statement. I believe people usually people are more inclined to do something which benefits them. Their reasons for doing things are usually self-centered and very real to them.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
None noted or done.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
Giant Steps
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
Small acts can make a huge impact. In order to change the trajectory of my life or to achieve whatever I might want to achieve with any aspect of my life- social/economic/spiritual I do not have to wait for or anticipate a sudden act/step. Adjusting my thoughts and actions in bits I will end up achieving my goals.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Consistent action makes the real difference.
Persistence is necessary in achieving goals. To have the discipline to continuously act towards attaining the goals I set out for myself is one of my greatest challenges. I’ve discovered that I’m very good at initiating ideas and proposing business plans which generate a lot of interest. I’ve been noticed by different groups of people and have been acknowledged for them. Unfortunately it’s not always followed by continuous action. This point resonates with me because I know it’s an area of my life which I need to consciously work on and improve.
ii. Success formula= decide what you want + act + notice what’s working and what’s not+ change approach if necessary (be flexible).
The way the book portrays how to be a success with the formula simplifies the whole aspect of achievement. According to the formula success is simple addition of a number of attainable and very possible actions and diligence in observation and adjustments where necessary. In as much as the equation shows how to get to success it has struck me in that if I’m not adding up the left hand side of the equation, for the statement to remain mathematically true, if I omit one aspect at the left side, I’m subtracting from the right hand side. I’m subtracting from my success so that the equation still balances out. I consciously don’t want to negate the achievements I’ve accomplished; I’m therefore inclined to work so that the equation remains balanced.
iii. Discover what’s preventing you from taking action
The author encourages introspection a number of times in the book. The suggestion/prompting to discover what’s hindering me from taking action made me realize how I usually get caught up with only the theoretical part of my life in general- be it socially; business wise or spiritually. I usually go to great lengths to write down and plan how to run these aspects and dedicate less time to actually implementing the plans. Discovering reasons why I act/or fail to act in a particular way is vital for moving forward and growth.
iv. Mixed emotions are behind self-sabotage
The author emphasizes on the need to have a clear vision. It’s important to stay focused. Unfortunately there are times when there’s self-doubt. The point coming through says to me that such feelings are behind self-sabotage. I don’t want to knowingly or unknowingly be the reason of any failure. I have to control what I focus on and I can have as much happiness as I desire.
v. Grow and contribute
Growth is inevitable. In growing I have a responsibility to contribute to my community. I’m involved in my community through different social activities and should continue to find ways in which I can assist. My contributions shouldn’t be limited to financial only.
vi. Beliefs determine what people do
They have the power to create or destroy. Beliefs drive people to act and sometimes to refrain from action. I agree with the author that beliefs can in fact prompt creativity or destruction. It’s important for me to always remember that people are driven by their beliefs. I have to keep this in mind especially when seeking new partners and associates to get into business with.
vii. Ask the right questions to yourself
Asking the right questions, especially to myself will lead me in the right direction. If I constantly ask myself what is it I want to achieve, what is it I prioritize, what I can do without and what’s necessary it’ll always keep e focused. In as much as I have to constantly ask myself these questions I also have to be able to ask the right questions to those I deal with. In asking questions and listening carefully to the responses I’m able to align myself with the right kind of people.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
The ideas definitely help me in my life. They are practical ways and steps to self-improve myself and make a big difference even with the slightest of adjustments.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“All decisions have consequences, even no decision.”
This quote reminds me that each action or inaction leads to a result directly.
“Persistence overshadows talent.”
Even though I might not be gifted in a particular discipline, if I work hard enough I’ll be as good as, or maybe better, than those born with the natural gift.
“Clarity is power.”
Clarity is a clear and focused view of what I want to achieve. Once I have it, I’m empowered to attain success.
“Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in a decade.”
I need to keep my plans realistic and attainable and most important measurable with a specific time frame which factors realistic conditions.
“Obstacles are a call to strengthen your resolve.”
I should continue to embrace challenges and learn from them. Challenges should not be a hindrance.
“What you link pain to and what you link pleasure to shapes your destiny.”
I need to associate the hard work I put towards developing myself with pleasure because that’ll positively affect my destiny.
“Use your pain as your strongest ally.”
My pain should act as a reminder to me that I’m strong and I’ve managed to overcome past obstacles.
“Change the pace and the intensity of your movement and you change your life.”
I have to consciously make a decision to make changes in my life if I want to stop living in the same cycle of events
“You need no excuse to feel good.”
I can be happy just for the sake of being happy. No justification to a third party needed.
“We all unconsciously steer in the direction of our focus.”
I have to train my mind to constantly think about the positives I want to attain
“Beliefs drive all of our behaviors.”
Facts can be constant and be given to different groups of people. The ultimate reason which would be the driver of behavior are individual beliefs
“Questions are the answer.”
You find out more and discover more by asking questions asking the right questions
“Take personal responsibility for our change.”
I have to be accountable to none other than myself as to how I’ve turned out or how I’d want to change.
“All patterns must be replaced and not just eliminated.”
There is need to get new hobbies/activities especially when trying to get rid of a negative attitude.
“Condition the new pattern until it is consistent.”
I need to make an aggressive effort to train myself in new habits until I do them subconsciously.
“You are the source of all your emotions.”
I decide how I feel.
“Spend 90% of your time on a solution.”
Instead of worrying and analyzing the problem, I need to focus more time and energy on solutions
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
The sense of loss is often an illusion. The author implies that people tend assume losses which might not be actually there. This might be true to a certain extent especially because there’s always a lesson to be learnt from every situation but I believe that when someone perceives a loss, then it’s actually a loss. It is not an illusion when it is someone’s reality. Ten day mental challenge- creation of new habits- the ten day challenge is a great notion. What I believe though is that it takes more than 10 days to form a new habit. 21 days would be a closer accurate number
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Replacing a negative word/negative words in my vocabulary to describe how I feel and using something less negative. I’ve replaced “I’m tired” with “Let me push myself and see.”
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 5
B. How helpful were the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 7
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 7
Real Magic
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
Real magic, creating miracles in my life is achievable through a positive mindset.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you
and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Knowing that ultimate reality and my own potential is unlimited
I’m a social entrepreneur who’s got big dreams and ideas of what I’d like to achieve and how my businesses should grow and impact people’s lives positively. I’ve been a full time entrepreneur for the past 6 years but unfortunately I haven’t seen a significant difference in my society and in my own personal life for me to be satisfied that my dreams are being fulfilled. The book talks about an unlimited ultimate reality. A reality which sees huge corporations being born from my vision. The potential I have is really quite vast and the reality of all the achievements I can accomplish does not have a ceiling. I may be far from getting to where I see at the moment, but once I get there, there’ll also be another vision and destination which I’ll be seeing and envisioning which I’ll be far from as well. My life is about building dream upon dream.
ii. Knowing that I create my own reality and that inborn and divine forces work with me rather than independently of me.
I’ve been observing the people around me and most interestingly the ones on TV. What’s fascinating to me is that the situation someone might be in as I’m observing them often times seems very unrealistic. This is particularly true of reality television shows. Even though the lifestyle and happenings of the situations seem unrealistic to me the people involved are very much in their element and are living their lives in their own reality. If people then in situations which seem very unrealistic can live normally in those situations I’ve realized that I can create my own reality. The reality I choose to live in is that which I perceive is what it is. I have consciously decided to shape my reality. A reality in which I don’t struggle for basic necessities. A reality in which doors open up for me in my spiritual, personal and business life. A reality in which I am very much in control of what happens to me and how I react to it. I am a Christian and I believe in God. The Spirit who is in me works through me and directs my path in the way God wants. I am responsible for nurturing my spirituality, feeding it and listening to it so that I am an instrument. The Spirit doesn’t work independently or outside me, it works within me and through me. I have to be in tune with it to fully enjoy the fruits.
iii. Knowing that an intuitive, invisible guidance is available to me when
I reach a higher state of awareness.
I’m very fortunate to have experienced God speaking to me in times when I have retreated within myself to listen. I have discovered the peacefulness and enlightenment that’s a result of meditation. The process is definitely still a work in progress with regards to meditation as sometimes distractions filter through but I can confidently say there is an infinite source of wisdom and discernment in being quiet and listening to God.
iv. Knowing all experience is blessed
There are a lot of experiences that occur on a day to day basis. While it’s been quite easy to appreciate the positive experiences and draw from them the obvious positive results, the negative experiences take more of an effort to filter out what lessons are to be learnt. This is especially true if I try to make sense of the negative situation immediately after they have happened. What I’ve realized is that after a few days and looking at the negative events in retrospect I can usually draw out some sense in what will have happened.
v. Knowing I can create my own luck.
This principle actually really works. Creating my own luck or opportunities really is more of a prepared mental state than anything else. I’ve discovered that mentally preparing for meetings, knowing the results I want and mentally picturing them before going in assures me of positive results and feedback. “Luck” is really about being in a place, identifying what’s on offer, taking it up and using it to your advantage.
vi. Knowing there is order in chaos and there are no accidents in an universe that is in perfect order.
I remember a chemistry concept I was taught in A-level which I really loved because I wasn’t the tidiest of individuals. “All natural species favor maximum entropy” which basically means that the natural state of affairs is chaos. This idea that in the chaos that exists there is actually order makes sense to me because when God created everything He made it perfect and pleasing. To take a simplified example, it’d be of the human body. Many different individual cells all coming together seemingly haphazardly to contribute to all the many functions a body carries out internally and externally.
vii. Everything material is nothing more than empty space.
The author talks about a room being a room not because of the four walls which might surround it but because of these space in between these walls. Likewise for all particles of matter. The empty space that exists between the particles are what contribute more to the object. I’ve been moved by this concept in applying it to myself. There is more to me than the physical and tangible physical appearance. The true essence of Cheu lies within the invisible part of myself. The ‘empty space’ which lies in the center of me, in my core and I can realize my full potential by constantly going within and meditating. Exploring that inner space and being in touch with my soul.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
My attitude to what I can achieve as an individual has changed. I have started meditating and perfecting that skill of going within myself to be at peace.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“You are capable of achieving perfect equilibrium of the mind.”
This means that I am very much in control with my state of being
“The world is not to be put in order, the world is order incarnate. It is for us to put ourselves in unison with this order.”
I should concentrate my efforts to get things right on myself instead of my external surroundings
“You have to experience pain in order to transcend it.”
I can’t overcome what I’ve never experienced.
“Enlightenment: the quiet acceptance of what is.”
Acceptance, I need to accept what is
“The message of your life is in what you give.”
The legacy I live behind when I die is what I’ve shared and given
“Complete possession is proved only by giving. All you are unable to
give possesses you and guide.”
Selfish tendencies are counter-productive and lead to achieving less
“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
The lessons I learn in life are the ones which I’m ready to learn.
“Stay on purpose, focus on the purpose (process) rather than the
outcome.”
Life is all about the journey and not the destination. I need to be able to enjoy the process.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
All experiences are for a greater good- In as much as I believe that I can learn from everything that happens to me, even the negative experiences I’m still to see how everything is for a greater good. This is because I’ve made mistakes and unwise decisions which in hindsight could have resulted in very positive outcomes. I’m therefore yet to
understand how taking a wrong turn at a particular point can be for the greater good. The negative experiences I’ve had as well seem to have been directed at mostly me and I also don’t understand how even though I’ve learned from them, can be for a greater good.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
There were ideas and concepts especially concerned with changing the way
I think about some situations
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 9
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it 9
The Power of Intention
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author portrays intention as a force which has seven principles namely that it is creative, kind, loving, beautiful, expanding, endlessly abundant and receptive. Intention in the book is viewed as an energy source in the universe that allows creation to happen. The author talks about individuals being in tune with the universe so that their personal energy merges with
the universe.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. My purpose is not a “what” but a how and why
I felt very enlightened about the notion that my purpose is life is not determined by what I do. I have often times wondered if I was heading towards the correct occupation or dream. Fear of concentrating and chasing the wrong goals which I’ve not been destined for. When I read and understood that the why and how you do what you do defines my purpose it made so much sense to me. I’m no longer under pressure to get to a particular destination or goal but I’m assured that I am living my purpose because my reasons and methodology are ethical and focused on assisting others.
ii. Intention is a force
It’s a force that anyone in the right mode can tap into. It requires an appreciation of its existence, a belief in the limitlessness of it nature, in its abundance. Intention is what drives the physical to be and to grow into. It is what defines how what is physical will turn out to be.
This idea has helped me to step out of the thought of putting limits to my abilities and capabilities. I’ve embraced the spirit of abundance into my life.
iii. Ego dissociates an individual from the force of intention
Ego is a trait that is negative and unproductive. Intention has an aspect of selflessness which triggers a response from the environment. When ego leads or defines an individual there is a concentration of being self-centered and of missing opportunities whereby one has to look outside themselves in order to tap and get enriched in the environment. I have learned to be humble and appreciate that significant opportunities and positive changes are enable by looking beyond myself as an individual.
iv. Be Beauty
The quotation used in the book that beauty is not caused but just is has made me introspect greatly with how I view and look at myself. It has also made me introspect about creation all around me in terms of people and the environment. I have begun to appreciate the usefulness of everything in the ecosystem. The beauty of an ecosystem is how there’s a reliance on each
member of the system for the survival of the next. There’s beauty in the existence of all life as it is and as it has been made by God.
v. Living a stress-free tranquil life
The author communicates the notion of being able to live a stress-free life. The way to achieve this is to allow the seven faces of intention to act. There is need to acknowledge and accept the balance in life and that everything was created adequately and sufficiently. I have realized that
most of my stress was stemming from personal frustrations of not achieving an reaching intended goals. Most of stress was coming from what I didn’t have control over for example a close relative’s illness. I’ve learnt to appreciate that tapping into positive thoughts and a positive state of mind assist me to accept situations.
vi. Attracting the right people into my life
The author writes about how everything I need, and similarly everyone I need, to fulfill my purpose and to be successful already exists and is already there ready to assist me. I am particularly impressed by this idea. I have learned to take my time to observe and listen. I have noticed that there exists around me a lot of sources of information and a lot of
resources. Instead of waiting for a particular seminar or a trip I am making the most of what I am exposed to everyday and I have discovered the truth in everyone I need already available.
By being the kind of person I’d want to attract I’ve started meeting and engaging with people who are interested in assisting me to achieve. I’ve also realized that I was already interacting with most who can make a big impact on my businesses and by listening well I can make the most of the relationships. I also need to be what I’d want to attract.
vii. The paradox of free-will and intention
I understand that when tuned in to the power of intention free-will actually leads to what is meant to be. How this has changed my life is making me realize that everything is intertwined. Being in the right frame of mind is key to making the most out of my life and reaching my full potential.
3. How will all these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world, if so, how?
The ideas will definitely help me in a positive way. They give an insightful
way of how to look at life and in the surroundings. I have already began to introspect and give more consideration to situations and events that happen which I never used to pay attention to before. I am also now in tune with situations and the people I meet in my life. Having a different understanding of people and situations has impacted my like positively.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made, that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Trees bend low with either fruit; clouds hang down with gentle rain; noble men bow graciously.”
This profound quote teaches me about the importance of humility. Bowing graciously or “hanging low” is not a sign of being empty or inferior. It is a sign of surplus content/depth which evokes a spirit of humility. I know the more enriched I become with knowledge or
whatever gains I will acquire, I need to bow down graciously.
“You’re either a human being having an occasional spiritual experience, or an infinite spiritual being having a temporary human experience.”
How I see myself can either be focused on the spiritual side of me which speaks and relates to intention as a force and is limitless in how much it can achieve. It is a belief of abundance and creativity, love and kindness. Or it can be focused and restricted by physiological factors which are limited in achievements and accomplishments.
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
This quote reminds me of elf-acceptance. If I am constantly dissatisfied with myself or
a particular part of me then I cannot be at peace with myself. What I say to myself and what I believe about my abilities play a huge role in my self-confidence.
“At every single moment.You have a choice either to be a host to God or a host to your ego.”
If I prioritise God then it follows that I should be a selfless individual.
“Meditation is a way to experience what the five senses can’t detect.”
I am still to get the meditation techniques but this quote inspires me to keep striving to get to where I want to get to “be perfect therefore, as your heavenly Father s perfect.”
This is my Christian goal!
“You must be that which you desire.”
From “The law of Attraction.” Be that which I desire to attract that which would find me desirable.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
It took quite some time for me to accept how the author views intention as an energy and a force. It is probably the reason why this book has taken me a long time to complete.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
There were no exercises.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
None.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 7
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 6
D. Would you recommend it to others? 6
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 7
Unlimited Power
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The main idea which resonates with me from the author is that as an individual I possess resources and the potential to succeed and excel in life. There is a way in which I can train my mind and body to optimize them in order to produce the desired results.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Creating positive change with almost lightning speed.
The author went to great lengths in explaining exercises which can be used to create positive change. I do not have any major phobias in my life which needed to be changed instantly but I have habits and traits which would be great to get rid of including procrastination and not completing tasks to achieve goals.
ii. Learning through modeling
I can relate very well to the principle of modeling. Most of my education, dancing, laughs and speech patterns have been shaped and formed mainly mirroring/modeling others from both a conscious and unconscious level. In a world where there is so much to learn and know and master, it is easy for me to sometimes feel overwhelmed by the amount of information and practice I need to put in before achieving a milestone. I like the fact that modeling greatly reduces the amount of time and effort for learning by simply tapping into someone’s experiences. What’s also very attractive about this learning style is that the chances of success are very high because before I model, I already know what kind of results have been produced before. This tool is also very useful in that it motivates me to look and observe the people around me. Focusing on how others achieve their goals and focusing on the results they have achieved enriches my own life experiences.
iii. My quality of life is the quality of my communication
I sincerely appreciate the point in this book which states that communication internally with myself, is as important as the communication that happens with others, both verbally and non-verbally. Unfortunately, for most of my life, I have been working on improving external communication without consideration to the internal aspects. I’ve gone to the extent of having classes and listening to podcasts on how to communicate with stakeholders especially with regards to pitching to clients and potential investors. What I now need to start aggressively working on, are my internal communication tools and behaviors. I need to curb the self-doubt and questioning, the internal disbeliefs with regards to what I can achieve. I need to stop questioning the other people’s recognition of me through the praise and awards I receive. I need to look at myself very positively and communicate with as much positivity and consistency as I would if pitching to an external investor about opportunity. I need to explore the opportunities which lie within me.
iv. The meaning of any event is the meaning I give it.
Ever since I read about this idea I have taken note to observe people’s reactions and comments after certain events. The same event/conversation, I have realized, can be perceived totally differently and can evoke positive or negative emotions in two individuals. This is although it’s one and the same incident. I’ve now consciously been looking at the positive side of events and occurrences. There’s always a positive meaning which can be deduced and lessons which can be learnt and that is what I now choose to concentrate on. Life has become so much more enjoyable.
v. The power of positive belief
I can accomplish a lot in my life through positive belief. It attracts positivity.
vi. Learning to run my brain
The brain is where all my body functions are controlled. It is undoubtedly the most influential and important body part. Because of the brain’s complexity it is not easy to be able to control some of the functions consciously
vii. The magic of rapport
It is really absolute magic when the person you’re conversing with believes you and is convinced that you understand what they are saying and feeling. The level of opening up their thoughts is amplified, and they begin to see you as one of their own. When that happens your thoughts, suggestions and ideas are accepted more easily and willingly.
When negotiating and pitching rapport is invaluable. I’ve realized that sometimes it takes longer to create the rapport. When it is done though, the results are priceless. I need to continuously work on my patience in creating rapport and constantly remind myself of the benefits that come with it.
3. Will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Yes they will. The ideas I’ve picked up from the book all strive to make a positive impact on my life with regards to helping deal with the weaknesses and amplify the strong points. They help me improve my relationship with myself and with others.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Learn to communicate with yourself with as much purpose and direction and persuasiveness as you would in a business presentation.”
I am very eloquent in pitching my businesses and ideas to third parties whether they are potential clients or investors. The confidence I exude to them has been complimented on. On the contrary, when conversing with myself, I’m quite hard and fail to sell myself to me. I need to constantly remind myself to communicate internally with as much confidence and positivity.
“Man is not the creature of circumstances. Circumstances are the creatures of men.”
I am more than any situation. The situation can never be greater than the individual.
“Having the ability isn’t the same as using it.”
I’ve realized that many a time the difference between achieving much and achieving little is the ability to act
“Life will pay any price you ask of it.”
If I expect much I will get much and vice-versa, I need to am high and big.
I need to scale up my dreams and aspirations and not be the limiting factor which puts a ceiling to what I can achieve.
“Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion.”
Affirmation with discipline creates miracles One of my greatest weaknesses is not following through., not completing tasks or proposals or doing follow ups after having worked hard in the initiation stages. What I need is discipline to finish up. Discipline and a sense of accountability to myself. I also need to be honest with myself with regards to what I commit to accomplishing.
“Learn how to handle frustration.”
I would have preferred this statement to read-you don’t ever have to feel frustrated. Instead it shows that frustration is inevitable. I need to handle it well. My thinking is that the sooner/less time I get to the stage of feeling frustrated the better.
“Don’t sweat the small stuff.. Remember, its all small stuff.”
In the grand scheme of things/life, everything can be shrunk to a size small enough to handle. There’s absolutely no need to be getting flustered or frustrated over any situation.
“Learn to stop rejection of its power.”
Rejection is only powerful if I choose to let it be so.
“Learn to handle financial pressure.”
It’s impossible not to have financial pressure. At whatever level of income, the potential financial stressors need to be handled well.
“The best way to help poor people is to be a model of other possibilities.”
Show people that they can make the best out of their current situation
“That which is achieved the most, still has it’s future yet to be achieved.”
There’s always room to do better, to perform better, to be better, I can never relax and assume I’ve reached my peak potential
“Think of success as a process, a way of life, a habit of mind.”
Removing from my head the thought that success is a destination enable me to actually feel more fulfilled and happy in my journey of life.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
“Advertising- the science of arresting the human intelligence long enough to get money from it.” This statement implies that advertising is purely manipulation. I choose to view advertising as persuasion and convincing someone to engage with a certain product or service.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
The book contained a lot of exercises. The author insisted that for it to be an effective read the exercises would have to be carried out. I managed to go through approx. 80percent of the activities. There was need to balance trying to complete the book for purposes of meeting set targets and trying to get the most out of the read. I’m confident that I’ll be able o do all the exercise as I gladly repeat it.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
Maximum Achievement
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The book talks about how to use a person’s strength’s, which are already possessed, to do well in life and succeed in living a fulfilling life.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Your outer world corresponds to your inner world
The author has gone to great lengths to emphasize that what I say, portray and express outwardly is directly related to what goes on internally in my mind. I cannot show love, patience, kindness or generosity if my internal system does not know how to process those feelings or how to express those feelings internally to myself.
Similarly, if what I fester internally is negative emotions such as hatred, selfishness, inconsiderateness, that is what I will communicate outwardly to the world and my surroundings. Sometimes the expressions do not have to be verbal. They will be portrayed in the actions or lack of.
ii. Developing a new self-concept
One of the ingredients of success is having knowledge of myself as a person. It is important for me to introspect and discover what I am made up of as an individual. In assessing and taking stock of who I am it becomes easy for me to work on my strengths and further strengthen them. It also gives me an opportunity to highlight my weak areas and ideally work on improving them or if it is in a work situation, gather people around me who compliment my weaknesses. I am also free to choose what kind of person I’d like to become after taking stock of what is present. There is nothing that limits me to be whatever I want to be.
iii. Positive affirmations
The author talks about the law of expectations; what you expect becomes. According to the research carried out, successful men and women have an attitude of confident, positive self-expectancy. They expect to be successful, they expect to be liked, they expect to be happy and they are seldom disappointed. I need to be consistent with positive affirmations to myself. I need to consciously remind myself of the positive I want to achieve and not be distracted by the downs which come along both in my personal and business life. “I like myself and I am responsible.”
iv. Feed your mind
I need to feed my mind with thoughts which I would want to manifest. I need to expose myself to content and people who will be positive in their influence in my life as this is fed into my mind.
v. How the subconscious mind works
The subconscious mind is fed by what we experience and see. It is also fed by what we believe and what we tell our minds. There is need to feed it with only what I want to manifest in my life.
vi. The principles of goal setting
There are steps I need to follow with regards to setting realistic goals which I can accomplish. Goal setting is a process and a skill which can be acquired by constant practice. I have understood the different factors which contribute to incorrect goal setting which lead to failure of attainment of the goals. I have also understood the principles which make me succeed in attaining the goals. I have started implementing the skills and look forward to fruitful results.
vii. Mastering relationships
The most important skill in life is mastering human relationships. The author emphasizes how capacitating others, making them feel confident ad comfortable, showing them love is the best way we can get a lot from the relationship. Putting others first actually ensures that our relationships are healthy and that I find peace of mind and joy.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
They will. The ideas and lessons will assist me to focus my mind and actions in achieving my goals.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“I am part of all that I have met.”
My life is a combined influence of all that I have been in contact with and all the people I’ve met. I need to be careful to associate with those whom I wish to have a good impact on my life.
“If necessity is the mother of invention, then pain seems to be the father of learning.”
It’s always easy to remember what experiences hurt me previously. These reminders serve to prompt me to avoid the actions which led to the pain
“Do what you can, with what you have, right where you are.”
I don’t have to think of where I could be and what I could have to act on my vision and goals. I must use what’s there and make the best of it.
“Belief creates actual fact” closely related to “but whatever you, believe, if you believe it strongly enough, it becomes your reality.”
My beliefs shape the reality around me. If I believe I can, then I can.
“Your expectations are shaped in direct proportion to your respect for the validity of the source.”
If my expectations are realistic in my mind, the chances of achieving them are high.
“What you are shouts so loudly, I can’t hear a word you’re saying.”
My actions and manners and the way in which I conduct myself is more of a reflection of my true character than what I say.
“Circumstances don’t make a man, they merely reveal him to himself.”
In assessing how someone will be in a relationship- whether personal or professional, I need to observe and evaluate how they react in a situation, especially negative and controversial situations
“The only good thing about fear, if there is anything good, is that it is learned, and because of this, it can be unlearned.”
I would want to remove fear as the limiting factor to my success!
“Effective people guard the doorways of their minds diligently.”
I should not let negativity and discouragement seep into my thoughts at all. I need to be wary of what and whom I listen to and expose myself to positive messages for the most of my time
“Just as feelings generate actions, actions generate feelings.”
If I want to be happy, I can act happy and this will induce a feeling of happiness within me. Similarly, if I act sad, I will end up being sad.
“The greatest single enemy of your potential for greater success and achievement is your comfort zone.”
I should be worried when I’m comfortable with the status quo. I should always push myself to new challenges and prospects.
“The best definition of character is the ability to carry through on a resolution after the mood in which the resolution was made is past.”
Persistence and commitment, I need to be vigilant with regards to those two traits so that I can be successful
“A man can bear any what if he has a big enough why.”
The reason for doing something is the greatest factor in if I can achieve the task
“Nothing succeeds like success.”
“You can never find peace or happiness in your accomplishments, you can only find peace within yourself.”
True peace is not external. It’s very much internal and am in control of its attainment
“Never complain, never explain.”
Too much energy is spent on these two. It’s important to act rather than complain and explain
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
“Life is hard. Life is what I make of it. The things you do, or refrain from doing, because of fear greatly outweigh the number of things you do because if desire.” My opinion is that the things I do are from what I’d want to achieve. It’s a matter of how someone would look at the reason why a person is motivated to do something. There might be a negative reason but I believe if the positive is more, the chances of doing/not doing something are then higher.
“There are no such things as mental illness; there are merely varying degrees of irresponsibility.”
I just do not agree with this. I have a mother who suffers from Schizophrenia, it is not a degree of irresponsibility.
Ambrose Bierce defined happiness to be “that emotion experienced upon seeing the misfortune of a friend.” It’s all true. I tend to associate happiness or joy with positivity, whether in my life or in my friends/relatives.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
The book contained exercises. Most of them were done.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 7
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 7
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 7
Nonviolent Communication
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author speaks of how communication is key to put an end to violence.
Even if words are not violently spoken, they can be a trigger to violent reactions. The author is communicating ways in which communication can be made in a positive and constructive way.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Giving from the heart
When words are spoken and expressed in a genuine manner from the speaker wanting to enrich the listeners’ life it is a way of giving from the heart. It is the foundation of
Nonviolent Communication. It is the base principle of how the same (bad) experience can leave a person bitter or still willing to offer affection. Sincerity in speaking is one of my strongest traits. Having this message reinforced by the book and calling it giving from the heart gives me a renewed reason to perfect my communication.
ii. Four components of NVC: 1. observation 2. feeling 3. needs 4.Request
As the author put it well- NVC guides me in reframing how I express myself and how I hear others. I used to believe in “saying it as I see it”, how I was seeing it. After reading this book I now take my time to say and give an opinion. I realize the stages of communicating in a non-violent manner and applying them in my everyday life has seen me experience a difference in how people accept my views and how they express themselves when they feel I am listening to them in a non-judgmental manner.
iii. Observing without evaluating
The author emphasizes on the disadvantages of being judgmental and communicating, sometimes without even noticing it, in such a manner. He mentions moralistic judgment and how classifying and judging people promotes violence. I have understood that when a person is speaking or acting in a certain manner what they are communicating might be beyond the words they are speaking. It is important for me not to judge them but to identify the feelings they might be trying to communicate. The aspect of empathy is closely related to this so that when I fully understand the situation and position in individual is in or experiencing I am in a better position to understand what they are saying and to speak what they’ll understand.
iv. Identifying and expressing feelings
I have realized that when I often use my moralistic judgment and state those as feelings without understanding the true meaning of, I feel. The author has helped me understand how to identify and articulate my feelings without projecting judgment to whoever I’ll be talking to. The author has also emphasized that how I feel is because of my reaction and can be controlled totally by myself. It is not necessary for me to blame someone else because the decision to react in any situation stays with me. I have also learned to separate my thoughts and y feelings. The dictionary of possible feelings written by the author and the exercise that followed shortly below assisted me in discerning between the two.
v. “Emotional slavery: we see ourselves responsible for others’
feelings.”
I have observed myself and my conduct over time and what I realized was that at some point my decisions and actions where anchored on how others would perceive me. After reading NVC I have been empowered to make decisions and decline doing ‘favors’ which I am uncomfortable with. Every person, including my friends and family, are ultimately responsible for their own feelings. I have unburdened myself from carrying that responsibility. I have also stopped seeking and asking people of their opinions on me as a person.
vi. Comparisons are a form of judgment
The easiest way to make myself miserable is to compare myself with others the author says. I believe in addition to this, the quickest way to have an inflated ego is to also compare yourself with others. Both results are self-destructive. What I have personally resolved to do is to compare myself with myself. The person I was yesterday, last week and last year, compared to the person at present. I have also resolved to improve at each stage and avoid regressing.
vii. Mastering the art of NVC is a process which needs practice
To have to change my way of communicating- which is what I have known all 34 years of my life is a process which will need patience and persistence. The author mentions that it is more difficult to apply NVC to the people I’m close to, for example family, and I have realized that it is true. I am however making progress in applying the principles shared in the book and I am happy with my progress.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Yes they will. My communication skills are going to improve with regards to how I verbalize my thoughts and feelings. I will also start to listen empathetically to those I communicate with so that I hear and understand their view point.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Let’s shine the light of consciousness on places where we can hope
to find what we are seeking.”
There’s wisdom for me to concentrate and focus on what I want.
“Certain ways of communicating alienate us from our natural state of compassion.”
I have to be sensitive and empathize with the people I’m speaking to.
“Analyses of others are expressions of our own needs and values.”
I must be mindful that I do not project my fears and anxieties to others
“Comparisons are a form of judgment.”
In order to avoid disappointments, I need to stay in my own lane and appreciate the progress I make as an individual without putting pressure on myself by comparisons with my peers.
“We can never make people do anything.”
I need to understand that individuals are the ones responsible for their actions. I cannot do it on their behalf.
“Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.”
I shouldn’t pretend to be well when I’m not. It’s ok for me to express vulnerability.
“Distinguish feelings from thoughts.”
This action will help me not to be judgmental.
“What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but not the
cause.”
I am ultimately responsible for how I feel. It is actually a conscious decision I can take whether to be happy.
“Judgments of others are alienated expressions of our own unmet
needs.”
I have resolved to concentrate on myself so that I can identify my needs, articulate them well in a non-offensive manner and avoid being judgmental.
“In relating to others, empathy occurs only when we have successfully shed all preconceived ideas and judgments about them.”
This is a reminder for me not to stereotype people and have preconceived ideas about people.
“We “say a lot” by listening for other people’s feelings and
needs.”
A big part of effective communication is the ability to listen, hear and understand what the speaker is saying and possibly find a reason why they are communicating in such a manner.
“What bores the listener bores the speaker too.”
I should avoid the tendency I have of always wanting to fill silence with words or being the center of attention.
“Empathy lies in our ability to be present.”
It is important when holding a conversation to listen actively and be present. It allows me to empathize with the speaker better.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes it did. I managed to complete the exercises and the responses and answer explanations were very enlightening and helpful for me to grasp the concepts which were being explained.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 9
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 9
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Goals
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The main idea the author is communicating is- write down your goals, make plans to achieve them, and work on your plans every single day.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Why People Don’t Set Goals
The author highlights four main reasons he believes are the cause of why fail to set goals although goal setting results in positive accomplishments in life. These are stated as fear of failure; not knowing how it’s done properly; fear of rejection and the belief that goals are not important. In reading the explanations of each of these reasons the reason that resonated with me was that of fear of failure and not quite prioritizing goal setting as an formal process which needs to be undertaken as a process rather than as a quick passing thought.
ii. Free yourself from negative emotions
Negative emotions are not constructive in pursuing my goals and succeeding in what I set out to do in my life. One of the most dominant negative emotions I tend to experience is a feeling of inadequacy or not matching up to the high standards that I would want to achieve. This sometimes results in lack of confidence when I meet successful peers. I’ve realized that these negative emotions hinder me from making the most out of certain situations. They also hinder me from fully exploring my potential.
iii. Locus of Control Theory
The author describes a person with an internal locus of control as one who feels he or she is in complete control of her life. On the other hand, a person with an external locus of control is one feels controlled by external factors. The ideal situation is to have an internal Locus of control. This brings about feelings of strength, confidence and power. This idea is very important to me as I pursue to attain my dreams of business and entrepreneurship success. I am happy knowing that if I continue to look within myself as the source of power and determining factor to my growth plan it does not matter where I am situated for me to reach my target. External factors do not control me.
iv. Blue Sky Thinking
Blue Sky Thinking is described as viewing life as if there are no limits. No limits to what I can achieve and accomplish in my life. This view of life energizes me and helps me with having a positive state of mind. Blue sky thinking assists me in imagining the possibilities I have for my personal and business life. I feel free to dream big and wild and I’m happy to read that it is a common trait of the successful people in life.
v. Clarify my values
The author states one of the important characteristics of leaders as knowing who they are, what they believe in and what they stand for. An individual’s personality is defined by what they value. In determining and clarifying what I hold as the most important factors in my life, I define my personality and what is within me, is what I portray to everyone. My values also determine my beliefs which directly align with my goals and hence it is important to have clarity on what they are.
vi. Determine my true goals
I need to know what I really want. The process of identifying my true goals is a series of elf-introspecting. It involves a lot of asking myself questions in different ways so that I can truly identify what the most important goals for me are. For me to identify the most pertinent of goals, the ones which impact my life I need to think of all aspects of my life. I need to drill down to what it is which I cannot do without. What it is which if I succeed will open the door to the other successes, I would want to experience. The questions highlighted by the author where very helpful to me and assisted me in narrowing the one main gal I need to focus on.
vii. Practice the Reality principle
The ability to see the world as it really is, not as I wish it were. This idea at first seemed in contrast with thinking positively and the idea of Blue Sky Thinking mentioned earlier on. The author however explained it as a reality check of a current situation before proceeding to solve a problem or to make goals. This exercise assists in setting goals and coming up with solutions which are achievable. It assists in identifying my starting point which helps when it the time for evaluation and measurement comes in order to assess my successes towards fulfilling the goals I’d have set out to achieve.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
These ideas will help me immensely in my life. I now have a systematic way of setting target s for myself. I now have a formula, which has been proven by the author to work, that will propel me to attain success and achievement. I am very excited to have learnt about goal setting.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Success is goals, and all else is commentary.”
Sometimes I get stuck on the “commentary” side of life. This quote made me smile and refocus on what’s important. Less talk, more action.
“Any plan is better than no plan at all.”
Planning opens my mind up to think about the actions and results that I face. It’s important than going about living without focus.
“The greatest need of the human being is for a sense of meaning and purpose in life.”
Having a sense of purpose in my life adds value to my existence. Knowing that my purpose for living goes beyond me as an individual gives me reason to perform my duties diligently.
“You must determine the price that you will have to pay to achieve it, and then get busy paying that price.”
Nothing is going to come for free to me. I enjoyed spelling out what specific price I was willing to pay to achieve my goals.
“The elevator to success is out of service. But the stairs are always open.”
A reminder to me that hard work is necessary for me to complete anything that is worthwhile.
“A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with a man is what he makes of himself.”
I like this quote because it doesn’t tie my success down to the circumstances I was born in.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
I need to constantly remind myself whenever I start to lose confidence
“You will become large as your controlling desire; or as great as your dominant aspiration.”
My potential lies completely within me. What I think of and what I focus on is what ultimately will shape my life.
“Refuse to compromise your dreams.’
There is no reason whatsoever that I should deviate from achieving my plans.
Peter Drucker once said, “We greatly overestimate what we can accomplish in one year. But we greatly underestimate what we can accomplish in five years.”
I need to set realistic timelines for my goals. This will help me to record positive results in attainment of set goals
Stephen Covey once said, “Be sure that, as you scramble up the ladder of success, it is leaning against the right building.”
It is important for me to have focus on what I want to achieve and make sure I do not waste time pursuing my goals using the slow or wrong routes
“Integrity is not so much a value in itself; it is rather the value that guarantees all the other values.”
I need to be sincere in my undertakings. The most direct way to increase your sales has always been the same.
“Spend more time with better prospects.”
This quote was very striking to me in that it is such a simple and obvious tactic, but one in which I had not been implementing
“Double your productivity.”
I like the fact that again, this has a direct impact on my income.
“You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.”
I should think more of what I want to be, concentrate on the product I want to see.
“Whatever works is already obsolete.
I should always be on my toes thinking about how to improve my product and service.
“No person will have occasion to complain of the want of time, who
never loses any.”
It’s crucial to make efficient use of my time
5. Is there anything in the book that you did not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all the exercises and did you find them helpful?
The book had a lot of exercises. I perceive I managed to get the most out of the book but doing all of them and I am proud of my accomplishment.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
We need a new level, a deeper level of thinking; a paradigm based on the principles that accurately describe the territory of effective human being and interacting to solve these deep concerns. This new level of thinking is what Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is about. It’s a principle-centered, character-based, “Inside-Out” approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Beginning with the end in mind.
By keeping that end clearly in mind, you can make certain that whatever you do on any particular day does not violate the criteria you have defined as supremely important, and that each day of your life contributes in a meaningful way to the vision you have of your life as a whole. I find that it is easy for my day to be filled up with tasks and activities which at the time of arising seem important and urgent. By applying the principle of having the end in mind it assists me to prioritize what is important and what is most likely to have a bigger impact on my life with regards to achieving my goals.
ii. Prioritise, Practise effective self-management.
The author highlights the need to be able to effectively manage myself as an individual. This means being in control with my time and tasks and delegating to myself what needs to be done. The author mentions at length a system in which to prioritize issues by placing them in different quadrants. Whenever I have found myself diarizing my day after reading this section I have made it a point to categorize each task into the appropriate quadrant. What I have realized is even though some tasks are more fun and attractive to pursue first, at times it is not often the wisest way of prioritizing. I need to do the important and urgent matters first and try as much as possible to attend to issues before they get to the urgent zone.
iii. Emotional banking.
In human interactions the author mentions the idea that emotional banking is a metaphor that describes the amount of trust that’s been built up in a relationship. It’s the feeling of safeness you have with another human being. When I interact with people I need to realize that I am either building up on trust or subtracting from it though my words and actions. It is important for me to be aware of the impact my actions, or lack thereof, will have on how other people I coexist with relate to me. I would like to be in a position whereby I have gained people’s trust through the gradual build-up of ‘deposits’ into the emotional banks.
iv. Win-win solutions
I have understood from the book that life presents many perspectives and intentions to different actions done by individuals. Naturally humans tend to engage in activity and conversation so that at the end of it, they are in a better position than when they started off i.e. everyone wants to be in a position to be a winner/achiever. When dealing with other people and indeed in business partnerships there are different combinations of outcomes which are possible- lose-lose; lose-win; win-lose or ideally win-win. The book has highlighted to me that the ideal outcome is that in which both parties, or all parties involved come out with a winning status. It is important for me to acknowledge this point in my life as an entrepreneur because that is how I can get the best out of dealing with people. I should be firm enough to come out with a win and flexible/considerate enough to have the other party come out with a win as well. At times when the path is not obvious I need to be patient with the process so that I am enlightened
v. Seek first to understand, then to be understood
I have realized that one of my greatest weaknesses is trying so much to make people understand who I am; where I’m from and what I am trying to achieve. I have been concentrating a lot on making other people see sense in my actions and being and have sometimes judged them for their failure to understand my complexity and needs. The author emphasize however on the reverse. Seeking to understand. In as much as It’s not the first time hearing of the concept of understanding more than seeking to be understood, the way the author puts it across has made me introspect and start to genuinely seek to understand others first. I have realized that more people than I had realized want to be understood as well. Once I take time to understand their needs, words and action I have found that I am actually better placed to then communicate myself to the
vi. Synergize: the whole is greater than sum of the parts.
The essence of synergy is to value differences to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses. To synergize is to allow everyone’s effort to contribute to an ultimate end whose result will be greater than any single individual’s result shout that synergy not have happened. I am going to apply this principle in my life because I would like to see my business growing into something greater than the one individual, me. I have my limitations which I know will not be the same of the next person’s and hence when I let the team build towards the end result I am going to have an end greater than any one individual, myself included.
vii. Take time to sharpen the saw.
The author refers to sharpening the saw meaning a time to reflect and gear up for the next level or pursuit. This idea appeals to me intensely. I usually go for a personal retreat annually in order to boost my spirituality. The author however talks of boosting the other aspects of my life. I am going to endeavor to focus holistically on sharpening the saws. I need to ensure that I fully keep all aspects of my life: intellect; physical; emotional and social prepared and improving constantly in order that I am the best version of myself.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you create a better world? If so, how?
The ideas portrayed in the book will help me become a better leader. They are going to help me improve my conduct and have educated me in the habits that are practical in self-improvement as an individual.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Two people can see the same thing, disagree, and both be right.”
I need to respect other people’s points of view even if they are different to mine. The way I see something is not the only and absolute way that object is. It is my interpretation of it.
“We see the world not as it is, but as we are.”
This means that as an individual I have a tendency to project what I have going on internally to my environment.
“Principles are the territory. Values are maps.”
My values are what will help me to navigate through life and to uphold my principles.
“The way we see the problem is the problem.”
Problems are relative and not absolute, how I perceive the problem is what the problem is.
“Between stimulus and response is our greatest power; the freedom to choose.”
The greatest power is in how I respond to situations.
“While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of those actions.”
I can only control my choice. The result of that choice I have made is not within my control.
“Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”
Management focuses more on action and activities whereas leadership is more focused on influencing actions.
“Frankl says we detect rather than invent our missions in life.”
My mission aligns with who I already am. I cannot dream it up from nowhere.
“Integrity is, fundamentally, the value we place on ourselves.”
I am perceived to be honest and true to myself to the extent in which I allow myself to be truthful and honest. I am ultimately responsible for how people perceive me to be true to my word.
“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
It’s easy to get carried away with trying to achieve or accomplish a lot in a given timeline, instead I should focus on accomplishing that which brings value in any given period.
“You think effectiveness with people and efficiency with things.”
There should be a distinct difference in my expectations of things/systems and human beings.
“The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.”
Sometimes my intuition does not have an obvious logic to it. There’s a sixth sense which propels me to make decisions.
“Unless you’re influenced by my uniqueness, I’m not going to be influenced by your advice.”
I would like to be recognized as an individual before I proceed to take any advice from anyone
“Satisfied needs do not motivate.”
Once I have accomplished something, I need to look at that which I haven’t accomplished in order to feel a drive and an incentive to action.
“If two people have the same opinion, one is unnecessary.”
It is better to have debates and discussions with someone who sees the same concept from a different perspective because that is how I will learn and grow.
“That which we persist in doing becomes easier not that the nature of the task has changed, but our ability to do has increased.”
Practice, practice and more practice. Persistence in doing something which I previously was not able to do will bring me to mastering of that skill.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so did you complete all the exercises and did you find them helpful?
It did and I did find them helpful. I completed most of them.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
None.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 8
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 7
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 8
Leadership for Dummies
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author gives practical ways of how to become a leader regardless of someone’s position in a company. Throughout the book there are tips on how to rise and take up any leadership opportunities which come up and there are also helpful notes of situations the author has come across which can be used as case studies and modeled to different situations.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Leading people starts with leading yourself; you must look inwards at yourself before you look outwards towards the people you work with.
It’s important for me as an individual to know myself for me to lead others. Over the last year I got an opportunity to attend a fellowship which was specifically targeted at harnessing my leadership. Part of the fellowship had a part of learning about my strengths. The experience empowered me by making me self-aware and highlighting my strengths which I now leverage in my leadership skills. I relate to this idea that the author talks about on looking inwards before I lead effectively. The book also talks about knowing yourself to become a better leader. I need to be aware of my values and be
true and authentic to them.
ii. Leading People through change.
The author talks about how change is inevitable but might not be received by the team in the same way. The different ways in which team members view change is explained and there are some early adopters and some who will resist change and some individuals who fall in between. As a leader it is important to be aware of the different levels of acceptance and guide the team through change in a manner that helps the company move forward positively.
iii. See leadership and management as two complementary aspects of the
same overall discipline.
My company and team ideally share the same vision and objectives. Each member of the team has an active part to play in accomplishment of those objectives. I oversee a team of five people. In my role as Managing Director I have to be both managing and leading the team. Before reading the book the distinctions between the two were not as clear to me as they are now. It is important for me as I lead my team to be aware of the instances which need management but to also concentrate on being a leader.
iv. Handling dilemmas- clarifying the dilemmas; learning to be comfortable with the discomforts.
An important aspect about leadership which is brought out in the book is the issue of handling dilemmas and learning to be comfortable with discomforts. Naturally I’m an individual who likes to be in good books with everyone. One of strengths is harmony which means I like to seek consensus amongst groups or teams. I’ve realized though that sometimes it is necessary to accept that not everyone will be comfortable with what the company has identified as being important. Some decisions involve having conversations which might lead to differences of opinion. As a leader I need to take that within my
stride and not delay or avoid such situations which is one of the main temptations.
v. Engaging People: The Key to Unlocking Commitment- share the team’s
purpose; explain each person’s contribution; speaking your mind and encouraging others to do the same.
The book also emphasizes on how important it is to engage each member of the team and encourage them to speak their minds. It talks about creating an environment where the team should be able to question and constructively criticize each other and the team leader as well. This creates a health work environment. The tactics of how to get all team members involved include encouraging the shy members, praising those who speak up and listening to the non-verbal queues from the team members as well.
vi. Leading under performers to the Peak
The author talks about the different people who make up a team and goes into
detail about how to ensure all the team members perform to their best abilities. He mentions that a one-size-fit all approach in leading a team is not ideal because the individuals who consist of the team are different and differently-abled. There’s need to empower those who show that their high achiever and delegate accordingly and there’s also need to lead under-performers to performing well. The book explores the different ways which this can be done. Taking time out to coach is one of the most
effective ways of leading the team to peak performance.
vii. Leading Senior Management Teams
The author explains how it might be more difficult to lead a senior management team than other subordinates. This is mainly due to the reason that when individuals have been elevated to senior management positions sometimes mainly focus on only their departments and lead in “silos.” Sometimes this causes unhealthy competition between departments. If the leadership style I employ tends to be instructive then there is also a
danger of leaders becoming dependent and only wait for instruction instead
of being proactive and working to use their skills.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
I have taken the practical steps to achieving good leadership skills and
started putting them into practice. The practical examples used in the
dialogues have also enabled me to realize that some of the leadership
challenges I encounter in my business are common and have relatively simple
solutions. There’s need for me to open up, encourage feedback from the team and empower my team to perform at their peak levels. I also have been reminded not to
treat the team members as if they are the same and will approach the same
issues in a similar manner
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Leadership is something that you recognize when you see it and notice when you don’t see it.”
True leadership speaks for itself. The results of my being a good leader are not seen through what I say but by my impact on the team.
“Leadership is common sense; but unfortunately not always common Practice.”
I realize that sometimes the most reasonable and logical way to lead might e known but not everyone will be prompted to do it. I need to be intentional about leading in the right ways.
“Those you lead aren’t passive in this process.”
I need to value my team and the contributions that they bring in attaining set goals.
“How you and your staff think, feel and act affects, and is affected by, your experiences of each other.”
The results we produce as a team are not independent of our personalities and interactions with each other
“You choose to lead, but the people who work for you choose whether they want to follow”- This quote further reinforces to me that leadership is not only about me as a leader but about the team. They have a choice and I need to win them over in whatever projects and tasks are set out.
“Teachers without a voice; meaning that leaders are role models.”
It’s not what I say that I of the utmost importance, but what I do.
“A dilemma is a real or perceived situation.”
Clarity is important when tackling a problem, clarity from all members of the team.
“Clarifying the gap is the first step to bridging it and resolving dilemmas.”
When a problem is defined it is easier to deal with.
“You can only measure whether anything you do is a success or failure against what you set out to achieve.”
It is important to have clear measurable goal so as to assess any progress (or lack of) which will have been made.
“Deciding on the order in which you’re going to do your tasks helps you to do the right job to be effective, it doesn’t necessarily make you efficient.”
This quote struck a chord because I strive for both effectiveness and efficiency
“Efficient, you have to spend the right time on each task: the minimum time required to do the job well.”
I need to manage my time in order to be efficient.
“The people who report to you have control over whether they apply
all their knowledge, skills and so on in doing their work.”
I can’t force people to apply themselves to their tasks, they have choice and free will
“Recognizing and reinforcing people’s progress helps to sustain their commitment.”
This is a positive way in which, as a leader, I can guide the team to achieving positive results.
“You can’t always have the money and the applause.”
In carrying out my leadership duties there are times when have to be tough. Some decisions might not be popular with the team but they must be made
“Remembering that what gets measured gets done.”
Just as I need to be clear and specific with measurable goals I also need to be measuring
growth and progress toward reaching that goal
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes I did. Not all were completed but most were attempted
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 7
B. How helpful were the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to others? 9
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 7
Goal Setting 101
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author’s main idea in writing the book is to offer goal setting methods, insights and suggestions to those seeking to be successful in their lives through setting and achieving set objectives.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Definition of a goal.
The author explained what a goal is. The spelling out of the definition was important to me especially the aspect of specificity and measurability. The author also explains that a goal should have a definite period. Knowing what a goal is makes goal setting clearer. The author also explains the anatomy of a goal. He goes into detail of what, how and why a goal is, comes to be and is achieved. It’s important for me to understand what a goal is. I have been setting annual, monthly, weekly and daily goals for the past couple of
years but more consistently over the last year. I have been doing so without really introspecting on the definition of a goal. I realize I will be able to have a more fruitful process of goal setting and achieving those goals if I have the detailed knowledge I now have of what a goal is and the anatomy of a goal.
ii. Why goal setting is important
Goal setting is important for a number of reasons as spelt out in the book. It establishes direction, direction in which where whatever aspect of my life I’m setting my goal in, I get to pinpoint where I want to go. Because of the specificity and measurability of the goals I am also able to identify results of the endeavors undertaken. As I set goals in my life another important benefit which is brought out is the challenge to grow as an
individual, to be better than I am now because my goals will always seek to
make an achievement higher than the current status. Having everything I want
to achieve spelt out and being able to tick them off also improves my
self-image.
iii. Developing a vision
I liked how the author asked key questions to help me write my vision and mission. I was able to come up with a personal vision which is put across very simply and to also craft a mission statement that explains how I go about achieving my vision. Because my vision and mission are now written down, they help me in goal setting. The book emphasizes the importance of having a clearly set up vision and mission as the first step in determining what I want to achieve in my life.
iv. How to set and achieve a goal
The author also explained clearly how to set and achieve a goal. The process discussed was an inward looking process whereby the author explains how choice is a personal decision and is dominant in all decision making processes. There’s also need to be realistic about what is to e achieved. Looking at all factors is important in order to keep the goals realistic. The other aspect discussed was the need to be authentic and stay true to self.
v. Plan your way to success
The importance of planning is clearly brought out in the book. The idea of mapping out how the set goals will be achieved is highlighted as very important. After identification of the goal a path for achievement is necessary. It’s important not to seek perfection in the plan but to use it as a guide. The planning needs to take into consideration all the aspects
necessary to make the goal attainable. There’s need to use all the resources
available
vi. Executing to success
After putting a plan into position the author highlights the need to be quick and consistent in executing. The fundamentals in executing to success which are discussed include taking charge and acting like a leader. There’s need to execute with speed and aiming to accomplish goals within set timelines. The author also speaks about simplicity and boldness in carrying out the tasks which lead to attaining the goal. There’s need to concentrate on the results as they are the ones which matter most. I should not be a
perfectionist in my attempt to achieve. I have to focus on the goal and keep
my inertia once I start going towards the goal. I have to keep moving whilst
remaining flexible, being resolute in the need to succeed and being positive
in my language and action.
vii. Manage your way to success
The steps to managing my success which are mentioned in the book include keeping positive, working economically and knowing my limits. These factors will work when I set performance standards which I commit to working towards. In order not to make unnecessary mistakes, I also need to surround myself with individuals who’re well experienced. Getting a mentor will help in receiving practical advice. I also need to inspect what I expect in order to ensure high quality. I should not feel defeated when things go wrong, I should learn to manage fear, failure and setbacks. I also need to celebrate success.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
The ideas expressed in the book will help me to focus on setting goal, executing them and achieving them in order to fulfill my vision. The knowledge I have gained from the book further reinforces what I’ve read before about how to be productive, effective and efficient. I have a renewed commitment to achieve my goals. I understand that achieving goals is a process and I feel I’m fully equipped to do what needs to be done.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“To be or not to be is directly related to your ability to set or not to set a goal!”
I need to be intentional about setting goals. I’m the one in control.
“Careful planning, thoughtful strategy, and faithful execution are the factors that lead to success.”
Success is not a mistake, it’s a well thought out process.
“A goal is an end toward which you direct specific effort.”
I like the idea that the goal is an end, it’s a target, a result, and not a process.
“As your birthright, you are given your greatest power; the power to choose.”
I am responsible for my choices. It is a responsibility and a power.
“There are no insignificant choices, no neutral actions.”
Every decision I make has a huge impact on my life.
“Success is the intentional, pre-meditated use of choice and decision.”
Success doesn’t happen accidentally.
“Everything Counts!”
This quote emphasizes again that all my choices and actions count.
“The examined life is the one worth living.”
Reflecting on my actions is important.
“One does not plan and then try to make circumstances fit those plans. One tries to make plans fit the circumstances.”
I should be realistic to my situation and what I’m capable of achieving.
“Momentum is essential to goal attainment, and planning is the starter.”
Both planning and executing are crucial in achieving goals.
“Leadership is a synthesis of theory and practice, of preparation and spontaneity, of rehearsal and improvisation.”
Leadership is an art, it’s a combination of many factors.
“Results are judge and jury.”
Results are what get assessed in order to measure success.
“Temporary discomfort is better than temporary relief; if it averts permanent catastrophe.”
I need to deal with issues, even the nasty one as soon as practical.
“Goals never fail; only implementation does.”
If one method isn’t working, I need to try another to achieve set goals.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes. They helped me to write down my vision and mission concisely.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 8
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Conversations with God
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author is relating the conversation he had with God in the book and the main idea is that a human being is an extension of God Himself. The existence of a person is so that they can experience life and through experiencing life appreciate it for what it is and develop a knowledge and understanding of who God is.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. You cannot know, and become, that which you are, in the absence of that which you
are not.
I understand from this theme which is recurrent several times in the book that I can fully appreciate what I have and what I am by experiencing the opposite of it. For instance I know to fully appreciate the money I have because of the times when I’ve been broke and couldn’t afford the small pleasures I now enjoy in driving myself around, taking care of my mum without requesting for help from the extended family. I also appreciate good health because of the times when I haven’t felt too well. This idea has also made me accept the times when I’ve been at fault or done wrong. The experience of being in the wrong has led me to not take for granted doing right.
ii. God does not talk but communicates mostly through feeling and thought.
I enjoyed reading that God does not communicate only through words. What I understand by that is that my intuition, gut feel and thoughts are not random but are a source of communication and interpretation of God’s message to me. I sometimes don’t understand how I come to some decisions and I sometimes question my judgments and thought processes, especially when they don’t align to anyone elses’s, but reading this makes me understand that it’s God who is in charge and who implants those feelings and thoughts. I’m not random in any way and my thoughts and feelings are not random. I oftentimes feel I don’t have the right words to communicate with others and even through prayer but this idea shows me that it’s not only words which will get the message through to God. The author also mentions that words are actually the least effective communicator.
iii. God speaks to everyone.
God is not selective with people. The book has made me realize that God’s message is ultimately the same to everyone despite different religious backgrounds. The purpose of human existence does not alter because of geography, status or ethnicity and the way God speaks is not necessarily through words.
iv. Every human thought, and every human action, is based in either love or fear.
I can relate to this idea in my day to day life. I have found that usually I do things because I love them or love what the results of doing as such would do for me. Fear is stated as the opposite of love. Whenever I choose the path or decision which does not reflect love I have let fear conquer. I n my personal situations I realize that this occurs mostly when I’m afraid to be embarrassed, ignored and unsuccessful.
iv. God is All That Is and All That Is Not
The purpose of the theory of relativity. I understand by this idea that God is the total some of all there is. All there is is inclusive of all that is not. The existence of something is relative to its non-existence. If everything existed and nothing did not exist then I would fail to appreciate that which exists because it would just be one continuous existence. This idea has helped me to fully appreciate everything I am because of the reality that it is as it is because there is something I am not. I appreciate the different seasons I have experienced with regards to sadness, joy, successes and failures. I am enriched in my experience of life by going through all the phases of it and not just the one dimension.
v. Love is the ultimate reality
The feeling of love is my experience of God. When I choose love I choose God. This message resonates with me and everything that makes sense to me at a spiritual level.
vi. The Trinity in different versions/view points
The Triune is mind, body and spirit. The evolution is knowing, experiencing, being. In Holy Trinity there is God the Father who is knowing; the parent of all understandings, the begetter of all Experience.
vii. God the Son experiencing
The embodiment, the acting out, of all that the Father knows of Itself and God the Holy Spirit who is being; the disembodiment of all that the Son has experienced of Itself; the simple, exquisite is-ness possible only through the memory of the knowing and experiencing. Some psychiatrists use the terms superconscious, conscious and subconscious. Some scientists see energy, matter, ether. Philosophers say a thing is not true for you until it is true in thought, word, and deed. When discussing time it’s past, present, future. Similarly, there are three moments in perception; before, now, and after. In terms of spatial relationships, whether considering the points in the universe, or various points there is here, there, and the space in between. I understand that the whole is made of these different parts. Each plays an important role in living out a fulfilled and complete life.
3. Will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
These ideas help me in how I take in the events around me and what happens to me. I am more conscious of how much more in control of my situations I have become, especially my response to different situations.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Feeling is the language of the soul.”
I used to think feelings are irrational, to have them described as a language is satisfying.
“All great discoveries have been made from a willingness, and ability, to not be right”
This statement challenges my reason to do things.
“It is the nature of people to love, then destroy, then love again that which they value most.”
This statement makes me introspect on what and whom I’ve loved and what those relationships have become now.
“Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares, heals” – love is a positive thing.”
“The more you are, the more you can become, and the more you can become, the more you can yet be” – This means to me that growth inspires more growth.”
“Life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation.”
This quote challenges me to do more than wait to observe. It spurs me to be creative
“Seek, therefore, not to find out Who You Are, seek to determine Who You Want to Be.”
I can define what I want to be and work towards it.
“Life (as you call it) is an opportunity for you to know experientially what you already know conceptually.”
This gives me confidence to know that whichever decision I make there is an experience to be had from it. There are no mistakes.
“Nothing is painful in and of itself.”
My reaction and perception of something is what results in pain or sadness.
“A true leader is not the one with the most followers, but one who creates the most leaders.”
This is a challenge for me to help others out to become good leaders.
“Say your truth kindly, but fully and completely. Live your truth, gently, but totally and consistently. Change your truth easily and quickly when your experience brings you new clarity.”
I should value my integrity in a way which does not look down on others. I should also not be afraid to see things differently after I’ve had new experiences.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
At some parts I wasn’t sure if the book discrediting the Bible and Jesus. After completion however, and letting it sit with me for a while I realize it’s really about God and my knowledge of Him, not a discredit to Jesus and the Bible. There are no victims in the universe, only creators. I don’t agree with this statement. I understand that in totality we create what is in the world but at an individual level one might be a victim of what others have created.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
No.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 6
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 10
The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author tries to simplify, through a fable, the steps a person can take and do in order to live their life to the fullest. The book contains exercises which are meant to assist an individual to live a fulfilled life with joy, peace and good health.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Guard your mind/ Master your mind
My mind is what controls my actions, whether consciously or subconsciously. I have understood that if I master how it works and the thoughts that occupy it I will be able to control my life. The author uses the terms cultivate your mind. It means to me that making sure the mind works well is a process of intentional activities and concentrating n the kind of dialogue and conversation which is constructive. The author mentions that concentration is at the root of mental mastery and I have realized that because I have decided to take on a lot of responsibilities, at times I get distracted when doing stuff and this has led to bouts of short-term memory loss. I am consciously working on concentrating n doing and completing one goal at a time. Success on the outside begins within – Enlightenment comes through the consistent cultivation of your mind, body and soul
ii. Follow your purpose.
It’s one thing to identify that which is my purpose and quite another to prioritize it if it does not bring me quick income or results. The author emphasizes on how those things which are most important should never be sacrificed to those things which are the least important. At times I go for the easier tasks to do and the most fun to do without really internalizing and making positive steps to get closer to my purpose.
iii. Importance of goal setting.
I resonate with the idea of effective goal setting. According to the book there are different steps which assist with the process. Step one is to have a clear vision of your outcome. Step two is to create positive pressure to keep you inspired. The third step is a simple one: never set a goal without attaching a timeline to it; create a mental picture and practice it for 21days. This theme of goal setting is recurrent in many books which I have read and this prompts me to believe that it is highly effective. I have been on the path of goal setting for about 3 years now starting form daily, weekly monthly to annual goals. Because I have been doing it for a while I am realizing that it helps me focus especially on those days where I am feeling unproductive. I have also realized however that I am still to perfect the practice through discipline and clear road maps to get to the goals
iv. Practice of continuous self-improvement
I know there can always be a better version of me. At times the notion of not realizing my full potential scares me and that’s why the idea of practicing continuous self-improvement appeals to me. One of my strengths is also being competitive. I have realized that when I compete daily with myself I push myself to be better than what I was the day before. I accept that when I achieve something in a defined space of time it means I can get better and it also means that is the least I should push myself to achieving. The importance of building strength of character, developing mental toughness and living with courage requires that I consciously set targets to self-improve.
v. The power of discipline
The author says discipline is built by consistently performing small acts of courage. The courage to get done what I know is important and is right. To me it means making the tough decisions to priorities not just what is fun but what is important and brings a positive impact in my life and in my community. Usually options and distractions come through disguised as pleasures. My weakness to often procrastinate does go well with discipline and I feel challenged to do better to become a more disciplined individual. I know willpower is the essential virtue of a fully actualized life and because I have the will to succeed I also have the discipline to do what needs to be done for that success to be realized.
vi. Time is the most precious commodity
It is an unrenewable resource, it cannot be bought. The same is given of every human being regardless of background and social standing. The other explains how enlightened people are priority driven. He puts this is the secret of time mastery. As I get older I realize how even though I might have complained on the previous birthday that I am now older, I an younger than the following one. The years actually go buy 1 day at a time and the days go buy 1 minute at a time. Trying to accomplish twenty things in 3 days does not make sense if in the one hour I cannot account for twenty minutes. Time is at times elusive but keeping focused on goals and priorities helps make the most of what is there. It’s amazing that at the same age, others have achieved way more, and others way less than me and it usually comes down to how we have chosen to invest the same number of years differently.
vii. Serve others
I believe a life of service is rewarding. In giving you get to receive. The contentment and joy that comes with knowing you have made a difference in someone’s life is amazing. The author says the quality of your life will come down to the quality of your contribution and it’s a notion I agree with.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Yes they will. They will make me more focused on what’s important to live a more fulfilling life.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Real generosity toward the future consists in giving all to what is present.”
If I concentrate on what is happening now and not get distracted, I am making a worthwhile contribution to my future if I commit to today’s tasks well.
“Moment I stopped spending so much time chasing the big pleasures of life, I began to enjoy the little ones.”
Everything adds up in life, even the little things.
“Never regret your past. Rather, embrace it as the teacher that it is.”
I have made mistakes in my past, I need to forgive myself and get over them.
“There is a huge difference between well-being and being well-off.”
The one speaks to me as a person and the other speaks to my possessions.
“Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make.”
When I concentrate on improving me, I have more to give and offer others
“Never overlook the power of simplicity.”
I should not complicate life.
“Mind management is the essence of life management.”
Mastering my mind is a key to success
“From struggle comes strength.”
I can learn important lessons from the difficulties I go through.
“To transcend pain, you must first experience it”
I will appreciate comforts more when I have overcome difficulties
“Begin to live out of the glory of your imagination, not your memory.”
There are more enjoyable experiences in life than what I have gone through. I need to look forward to stuff instead of holding on to past experiences.
“The boundaries of your life are merely creations of the self.”
I should not restrict myself to what I can achieve, I am the only one who actually restricts myself.
“’One must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind him to the fact that each moment of life is a miracle and a mystery.”
I should appreciate all moments
“There is nothing noble about being superior to some other person. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self.”
I should always try to be a better version of me and not of the next person.
“People who study others are wise but those who study themselves are enlightened.”
I should focus on self-improvement.
“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”
Purpose brings meaning and direction to life
“’No man is free who is not a master of himself.”
I need to be able to control myself
“Well arranged time is the surest mark of a well arranged mind.”
Order in the brain goes hand in hand with order with time
“A little bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives you roses.”
Giving is rewarded
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
I completed some of them and have committed to carrying out some of the exercises suggested.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 8
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 8
How to Write Articles
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author uses the book to give tips and guidelines on how to write articles for both newspapers and magazines.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. The differences between writing hard news articles for newspapers and writing feature articles for magazines.
Throughout the book the author gives examples of the tips to writing good articles and for each one he differentiates between a hard article- one that it meant to be factual, and a feature or an opinions article. It is important for me as a budding writer to be aware of this so that when I start to market my material I know which format to use for certain messages.
ii. How to build an effective foundation for an article
The foundation/start of the article is crucial with regards to how the final product is then presented. The main activities are in gathering information which should then go into the article. The means of gathering information include personal observation; examining records; reviewing statistics and also comparing own observations with another person’s. Interviews are a good tool to use when gathering information.
iii. How to create flowing transitions
Transitions are the way ideas and points flow smoothly from one to the next. In order for my articles to be worthwhile I need to ensure that as a writer this process happens seamlessly to ensure readers are engaged from start to finish and follow the train of thought or storyline that I am putting across to them. The author mentions different types of transitions such s the building block approach, the jigsaw puzzle approach, the chronological approach and the spatial approach. All have their advantages and ideal places for use and I am going to ensure I fit them into my writing style so as to have coherence.
iv. Using descriptions to create images for the reader.
I especially like this point which the author puts across because it speaks to my enjoyment of articles and books. Being able to visualize the characters and places I read about contributes greatly to my love of reading and thus having the skill explained from a writers point of view is invaluable to me. I intend to make the most of the ability.
v. Choosing the right words to use in the article
The art of writing, when broken down, rests on construing a chain of words to make them understandable to the reader. The choice of words is therefore very crucial in bringing points across to the reader. I agree with the author and highlighting this point is very useful for me as I find it even applies to my verbal interactions and not just the written. In order to be engaging and to make sense to the audience I have learnt about the use of vibrant verbs as opposed to passive ones. I have learnt about the use of precise diction and the use of bias-free language. I feel very empowered in how my ability to effectively communicate has been strengthened by the book.
vi. Using quotations wisely
The author highlights the fact that not all quotations are meant to be used in the articles. A discerning and experienced writer knows how to pick the critical quotes. The way to credit the quotations is also given so as to focus on the hosen words.
vii. How to conclude and article successfully
The author highlights the different options available in ending hard news articles and feature articles. This helps me in knowing how to conclude my write-ups. I also appreciate the need to revise my work so as to ensure accuracy. I have to constantly remind myself to do that as it is not my strong point.
3. Will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
My line of business requires that I write proposals and sell them often times to an audience I would not have interacted with. Overtime I have realized that my strength lies in in-person presentations and , to some extent, my expressions on paper were not reflective of the person I am. The lessons from the book will assist me greatly in my written presentations. This is most crucial especially in these times where COVID restrictions have resulted in decreased opportunities of in-person meetings.
I am also halfway through my law degree which requires a lot of written work, summarizing and quoting. I intend to pass with a first class pass but at present I have not been scoring upper 2.2 scores. I believe that this is as a result of poor writing skills and reading the book has highlighted to me how I can improve my skills.
My IIGL course has not been moving at the pace I had intended when I started the course partly due to my reluctance in writing the book analyses even though at times I would have completed the books. I am positive that my renewed vigor and eagerness to show off the skills I have learnt will speed up the process to completion of the course.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“The power of an article derives from the extent to which the writer selects a myriad of facts, and the manner in which those facts are arranged.”
The same set of facts can give rise to different articles from different writers
“You must be careful in checking facts, judicious in selecting your sources and meticulous in reporting your information.”
Gathering information is key to a good article.
“Interpretations in hard news stories should be left to the readers not expressed be the writer.”
This is an important note to my opinionated self to allow the readers to form their own opinions.
“The most important paragraph in an article is the lead.”
I could easily loose an audience if I don’t pay attention to the way I start my articles
“Short, even shocking, statements punctuated by terse explanatory narrative material work best to excite reader interest and to create the desired tone that will convince the reader to go on.”
This point highlighted to me how sentence construction also makes a difference to the tone of an article.
“Simple sentences are still the best way to express yourself in an article.”
A reminder that less is more.
“Starting a sentence with the weak expletive There is or There are wastes reading time and puts the reader on hold until the topic finally appears.”
I was not aware if this and this quote refocuses me and sharpens my skill.
“Sharpen your writing by avoiding empty words and needless phrases.”
I sometime fall into this trap when trying to reach word limits
“The point of writing is to be published.”
I like this simple and yet true statement. I would like my work to be published.. ideally for a fee.
“Indefinite pronouns always take the singular form of the verb.”
A grammatical error I used to make simplified.
“When or is used to form a compound subject, the number of the noun nearest the verb determines the number of the verb.”
Another error I used to make simplified.
“Clear, concise and consistent writing requires strong verbs, precise diction… and bias free language.”
A reminder on how I can be commander of the language by effective choice of words.
“The passive voice is more appropriate in sentences that focus more on potential results than on who will achieve those results.”
This was a lesson on use of language.
“Inexperienced writers tell readers details about a subject, but an experienced writer shows readers.”
This quote speaks to the power of being good at descriptions.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful
Yes. I completed the exercises in the books. They were practical examples of the concepts being taught and it was helpful that answers to the questions were supplied within the text. It made the exercises quicker to finish.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Building the Bridge as you Walk on It
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author talks about how to operate as leaders optimally in the Fundamental State of Leadership. A state which when we tap into yields exceptional results in our endeavors.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Reflective Action
The author describes a life of reflective action as one which balances out doing something and then taking the time to reflect. He uses two extreme examples: The life of a contemplative monk and the life of a corporate executive. In assessing where I place myself on a scale, I realize that I lean more to the action side of the spectrum. When I underwent a strengths assessment the results where that I was action oriented. Since that exercise I have intentionally been working on strengthening that trait but after reading the insights from the writer I realize I need to also be more intentional about reflections. There are two ways of achieving this which are suggested- group sharing and journaling. I intend to pursue the journaling and also going through my notepads and diaries from over the past few years to appreciate how I have and am changing, my perspectives and my interpretation of my growth trajectory. I intend to particularly identify transformational moments in my life and journal them; continually clarify values and develop a mindset to live with deep conviction
ii. Authentic Engagement
Authentic engagement is described as being engaged with the world of action with love for what we are doing. It is associated closely with gaining more integrity i.e. having a more principled life; more virtue and more authenticity. Excessive engagement can lead to compromise and corruption. When an individual is fully engaged, usually they close possible exits This means that a fundamental choice is made to do something and there is no option created for self which would allow for not succeeding or sticking to the said commitment. With respect to authentic engagement I find that I have currently been taking on a lot of roles and responsibilities outside my businesses because they are causes I believe strongly in. Unfortunately delivery and participation within the different roles has been compromised due to time factors and the struggle that one of my entities is going through at the moment. I have been excusing myself and disengaging in some commitments which has at moments left me sad and feeling like I have misled people in spaces where I feel a strong sense of commitment and responsibility. I resolve to do an inventory of my abilities and time availability, and make fundamental choices with regards to what I remain active in. It will boost my feeling of integrity which I value highly and would like to see grow. I resolve to become authentic by being true to what is highest within me.
iii. Appreciative Enquiry
It is given that appreciative enquiry exists between the two extremes of question of constructive optimism and realistic questioning. The one end is very optimistic and unquestioning which can lead to unrealistic expectations. The other extreme is an individual who is very cynical and analytical to the point of being destructive. As an individual I find that I grounded in reality and possess an almost equal balance of both positions. In this aspect I am an integrated individual who exhibits realistic and questioning with an optimistic and constructive analysis. The tips which the author encourages in order to practice appreciative enquiry include writing a life statement and returning to it often; continually integrating reality with possibility and recognizing that there is both a positive and negative reality.
iv. Grounded vision
When striving to attain grounded vision oftentimes it is easier to be an operational analyzer because, as the author indicates, the alternative is a process which requires going to the root of issues and active engagement with the people of the organization or group the vision is for. He defines grounded vision as when we integrate the present with an image of a positive future. In order to come to the vision there is need to listen to the inner voice which exists beneath all of the self-interested conversations. It is important to analyze emotional facts and not ignore them. I usually have the opinion that I know what is best for my companies since I am the one who had the vision and will-power on starting up. I have however been going through a period of high staff turnover. On analyzing remuneration and working conditions I have discovered that I am one of the fairer employers amongst my peers. This hasn’t stopped good talent from moving on though. In reading this chapter I have come to the realization that it is not only my emotions that matter if my businesses are to outlive me. I need to share in the ownership, listen to the team, be willing to keep quiet, and then as a unit we adopt a vision which will inspire, engage and motivate us as individuals. My strategy going forward is to listen and listen more for the sake of listening. I need to focus on what we want to create and concentrate less on fire-fighting individual l problems as they come up. I also need to focus the whole team on the future, a future which I should be able to pick up from listening. In doing this I should not flee from the pain of reality and I need to recognize factual constraints.
v. Adaptive Confidence
Just leaving a comfort zone is not enough because we all tend to project our problems onto the world. Adaptive confidence is a marriage between confidence and flexibility. The author describes it as similar to unconditional confidence. It is a balance between being confident enough to act and humble enough to learn. I order to improve myself in this aspect I need to continually work on improving my integrity gaps. I find that I am a much more confident person when I manage to do deliver on what I would have committed to. I should trust myself to act on my intuition and learn from it. In ding that I need to also establish a few simple operating rules and keep moving forward.
vi. Detached interdependence
On the issue of detached interdependence the author talks about the need to consider our relationships from a high level of maturity. He says “It’s the existential paradox of holding yourself 100% responsible for the fate of your organization, on the one hand, and assuming absolutely no responsibility for the choices made by other people.” Clear boundaries between my identity and that of others is a requisite. I need to be able to absorb personal attacks and not take them personally. This is one of my weaknesses. I have found that bouncing back after a (personal attack) takes me a long time because of the tendency to take things personally.
vii. Responsible freedom
Even in then most constrained circumstances, there is always freedom to choose one’s attitude and to empower oneself. The concept of responsible freedom is premised on being balanced in the issues of spontaneity and self-discipline. For me to be a better person in this respect I need to exercise discipline in all areas of my life – physically, socially, intellectually and spiritually. I need to realize that I can be more than I currently am. I have a personal goal of being free to express my core.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a particular way both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
There were more than 7 main ideas in the book and I would like to use this section to highlight those not covered in my response to question 2 above. Tough love: living in a balance of positive creative tension. Being compassionate and yet assertive. I should model integrity around a standard that I create and hold myself and others around me to that standard. I should be a leader who takes time to know the deepest needs of those I lead, show genuine concern for their needs and make personal sacrifices on their behalf.
Being in a fundamental state of leadership means being result-centered; internally directed; other-focused and externally open.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Conditional confidence we will act well as long as the situation does not violate our assumptions about it.”
“It is not what we do that matters what matters is who we are.”
“When you grapple with polarities in your life, you lose your arrogant, self-indulgent illusions, and you realize the joke is on you.
“Humility seeing things as they are.”
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful.
Yes, some were done.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
Nothing else.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 8
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
How to be a Woman of Influence
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The authors are highlighting the characteristics of influential women which contributed to the different successes and milestones they were able to reach and achieve. The book focuses on what one needs to do, or more specifically, what the successful women did on their paths to success. Throughout the book, after each biography, the authors summarize the characteristics they see that have been the most dominant in the woman’s life.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Read constantly.
Mother Theresa; Anne Frank; Oprah Winfrey and Helen Keller are some of the women in the book who inculcated a spirit of reading within them and it contributed to their success. Continuous reading and reading wide makes a person more knowledgeable. I have realized that reading people’s experiences helps me to have a better lifestyle in that I can assess the benefits and risks of taking a particular action after reading someone else’s. Reading also helps me understand certain issues – whether social, political or environmental. Through reading the women managed to gain knowledge in their respective areas. Anne Frank managed to ‘live’ through reading because her interaction with the outside world was restricted.
ii. Do what you love.
When an individual does what they love the motivation to succeed is internal. Chores and duties become bearable and enjoyable when a person does what they love. Even though the journey and process to succeed can be marred by bad experiences and nasty occurrences when there is a passion and love for what you are doing the struggle becomes worthwhile. The book mentions this characteristic as typical for Mother Theresa; Anne Frank; Margaret Thatcher; Babe Didrikson Zaharias and Amelia Earhart . It seems it runs through a majority of the women featured. As I navigate my purpose in life I am reminded by the book that it becomes a pleasant experience if I am doing what I love.
iii. Be cheerful.
Interestingly I only noted one lady who was credited with this aspect – Mother Theresa. There is mention that despite facing so many difficulties in setting up, from all angles, she continued to be cheerful. Mother Theresa chose to work in the poor places in India where the environment was undoubtedly horrible but she chose to be cheerful. She worked with palliative patients, waiting to die, but she chose to be cheerful. Another aspect from her biography is that she used to greet everyone. Since reading that I have implemented it and have found it very fulfilling to say hi to people in my neighborhood as I walk and in public transport. When I do it with a cheerful disposition the other person reacts in a way to show that they are pleasantly surprised and appreciative of the gesture. Being cheerful is contagious and being around someone who is cheerful distracts from the unpleasantries of life.
iv. Be honest with yourself.
Being honest with self enables one to set realistic goals. An introspection of individual strengths and weakness is necessary to be successful. In order to live a more fulfilling life I need to take stock of what I have internally and how I can use the resources I have access to for furthering my ambitions- Anne Frank; Margaret Thatcher; Oprah Winfrey and Babe Didrikson Zaharias are highlighted as having been honest with themselves. I have committed to annual spiritual retreats. After reading the book I am also compelled to have a day or two in the year that I hold a strategic session for myself as an entity outside/ in addition to the spiritual aspect
v. Speak clearly and speak from your heart.
This speaks to effective communication. There have been times when I have failed to speak out at all because of a lack of confidence and fear of what others might think. Sometimes it was just because of an assumption that what I was thinking was too obvious and apparent to mention out loud. Through reading the summaries of- Margaret Thatcher, Mother Theresa and Golda Meir I realize how important it is to speak out. I need to work on clarity when I do speak out and on the art of getting the message across without offence. As I reflect within myself when I master the art and leverage my sincerity by speaking from the heart I will be able to have advocates who will assist to achieve my vision.
vi. Don’t be swayed by others.
This could be rephrased to “Be focused or Be headstrong.” When we embark on certain initiatives sometimes, often times, it is not clear to others why we are pursuing that subject and sometimes they are not convinced that we will be successful in achieving what we want. The cases/lives of Helen Keller; Golda Meir; Babe Didrikson Zaharias and Amelia Earhart are cases whereby others around them did not believe in the success of the ladies’ chosen mission. This lesson is particularly important to me because my career path has not been the typical path which my peers chose but it’s been one which I have enjoyed. I am unafraid to make future atypical decisions about it just because others might not understand.
vii. Work hard.
Hard work is key. From reading all the profiles it is clear that to be in the positions of influence that they are in and to have received the recognition that they received these women worked hard. Nothing was handed over to them on a silver latter. If I want to make a difference in the world and succeed in my endeavors I have to put in the hours and work towards that goal. I appreciate the milestones that the women featured in the book have achieved. I look forward to reaping the fruits of my hard work.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world. If so, how?
All explained in Question 2!
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“I was not a gifted person but I was always deeply interested in every manifestation of life. Good or bad”
Sometimes it does not take extraordinary talent to be successful
“Life is not worth living unless it is lived for others.”
This saying speaks to the heart of my Christian beliefs.
“We must be brave and strong, bear discomfort without complaint, do whatever is in our power and trust in God.”
What is most poignant for me is that this quote is from a young girl who was facing difficulties due to no fault of her own
“Any leader has to have a certain amount of steel in them, so I am not that put out about being called the Iron Lady.”
This is an example of how when people are negative towards you, their words can act as fuel and affirmation
“Each one of us will be a leader at some time in our lives… each of us will act in ways to influence others.”
I take as a call/reminder of my individual responsibility as a leader
“Don’t complain about what you don’t have. Use what you’ve got.”
This is a call to me to maximize the resources that I have.
“Anybody who believes in something without reservation, believes that this thing is right and should be, has the stamina to meet obstacles and overcome them.”
This is a pointer for me that when I am passionate about something and I love it I possess within myself sufficient drive to carry the project to completion
“ I would like to be known as a person who is concerned about freedom and equality and justice and prosperity for all.”
When you set a clear goal for yourself and have a vision of what legacy you would like to leave behind
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful
No.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
It would have been good to read about African women as well.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 10
B. How helpful were the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 8
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
The Nature of Personal Reality
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The main idea being portrayed in the book is that an individual determines the outcome of their existence without external factors.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. The Self Is Not Limited
There is one belief, however, that destroys artificial barriers to perception, an expanding belief that automatically pierces false and inhibiting ideas. The idea of an individual with no limits attached and who can achieve anything and everything is a persistent theme in the book. The author says that a belief in one’s the capacity and potential to achieve a lot and make notable impact on any endeavors is what make anything possible.
ii. You Make Your Own Reality
Your conscious beliefs direct the functioning of your body. It is not the other way around. Listen to your own train of thought as you go about your days. What suggestions and ideas are you giving yourself? Realize that these will be materialized in your personal experience. Your conscious beliefs are extremely important, and that you are not at the mercy of events or causes that dwell far beneath your awareness. If I start consciously thinking of how I intend everything to pan out and direct these thoughts to positive outcomes, that is the result which I will see manifesting in my life.
iii. “What the ego is”
While appearing to be permanent, then, forever changes as it adapts to new characteristics from the whole self. It is the portion of the mind, then, that looks out upon physical reality and surveys it in relation to those characteristics of which it is composed at any given time. It makes its judgments according to its own idea of itself; It sits on the window sill, so to speak, between me as a person and the exterior world; It accepts or does not accept beliefs. It cannot shut out information from your conscious mind, however but it can refuse to pay attention to it; the most “exterior” portion of the inner self, not alienated but looking outward to physical reality. The idea that the ego can evolve is enlightening. I understood it to be the manifestation of a percept of self.
iv. Beliefs about reality are just that
Beliefs about reality and not necessarily attributes of reality. What you believe to be true in your experience is true. To change the physical effect you must change the original belief, as my beliefs change so will your experience. From this idea I understand that the mind really matters and what I believes shapes my reality. This compliments the previous books I have read about how what I believe shapes my reality.
v. The most intimate production of my beliefs is my physical body.
You speak your body, but the speaking is interior. you choose even the kind of illness that you have according to the nature of your beliefs. You are immune from ill health as long as you believe that you are. The conscious mind exists before material life and after it. This notion Makes me introspect about how there is so much disease in the world. The author insinuates when an individual falls ill because they allow themselves to. When I think of the recent COVID pandemic I am not sure that this is the case. The mind is also equipped to see its own beliefs, reflect upon them and evaluate their results, so using this tool as it was meant to be used would automatically help man in recognizing both his beliefs and their effects. Part of this great permissiveness has to do with the fact that man is to realize that he creates his own reality. Free will is a necessity. The leeway give allows him to materialize his ideas, meet them in physical experience, and evaluate for himself their particular kind of validity
vi. The Living Flesh
The body is not just a tool to be used. It is not just a vehicle for the spirit. It is the spirit in flesh. The body, while being always itself, comes and goes. Because you are conscious of being, you form your physical reality through conscious thought. Your health is an extension of your creativity. But the self is its own best therapist. Nightmares in series are often inner-regulated shock therapy. They may frighten the conscious self considerably, but after all it comes awake in its normal world, shaken perhaps but secure in the framework of the day.
vii. An individual’s state of grace.
When you are fairly happy and content in your daily life, you can be said to be in a state of grace. On those occasions when you feel at one with the universe, or come upon an exceptional experience in which you seem to go beyond yourself, you can be said to be in a state of illumination, and this has many degrees and levels. I can relate to this “state” by equating it to situations where I have felt an inner peace. Contentment which does not directly relate to physical or external resources but to a state of affairs in which the external does not disturb the internal affairs.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
I covered this in Question 2!
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Many people are afraid of their own thoughts.”
Sometimes I have big dreams which scare me because of the magnitude they can become. Sometimes I hesitate to introspect deeply because of the resolutions I could come up with. I need to be more comfortable and brave in my thoughts.
“Your own conscious beliefs are the most important suggestions that you receive – You will accept a suggestion given by another only if it fits in with your own ideas about the nature of reality in general, and your concepts about yourself in particular.”
I need to be mindful of my beliefs.
“You are not your ideas, nor even your thoughts. You are the self who experiences them.”
My reality is the experiences I have.
“If you dwell upon limitations, then you will meet them.”
I should focus on the things I can do and not the things I cannot do.
“Your ideas are yours. They should not control you – You are not powerless before ideas.”
I realize my power is in actions
“Few beliefs are intellectual alone.”
Usually what someone believes in is not determined solely by logic
“Imagination and feeling follow your beliefs.”
I can control what I think of by being aware of what I believe
“You are, however, in physical existence using your body as a medium for learning and expression.”
I am more than my body
“To believe in your own weakness is to deny yourself the power of action.”
If I believe that I can do something it means I will be most likely able to achieve it.
“Man is innately good.”
That man is created as a good being is a positive principle which inspires me to do good and carry out my part to make sure people can share in the opportunities to make their lives better.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
“No one dies who has not made the decision to do so.” I believe that God ultimately has control of an individual’s life.
The authors commentary was a distraction during my reading the book. Initially I was confused on who was speaking about what. The changes in the names of the characters was also confusing.
“Different souls making up one body.” I failed to understand this concept.
“The individuals who seek out treatment fear the nature of their own identity more than anything else. They are then only too willing to sacrifice it.”
I am unsure how this applies to individuals who have mental conditions such as schizophrenia who then seek medication for those conditions.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
No.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
Nothing Else.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 5
B. How helpful were the contents? 6
C. How easy was it to understand? 4
D. Would you recommend it to others? 4
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 4
The Abundance Book
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The main idea in the book is that my life is already filled with abundance because my creator, God, is a God of wealth and abundance. The author gives many references of verses which speak to God’s will for me to prosper. I am wealthy and my life is already filled with abundance because God is, because I am His will. The author also focuses on how to concentrate on what’s within in order to live a life of abundance.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. You are as rich as anyone on the planet; even if you are not aware of it.
This idea which the author puts across made me introspect on what I term ‘rich’. If everyone on the planet is rich, how are there people who live under the poverty datum line? How are they individuals starving and have a lack of basic commodities such as food, water, shelter, and access to healthcare. My conclusion was to relook the way I view abundance and riches. To avoid looking at the effects but the substance.
ii. Clean out old habits.
It’s important to get rid of the limiting thoughts of wealth which I have. Some habits have been inculcated from a long-standing belief that the more expensive, more affluent way of living or just simply the finer things in life are not meant for me. The mindset needs to change.
iii. Realize you and God are one; all He has is mine.
The author emphasizes how I should not separate myself from who God is. The allness of God is mine and I need to accept it and live my life as such. I should let my God-self work through me so that I must always have self-sufficiency. The principle or the law of supply must be one of total and continuous all-sufficiency. I am capable of being self-sufficient through God who is self-sufficient because I am an extension of Him.
iv. Money is an effect.
You should not concentrate on the effect. Money is not the substance, supply, support or security or safety. God is. God alone is the source and should be the focus. Concentrating on anything else cuts off the real source. Money and other materials are an outer symbol of an inner source. The author explains that the material stuff which usually are taken as the symbol of wealth are not what to concentrate on. I have been accustomed to measuring my state of abundance using the external effects and I usually focus on them to ensure that everything grows by paying close attention to how I earn and spend. This point has made me reconsider where to put my efforts. It has highlighted what I should focus on.
v. It is your consciousness of God as your abundance that constitutes your supply. Do not concentrate on accumulating the symbol.
The symbols include money, property, and external materials. If you keep your focus on Spirit, you will keep the channel open for the externalization of Spirit, according to the divine idea. Depend on the master-self within you.
vi. Stop giving power to the negative energy.
Take your claim as a spiritual being. Take your mind off materiality. Stop looking for a supply from any mortal person. Claim the divine inheritance. This idea, which is a recurring theme, is communicated several times by the author in differing words. Ultimately it is reaffirming the need for me to concentrate on what I want, what I have and what is positive.
vii. The author then highlighted the 40 days prosperity program.
It is a program which needs total commitment. One must commit to faithfully follow the program first of all by establishing the period. One also has to listen to one statement of principle each day. It needs to be listened to in a meditative state of mind and then the thoughts that come to should be recorded. A meditative treatment for prosperity as a supplement to the 40 day plan is also give. Another exercise which works hand in hand which is highlighted are 12 points of working through prosperity. These include secrecy which is an absolute essential. One needs to understand that they are not trying to make anything happen. Pressure to achieve needs to be Eliminated.
As the good materializes the warning is not to get puffed up with spiritual pride. A consciousness of love and trust will speed up the flow. God only should be looked at for prosperity and there is need to avoid outlining the way the good will come forward. I should also recognize that it is the will of God for me to be wealthy. God works in the now and now is the accepted time. The work comes from within. Gratitude and thanksgiving are vital ingredients. Replace ideas of lack with ideas of abundance. Spend more time thinking about what you want rather than what you do not want and finally keep money circulating.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Yes. Changing my focus points in the search of abundance will assist me to be more successful, content and happy.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Do you have aversion to wealth? Are you turned off by abundance?”
The questions triggered my introspection with regards to my view of wealth and riches
“God’s omnipresent wealth.”
This made me take cognizance of the fact that all around me there is a wealth of beauty, resources, life. It is God.
“The worship of money is the root of all evil.”
Phrasing this statement in this manner makes it easier for me to comprehend that money in itself is not evil.
“Your wealth is your good, whatever you perceive it to be.”
I realize that wealth does not have to equate to money. It is goodness itself, that is my new found definition of wealth
“The consciousness of abundance must come before the physical; manifestation of abundance.”
I need to be aware that I live in abundance, consciously. The physical effects of it will then follow.
“What you see and hear and taste and touch and smell are your beliefs objectified.”
“The you of you is the moneymaker.”
What is inside me, the core of me, that is where abundance lies that is where the money (wealth) maker is.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on the scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful was the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to other? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
The Art and Craft of Feature Writing
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
The author is showing how writer’s can grab their readers’ attention by creating feature stories which are captivating. The book takes a writer through all the stages of writing feature articles from idea creation, gathering the right kind of information up to completing the work.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. How to come up with an article/story to write.
The author writes about where to get ideas. My understanding is that ideas are all around us. One issue can have different angles to be developed and reported through. If I am aware of my surroundings and sensitive to how to see something from different perspectives, I will always be able to identify ideas to write feature articles on. In picking the subject matter consideration has to be given not to then be restrictive in developing the issue. Research on the subject and ideas creates a need to files issues efficiently and effectively. As research goes on it is as a writer it is possible to come across a lot of information and after the research is complete it is easier to consolidate and write an article if the research has been well filed. I have also realized that filing well will mean research carried out for the one article can be referenced to any future article. Another issue to consider when coming up with the stories to write is finding and cultivating sources. Intelligent cultivation will lead to a focus on perspectives which are of interest to the targeted demographics. Writing about what readers like and don’t like also contributes to the choice of an article.
ii. Story dimensions
The author introduces the concept of story dimensions in respect to time among other aspects. The importance of past and future as well as the present. If, as a writer, I can take the readers through the different time dimensions or choose one in which other authors who have covered the story did not focus on, it gives the article relevance and clarity to the audience. Other dimensions which can be considered and used include the quantity, locale, diversity, and intensity of a development. Using various sources to develop the story also enables a reporter to have varied dimensions to explore and choose from the reporter’s role neither scholastic nor lawyer nor objectivist nor formula follower. But what then? Why ideas with action in them are the best ideas.
iii. Planning and Execution
In order to come up with a good article it is essential that it is well planned and that the plan then gets executed well. It is important when I am writing an article to ask myself if the theme has roots in the past and if yes; how widespread, intense and various it is in its development. As a writer I need to question why is it happening now, who or what is affected and how; and who is acting to counter or enhance the development. If the indications are that the story is proceeding to develop, I need to ask what could happen if the development proceeded unchecked. Asking these questions helps to plan and execute the writing of the article.
iv. Organization
The author emphasizes how it is important to follow the laws of progressive reader involvement. If I am a good author I should be able to tease the reader – tell her what I am up to, prove it and help them to remember it. I need to index materials. The lead paragraphs need to be structured in such a way as to lead the reader to want to read on and be drawn into the next sentence and ultimately the next paragraph.
v. Wordcraft
I particularly enjoyed the author’s view on how to use the art/skill of wordcraft; how I use my words. I believe it is one of the most essential and at the same time, most unique skill I can possess as an author. Being specific in words and phrases is part of what makes good wordcraft. I need to be mean and tough with how I use my phrases. A good author would be good at choosing what to describe; how to describe well and at the same time they would promote a conversational quality in their writing style. Usually individuals struggle with the narrative flow and there are typical troubles with transitions, attributions and explanations but when words are used tactfully the purposeful structures in writing can promote speed, force and rhythm.
vi. Stretching out
Stretching out is a new concept I learned from the book. Some tips were share on handling lengthy stories. It is important to maintain an orderly development of lengthy stories alternating plot and character. This ensures that the reader does not get lost in the article and keeps the focus on the point I will be communicating. Maintaining suspense and setting up material to come is also useful so that despite the length of the article the reader still longs to know what the outcome and or conclusion will be.
vii. Notes on self-editing and style
I have always believed that editing belongs to the editor; my role as a writer is to write out an article/story and leave the rest to the editor. Part of the reason is because I feel like editing myself is similar to listening to my own voice which sometimes makes me cringe. The author however manages to make me visualize being an editor of a lot of stories submitted by different authors and the process of having to edit them. I have realized that self-editing actually acts to be a benefit to me because I then review the coherence and style of my article before I submit to another party for same. If I get into the habit of self-editing I can then submit articles which are more likely to be included and at the same time I self-improve. When I edit myself I have to be editing for content, for conclusiveness and flow and for pace and precision.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
The ideas in the book have already started helping me in a practical way in my daily life. I am currently a volunteer at church in the Social Communications Commission, SOCCOM. Earlier on in the year, an inhouse publication know as Patsime/Waterwell was revived. It is a bi-monthly magazine of the commission with an estimated readership of +400000 Catholic Christians in the Archdiocese of Harare. Coming up with story lines and being a contributor has meant that I am drawing practical lessons from reading the book and putting them to good use.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Cultivate a spirit of healthy skepticism toward people and institutions that are taken too seriously by almost everyone.”
I have realized that I need to avoid a situation where I unquestioningly agree with what institutions, trusted or not; new or old, put out into the media. I have learnt that a healthy dose of skepticism leads me to interrogate the status quo and then form an opinion after applying my mind to the issues.
“The rule of threes; three elements of proof.”
“A writer must be a keen observer of the innocuous.”
This quote links closely to having a healthy level of skepticism. When everything is “normal: what it is it that makes it so and why is it acceptable as such? I have realized that I am able to observe more by not taking for granted what seems harmless and inoffensive.
“The best we can be is fair, going on the evidence and not on our prejudices, and fair we must always be.”
This quote is a challenge to me as a writer. A challenge not to impose my prejudices to my readers. When reporting I need to be as objective as possible.
“Repetition is the hammer in the writer’s toolbox.”
Repetition is a good tool to use when emphasizing important points
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?
Yes.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on the scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful was the contents? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 9
D. Would you recommend it to other? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Crucial Conversations
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
There are defining moments in our lives which usually require conversations and those conversations create something new.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. What is a crucial conversation?
It is one which is defined as a day-to-day conversation where opinions vary; stakes are high; emotions run strong and where the results have a huge impact on the quality of my life. The authors highlight that generally humans are masters of avoiding tough conversations. It is however important to realize that crucial conversations don’t mean we are now trouble. When conversations matter most to us is when we’re usually very emotional and not prepared. These are the times when most crucial conversations are likely to happen, and I have realized that those are the moments where I need to be intentional about not getting carried away and forgetting the principles. They are usually spontaneous and come out of nowhere and under pressure.
ii. An ability to facilitate for dialogue is crucial i.e. creating a free flow of meaning.
When individuals enter a dialogue, they have different meanings. All ideas should however find their way into the open. The whole is greater than sum of original parts and thus the emphasis on all ideas having to find their way into the open. When the meaning is shared people willingly act. They buy into the idea because they are involved and understand. The greater the shared meaning the better the choice – whoever makes it. When I participate in conversations, I must be mindful to give others a chance to speak. I have realized that I usually dominate team meetings. I have become more intentional in having more participation from others and trying to have everyone contribute to the conversation.
iii. The authors highlight the tools people use to help create the conditions of dialogue.
These are stated and explained as – Staying focused on what I really want; Starting with heart; getting myself right; personal dialogue skills; beginning with the right motives and staying focused. It is emphasized that there is need to be clear on the motives and not change them. As much as possible, it is worthwhile to try and detach from the conversation and have an external view of what is happening. I need to ask – what do I want for myself? What do I want for others? What do I want for the relationship? How would I behave if I really wanted these results? One of my strengths is that I am a competitive individual. I have noticed that this sometimes distracts from having effective conversations because of the need to always win. Whenever I get tempted to win, I need to realize that it might be at a cost of better results and conclusions. Sometimes we choose personal safety over dialogue – switching to silence.
iv. Another idea which struck me is a lesson on how to resist agreeing with choices which
I am uncomfortable with refusing suckers choices. When conversations happen I need to clarify what I really want and clarify what I really don’t want. That clarity will assist me to know what I am able to compromise on and what I am not. It will also guide the conversation in instances where there is potential to steer off topic.
v. Learn to look
Watch content of conversation and what people are doing. Observe why are acting how they are acting. Know what to look for when a conversation starts getting ugly. Watching for content and conditions when stakes are high. To be able to see what’s going on you need to know what to look out for and this takes knowledge and practice. Watch for 3 different conditions: silence and violence; pay attention to when the conversation turns crucial such as stomach tightening – what are my cues? Are they emotional more than physical – sometimes the cues are behavioral. Start dual processing, check when people start becoming scared. When it’s safe people can say anything. People are comfortable when they believe the other person has their best interests in mind. Look for safety and then be curious. Silence; act to hold back information: masking; avoiding; withdrawing.
Violence; forces meaning into the pool controlling; labelling and attacking.
My own behavior; low self-monitors are a danger. Pay close attention to what I’m doing/saying and the impact.
vi. The authors highlight how it is necessary that the participants of the conversation feel safe.
How to make it safe to talk about anything involves stepping out of the conversation. Signs to indicate that someone is not safe can include silence. When such signs are noticed it is important to restore safety. I need to understand which condition is at risk? Sometimes, it might be that the parties have lost sight of the purpose of the conversation I need to establish mutual purpose and highlight that we are both working towards an agreed outcome. When purpose is at risk we end up in debate. Defensiveness, accusations, hidden agendas are also signs of a lack of safety.
Mutual Respect – when it gets lost individuals are now worried about their dignity. Others need to believe I respect them. I should apologize when appropriate and respect the other person’s dignity.
The acronym used for the steps to create safety are CRIB:
C – commit to find mutual purpose. Start with heart.
R – recognize the purpose behind the strategy
I – invent a mutual purpose.
B – brainstorm new strategies
vii. Different scenarios and possible responses/tackling of same.
The authors take the time to illustrate the different scenarios which might arise where the skills taught in the book can be put in practice. In almost all the situations the call is to initially take myself out of the situation emotionally. It is easier said than done because crucial conversations occur when the subject being discussed is something one is passionate about or takes very seriously. I appreciate how adjusting my reflex responses can lead to more positive outcomes.
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Yes the ideas used are very practical and helpful. Conversations are an integral part of communication in all aspects of my life – business, academic, social, and religious. I am now better equipped to navigate them.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Nothing fails like success. Success is not infinite and usually when one succeeds the probability of filing then is higher.”
“To know and not to do is really not to know; a demonstration of knowledge is what determines if I really do know something.”
“Perfect practice makes perfect whenever I read or learn about a new skill I need to practice it. That is how I will perfect it.”
“He who complies against his will is of his own opinion still – In order to get total buy-in a person should comply because he wants to and not because he is forced to when emotions start cranking up the brain becomes disengaged.”
“There is an intermediary step between what others do and how we feel. We add meaning, motive, judgment to explain what we have seen and heard. Changing the story helps.”
“Words matter; define your feelings accurately so that you think about them and their impact clearly.”
I need to expand my emotional vocabulary.
“Challenge your feelings.”
I need to consistently ask myself whether the story I have told myself accurate? I should not confuse stories with facts
“Facts aren’t controversial.”
Opinions are the ones which might be controversial as they express a view of a particular situation or fact but facts within themselves are not controversial
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful
No.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 8
B. How helpful was the content? 9
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 10
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
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Emotional Intelligence
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
There are other factors to consider towards someone being successful besides their IQ – Self control, zeal, persistence, the ability to motivate oneself, sympathy (emotional intelligence)
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. A view of human nature that ignores the power of emotions is short-sighted.
Feelings count as much as thought. Goleman emphasizes that emotions play a crucial role in shaping our perceptions, decisions, and relationships. Ignoring or downplaying emotions can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and missed opportunities for personal growth and success. Recognizing and harnessing the power of emotions allows for a deeper understanding of ourselves and others. I usually prefer to focus on thoughts rather than feelings and this point has nudged me in the way of not ignoring my feelings.
ii. We have 2 minds; one that thinks and one that feels.
The rational is more thoughtful. The emotional / rational dichotomy approximates distinction between heart and head. The 2 minds operate in harmony and are exquisitely coordinated. When passion surges the emotional mind is more dominant. The author highlights this concept of dual minds – the rational mind and the emotional mind. Understanding and balancing these two aspects of our minds is essential for making sound decisions, building meaningful relationships, and leading a fulfilling life. Integrating emotional and cognitive processes leads to better outcomes in various areas of life.
iii. Hope is identified as a crucial trait.
Having hope means one does not give into overwhelming anxiety, defeatist attitude or depression when experiencing setbacks. Having hope, it is said, leads to less emotional distress. Goleman discusses the importance of hope as a vital emotional resource. Cultivating hope enables individuals to navigate challenges, setbacks, and failures with resilience and optimism. By maintaining hope, individuals can persist in the face of adversity, learn from failures, and adapt to changing circumstances. This aspect resonates well with my Christian beliefs. Hope is a virtue which I need to cultivate more in my life.
iv. Empathy builds on self-awareness.
Goleman emphasizes that empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, is rooted in self-awareness. Developing a deep understanding of one’s own emotions, motivations, and behaviors lays the foundation for empathetic interactions with others. Empathy fosters compassion, connection, and effective communication in personal and professional relationships. The more inline we are with our emotions the more skilled we are at reading other peoples. Absence of empathy is seen in criminals. The key to empathy is in the ability to read non-verbal channels. The roots of empathy can be traced to infancy for example babies cry when they hear others. Attunement is when a child knows their emotions are acknowledged. This happens in parent and child interactions. Lack of attunement can be attributed to criminal. A very practical and important note to self as I understood this theme in the book is the importance of observing others as I communicate with them. I fully now appreciate the advantage of eye contact and fully engaging in a conversation to make the most of the interaction.
v. There are 2 emotional realities in a couple. His and hers.
Goleman suggests that couples can protect their marriage by cultivating emotional intelligence skills such as effective communication, empathy, conflict resolution, and relationship management. By building a strong emotional connection, fostering mutual understanding, and practicing active listening, couples can strengthen their bond, navigate challenges, and sustain a fulfilling partnership. Boys and girls are taught differently how to handle emotions. A key disparity is that boys take pride in independence and autonomy while girls see themselves as part of a web of connectedness. Women feel emotions more intensely than men. The emotional glue that binds couples together . Harsh criticism is not a good sign. Complaints and criticism are different, criticism trigger defensive responses than an attempt to improve. It is crucial that consideration of how the other might feel be given when critiquing the spouse.
vi.What can couples do to protect a marriage. Men do no side-step conflict. Men should not offer practical solutions too early in the conversation. Women purposeful effort not to attack.
Practice complaints as opposed to criticisms or personal attacks. Complaints should be put in a wider context of loving him. Repair mechanisms which can be used: – do not concentrate on specific issues but cultivate a coupled shared emotional intelligence. (empathy, listening well.etc). Partners should learn to soothe their own distressed feelings. Calming down is an immensely constructive state. Allowing a call for a time out when one partner is getting overwhelmed. Listening/hearing the feelings behind what is being said (empathy). Mirroring is used to assist in catching the thoughts and feelings of the other party. The effect of being mirrored is comforting.
vii. Emotional Intelligence is now premium in the workplace. T
The author emphasizes the critical role of emotional intelligence (EI) in the workplace, highlighting how EI skills such as self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and social skills are crucial for success and leadership effectiveness. Individuals with high EI tend to perform better, make sound decisions, and navigate relationships effectively, contributing to overall career success. In teams, EI promotes collaboration, communication, and conflict resolution leading to improved team performance. Organizational culture is positively influenced by leaders with strong EI, fostering a positive work environment and enhancing employee engagement. Goleman suggests that through training and development initiatives, individuals and organizations can cultivate and leverage EI skills to create a more productive and harmonious workplace. When emotionally upset people cannot remember, attend, learn or make decisions easily. Mastering the crucial art of feedback is a good tool for managers. Artful critique can help an employee see what they can do better. Be specific; pick a significant incident; offer a solution; be present – be sensitive (a call for empathy).
3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Yes. The realization that my emotions contribute to how I live my life with regards to socially and from a health perspective helps me pay closer attention to them. I also am in a better position now to understand how others operate emotionally. What the indicators are when someone is getting distressed and where the causes of certain reactions may have originated from.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“The problem is not emotionality but it’s appropriateness and expression.”
Feelings are okay to share, it’s how and when I choose to share the feelings that can have a negative impact.
“There was an emotional brain before the thinking one.”
I have always thought that the thinking came first, understanding the development and background makes me appreciate the importance of feelings more.
“Emotion is crucial to effective thought.”
I should not underestimate, or worse still, try and bury or shut down my feelings in a bid to get clarity of thought.
“A psychological fault line is dominant is criminals.”
The results of the studies carried out linking criminals to psychological traumas and faults in their childhood is jarring and sobering. It highlights how close attention needs to be given to children whilst they are growing up.
“The fine art of relationships require empathy and self- awareness.”
This statement struck me in that relationships are described as a fine art.
“If you try to dominate people you are already defeated.”
This is a note to self. I need to let people be. Imposing my own opinions does not help anyone and it is the wrong way to lead a team.
“Stress makes people stupid.”
I should avoid stress at all costs; being subject to it and subjecting other people to it.
“Being angry more than doubles the risk of cardiac failure in people who have cardiac conditions.”
This was another sobering fact especially because I am in the healthcare industry
“Under emotional stress immune responses are slowed down.”
Another health related condition fact which is sobering.
“The more significant a relationship is in your life, the bigger the impact on health; health related facts.”
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful
No.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
None.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 7
B. How helpful were the contents? 7
C. How easy was it to understand? 7
D. Would you recommend it to others? 7
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 7
How to Sell Yourself
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
If you sell yourself your communication will be received. Selling yourself is getting your message across. The signals you send and how you send them. The messaging you want to send revolve around competence; likeability; luck. It’s not about faking it.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Communication
The book highlights that in the world of communication, face-to-face interaction remains unparalleled. Personalized networking is proven to be more impactful, as genuine connections stand the test of time. Embracing companionship never goes out of style, fostering trust and loyalty in relationships. However, the art of small talk seems to lose its luster, as authenticity and meaningful conversations are increasingly valued. It is crucial to convey our messages effectively and with clarity. Communication is more than just relaying information; it is about ensuring that our listeners grasp the intended message. I am reminded of the need to be myself; my likeable self.
I need to sell myself as competent and likeable and ensure that I do not imitate bad examples. In the realm of self-presentation, embodying competence and likeability is essential for me to make a lasting impression. Authenticity trumps imitation of negative examples. Rather than mimicking behaviors that diminish credibility, I should focus on showcasing genuine competence and likeability. Demonstrating expertise in my field, delivering with confidence and clarity, and engaging others with empathy and warmth are key components of selling myself effectively. I should avoid the pitfalls of inauthenticity or arrogance by prioritizing humility, active listening, and genuine interest in others. By staying true to myself, highlighting my strengths with humility, and fostering genuine connections, I can authentically convey competence and likeability. True charisma arises from being myself and exuding genuine confidence, rather than trying to imitate qualities that go against my nature. I have experience which testifies that when I let my authentic self shine through, others are naturally drawn to my unique blend of competence and warmth.
ii. The communication tools of mind, face, body, and voice are highlighted as crucial components for creating likeability.
When these elements harmonize, a genuine connection is established with others. Preparation is essential as it often requires diligent effort to achieve a seemingly spontaneous delivery. Leveraging my individuality can be a powerful asset in communication. Employing voices and gestures in a positive manner can enhance effectiveness. It’s important to integrate voice with the mind, face, and body to convey sincerity. Open body language and facial expressions facilitate an open vocal tone. Instead of relying solely on volume, I need to opt for a warm and inviting tone, akin to a comfortable living room conversation. I should shed the facade of artificiality and embrace my true persona. When uncertain, speaking softly often conveys authenticity and sincerity. By mastering these communication tools and staying true to myself, I can authentically exude likeability and competence.
iii. The book highlights the transformative power of converting stress, typically perceived as negative, into a positive force known as nervous energy.
By shifting the focus from oneself to the audience, recognizing that I am there to serve and engage with them, I can truly sell oneself in the best light. It is crucial not to conflate nervousness with debilitating stage fright; viewing nerves as a source of energy can actually elevate my performance. Confidence in myself will play a pivotal role in delivering a compelling address, highlighting the importance of self-assurance. An invaluable technique for managing stress and enhancing performance is mastering diaphragmatic breathing, which can directly influence metabolism and overall composure. Coincidentally the art of breathing well will also be useful in my running.
iv. The author emphasizes the significance of sending the right signals to the audience to establish likability and enhance communication.
These signals, encompassing body language and attire, influence how individuals are perceived and how their message is received. It is essential for the audience to view the speaker as comfortable and confident to engender trust and receptiveness. Maintaining a posture with hands beside the body while standing, adopting direct posture with one foot slightly forward, and using natural gestures contribute to a favorable impression. While seated, it is advised to avoid leaning back and instead opt for an upright and relaxed stance. Clothing choices should complement the overall presentation without drawing unnecessary attention.
v. The goal is to leave the audience with a lasting memory of the message conveyed.
Emphasizing the importance of aligning non-verbal cues with verbal communication for a compelling and impactful delivery. Mastering the art of sending the right signals can significantly enhance one’s ability to connect with and persuade an audience effectively.
vi. The power of pausing.
The book highlights the profound impact of strategically pausing before answering questions during public speaking engagements. By asking key questions such as “Why me?” “Where am I speaking?” “How do I fit into the rest of the program?” “Who is my point of contact?” “How much time has been allocated for me?” individuals can better position themselves for effective communication and engagement with the audience. The deliberate use of silent pauses can serve to underscore important points, allowing the message to resonate more deeply and capturing the audience’s attention. These pauses not only create emphasis but also enable speakers to gather their thoughts and deliver responses with clarity and confidence. By embracing these tactics, individuals can transform nerves into a valuable asset, leveraging them to enhance their performance and make a lasting impact during public speaking opportunities. Strategic pausing is a powerful tool that can elevate one’s communication skills and presentation effectiveness, ultimately paving the way for success in engaging with audiences. I usually fall into the trap of wanting to answer quickly, I need to be more mindful on the use of this skill.
vii. Handling aggressive media.
Arch Lustberg provides valuable tactics for handling hostile media situations effectively. He suggests that when facing hostile media, it is crucial to remain calm and composed, avoiding reacting impulsively to aggressive questioning. Lustberg recommends focusing on the key messages to convey despite the challenging environment, ensuring clarity and consistency in communication to maintain control of the narrative. He advises utilizing strategic pauses to gather thoughts and respond thoughtfully, acknowledging criticisms without becoming defensive, and reframing negative questions to pivot towards positive aspects. Additionally, Lustberg emphasizes the importance of maintaining a professional demeanor, displaying confidence in one’s expertise, and utilizing active listening skills to address concerns and establish rapport with the media representatives. By staying prepared, maintaining composure, and steering the conversation towards desired key points, individuals can navigate hostile media environments successfully, protecting their reputation and message amidst challenging circumstances. Overall, Lustberg’s tactics aim to empower individuals to handle hostile media situations with grace, poise, and strategic communication strategies.
3. Will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
The ideas in the book will help me immensely with regards to how I present myself in the various platforms I interact with. My communication skills will be greatly improved through implementation of the different tools and strategies shared.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“As we are getting better at communicating with the keyboard, we are getting worse on communicating with the mouth.”
The use of technology, especially mobile phones is beginning to compromise ability to converse naturally in person.
“If you have nothing to communicate don’t.”
I shouldn’t feel pressured to fill up any silence. When I speak the purpose should be clear to me
“The spoken word only gets one chance.”
I need to be sure of what I want to say before I say it as words spoken out loud cannot be taken back
“The pause is the fine art of thinking on your feet” – Pausing is an essential skill which might not come naturally but needs to be learned.
“Confidence can be learned.”
I am motivated to know that I can learn what might not naturally come to me
“Let thy speech be better than silence or be silent.”
I should speak only when there is value in my speech
“If the audience doesn’t know you have a problem, you don’t have a problem.”
There is no need to over share my situation.
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
No.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful
No.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment.
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 9
B. How helpful were the contents? 10
C. How easy was it to understand? 10
D. Would you recommend it to others? 8
E. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9
Love without Conditions
Assessment by Cheurombo Pswarayi (Zimbabwe)
1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?
Ferrini, the author, has the main idea in the book as unconditional love. When an individual gives to self and others love without limitation. This means that there are no expectations. There is full acceptance of self and others and one shows compassion without judgment.
2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.
i. Silence and Stillness
This theme emphasizes the profound benefits of silence and stillness in fostering inner peace and clarity. In the midst of a chaotic world, taking time to be silent allows individuals to reconnect with their inner selves and access deeper levels of wisdom. It is in the silence that the noise of daily life fades away, enabling one to listen to their intuition and gain insights that are often drowned out by external distractions. Practicing silence cultivates mindfulness, helping individuals to be fully present in the moment and to appreciate life’s simple joys. I usually have quick answers and I like to contribute quickly to conversations and in meetings. The theme of silence and stillness in the book makes me recognize that sometimes it is in stillness and silence that answers come and that I allow others to process ideas and suggestions.
ii. Self-Forgiveness
Self-forgiveness is a crucial aspect of personal growth and emotional healing. It involves releasing oneself from the burden of past mistakes and letting go of self-blame and guilt. By learning to forgive oneself, individuals acknowledge their imperfections and inherent humanity. This process allows for greater self-compassion and acceptance, paving the way for deeper self-understanding and resilience. It also frees up emotional energy that can be redirected towards positive self-development and nurturing healthy relationships with others. Self-forgiveness is not about condoning past actions but rather about embracing oneself with unconditional love and empathy, recognizing that everyone is worthy of forgiveness and second chances. Whenever what I have done wrong has impacted others negatively I find it difficult to forgive myself. It is easier when the only person, or the worst of the negative impact is felt mainly by myself. This aspect of self-forgiveness is a work in progress for me. Embracing the idea that I am not perfect helps.
iii. Unconditional Love
Unconditional love transcends judgment, expectations, and conditions. It is a pure, compassionate love that accepts others as they are, without seeking to change or control them. This theme encourages individuals to embrace themselves and others with genuine empathy and understanding. By practicing unconditional love, individuals foster deeper connections and cultivate a sense of belonging and emotional security. It allows for authentic relationships based on mutual respect and compassion, nurturing personal growth and healing. Unconditional love also promotes forgiveness and reconciliation, as it encourages letting go of grievances and embracing forgiveness as a pathway to inner peace and harmony. The concept is yet another very difficult concept for me. When individuals go out of their way to be hurtful and hateful I find it challenging to ‘unconditionally love’ them. The goal have taken away from the book is to identify the humanity in them and respect that which I can identify as humanness.
iv. Healing through Compassion
Compassion is a powerful force for healing both oneself and others. It involves empathizing with the suffering of others and oneself and responding with kindness and understanding. Whenever I have shown compassion, I have witnessed how it can lead to emotional resilience, inner peace, and positive relationships. What I have realized is I need to practice more self-compassion by treating myself with the same care and empathy they would offer to a loved one, fostering a deeper sense of self-worth and acceptance. Compassion towards others promotes harmony and cooperation, creating a supportive and nurturing environment where everyone can thrive.
v. Embracing Vulnerability
Embracing vulnerability involves courageously facing one’s fears and insecurities and allowing oneself to be authentic and open in relationships. The author encourages individuals to embrace vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness, recognizing that it is through vulnerability that genuine connections are formed. By being vulnerable, individuals can deepen their relationships and foster intimacy and trust. In being vulnerable, there is a sincerity in speaking and communicating which I have noticed that people are drawn to. Even when I have erred in something, the quality of sincerity, which I link closely to being vulnerable, has assisted me in mending and keeping important relationships. It also allows for personal growth and self-discovery, as it requires stepping outside one’s comfort zone and confronting fears. Resistance to vulnerability usually stems from fear of judgment or rejection.
vi. Letting Go of Fear
The author takes time to discuss how fear often holds individuals back from reaching their full potential and experiencing true happiness. This theme explores the transformative power of letting go of fear and embracing life with courage and love. By confronting fears and limiting beliefs, individuals can liberate themselves from self-imposed limitations and live more authentically. I have realized one of my greatest fears is that of not achieving. The fear of being a disappointment to others. I need to cultivate a positive mindset and embrace uncertainty as a natural part of my journey.
vii. Spiritual Growth
Spiritual growth involves the journey towards deeper self-awareness, connection with the divine, and alignment with one’s higher purpose. This theme explores various spiritual practices and teachings that promote inner peace, wisdom, and enlightenment. It encourages individuals to explore their beliefs and values, and to cultivate a sense of spirituality that resonates with their inner truth. Spiritual growth is a transformative process that involves letting go of ego-driven desires and attachments and embracing a deeper understanding of the interconnectedness of all beings. It fosters compassion, gratitude, and reverence for life, and encourages individuals to live with integrity and authenticity. Spiritual growth also involves seeking meaning and purpose in life and striving to make a positive difference in the world. One value I strive to maintain is that of spirituality. My weakness at times has been to mix-up religion and spirituality. Although they are closely related, they are quite different and I aim to always seek spiritual growth and use my religion as a channel to same.
3. Will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?
Yes they will. The themes encourage readers to cultivate inner peace, acceptance, and unconditional love in their lives, fostering greater happiness, fulfillment, and harmonious relationships. I will practically practice freedom from attachment, discard self-judgment, practice principles of equality and overcome victim consciousness.
4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.
“Without presence, absence has no meaning.”
A positive something will be highlighted or appreciated when contrasted with a negative
“Do not make of your experience what it is not.”
I should not read into what I experience something outside it. I need to appreciate and acknowledge what happens as it happens
“Giving is the greatest gift.”
There is joy to be had and gained in giving
“God is without form.”
God is often described as being beyond human comprehension and beyond the limitations of the material world. This concept emphasizes that the nature of God is spiritual, infinite, and transcendent, existing beyond the bounds of space, time, and physicality.
“Attack is impossible when you remember who you are.”
I should not be on the defensive. Being defensive takes away from what someone is trying to tell me or teach me
“Look for love through disagreement.”
I should look for the positive elements that come from arguments
“Listen to what the enemy is saying to you.”
Usually the enemy speaks in the negative but they tend to speak truths which are aimed at being hurtful. If I listen with a mindset of seeking to improve myself
“It takes courage to disagree.”
This is especially true when I am the only person seeing from a certain point of view and the majority of a group see differently. The temptation is to not engage for the ‘sake of peace’
5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas which you disagree with and, if so, why?
I did not fully grasp in what voice the author was speaking in some instances. It seemed as if he were speaking as if God had directly spoke to him.
6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful
No.
7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous questions? If so, please comment
No.
Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.
A. How interesting was it to read? 6
B. How helpful were the contents? 7
C. How easy was it to understand? 6
D. Would you recommend it to others? 5
E. What is your overall rating you would give it? 6