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[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]As a Man Thinketh<\/strong><\/span>
\nAssessment by Akuyoma Vera Ikeriugwo (Nigeria)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?<\/span><\/strong><\/em>
\nThe author’s main idea in this book is centered around the power of our thoughts. He tries to make us understand that our thoughts are a true reflection of who we are, and whether these thoughts are positive or negative, there\u2019s always an outcome. He warns about fruitless thoughts that emanate from our inability to control thought patterns, and encourages concentrated thinking which defines an individual and sets them apart.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

i. Calmness<\/span><\/p>\n

Calmness means a lot to me, not only have I had personal experiences where calmness was the way to go, being calm is truly a beauty. My husband says that if you react based on a person\u2019s behavior towards you, it means you gave control to the person and they can trigger you anytime. The best way is to give an opposite reaction which throws the person off balance. My husband had a workplace accident in the 4th month after our marriage, and we were expecting a baby. In all of these, there was never a time when my blood pressure was out of specification. Was I scared? Yes, I was, did I stay calm through the ordeal? Yes, I did of course, not without his help. His calmness in the face of pain rubbed off on me<\/span><\/p>\n

ii. The Paradigm Shift<\/span><\/p>\n

This is the awakening stage, the think big and dream big stage, the stage where everything is possible to he or she that says I can, as my father would sometimes say. Education in my country is not a continuous one, after high school one applies to universities of choice and writes the matriculation board examination. There is a stipulated cut off mark for this examination, which still does not guarantee instant acceptance into the institution of learning of choice.<\/span><\/p>\n

These institutions in turn prepare another examination, for which there is also a stipulated cut off mark based on the course of study one is interested in. Long story short, I got into my institution of choice on the third attempt. My paradigm shift came after the two failed attempts of getting into school, which made me look inwards and ask myself what I really loved to do. After that honest conversation with myself, I did the needful and got a spot into one of the prestigious universities in my country to study Microbiology.<\/span><\/p>\n

iii. Mastery<\/span><\/p>\n

Man is the master of his thoughts, and the ability or inability to properly channel these thoughts creates two extremes. These two extremes find expressions in our world. On one hand there is love, care, selflessness and all other beautiful virtues that exist, while on the other hand there is hate, war, pain, destruction, just to mention a few. We hold the answers to all there is, if only our thoughts are properly channelled and we are willing to look into the deep recesses of our souls.<\/span><\/p>\n

iv. The law of sowing and reaping<\/span><\/p>\n

Growing up, a slate of some sort hung at the entrance of my home, my father placed it there and it read be not deceived, God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he shall reap; that a person cultivates internally eventually manifests externally, and our actions shape both our character and destiny. Our thoughts slowly culminate into patterns, our patterns become our signature appearance\/identity, which in turn becomes our character that eventually influences the outcome of events.<\/span><\/p>\n

v. Circumstances and Self revelation.<\/span><\/p>\n

I once made a post on one of my social media accounts years ago, where I said \u201cMay we not make all of the money we\u2019ve ever dreamed of, and attain every height we\u2019ve ever wanted, only to end up selfish and arrogant. Then it would not be the money that turned us that way, rather the money amplified what we already are.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

I once worked under someone who showed me the nastiest of characters. She had fought with virtually everyone in the group except myself. I made a mental note never to engage her come what may, and it worked for me, though sometimes the need to give a piece would arise. So, one day, we all decided to have a talk, myself and the other members of the group, that\u2019s where she opens up and talks about how her behavior was shaped by her previous boss and upbringing. I asked myself one question, if the treatment meted out on her by the previous boss influenced all manner of negativity in her, why mete out the same treatment on the rest of us? That\u2019s where I drew the line and stopped hoping for some kind of miracle because the circumstance she was in only revealed what was deep seated in her, it was a revelation of self.<\/span><\/p>\n

vi. Thought and purpose<\/span><\/p>\n

Thoughts are like a compass that leads us in the direction of purpose. Since my thoughts can influence what I pay attention to, what I value and how I interpret my life\u2019s experiences, overtime, my repeated thoughts shape my habits, actions and character. Thoughts do not create our destination, it only points us towards our purpose, which is all dependent on how truthful, disciplined and intentional our thoughts are.<\/span><\/p>\n

vii. Thought and achievement.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thoughts are seeds, blueprints or intentions, and fruitful thoughts inspire creativity and shape future outcomes. Large achievements are often preceded by the ability to first conceive them mentally, once we win the battle of the mind we have already been set in motion for boundless achievements. A person rarely gravitates towards something they cannot imagine, believe in or value. If I can consistently think beyond my current limitations, and align my actions with such thoughts, I increase my chances of becoming greater than I already am.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

All of these ideas put together point in the same direction, the condition of the world is connected to the functionality of the human mind and character. These ideas would help me accept criticisms more open-mindedly and without being defensive. It would encourage cultivated thought patterns which improves discipline, critical thinking, empathy and self-control. In practical terms I get to improve my parenting, develop leadership and workplace culture. All of these show that human and social improvements are intertwined and none can survive without the other. The world begins to change externally when I and those around me begin to change positively internally.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cDreams are the seedlings of reality.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Dreams matter because they are often the earliest form of future reality. What begins as an imagination, can grow into achievements when nourished by action, discipline and time. Every step begins with a thought or dream, what we make out of it is actually dependent on how long we choose to dream.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cA man of weak thoughts can make them strong by exercising himself in right thinking.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Fitness or exercise is not just for the body, but also for the mind. A person who trains in right thinking develops resilience and clarity overtime. This is not to say that problems do not exist, rather it is an approach to respond to live in a healthier and productive way.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cEven if he fails again and again to accomplish his purpose, the strength of character gained will be the measure of his true success, and this will form a new starting point for future power and triumph.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

I had always thought winning and not losing makes you the victor, now I am proud to say that true success is not measured only by outcomes or visible victories, it is measured by what a person becomes through the struggle of trying to accomplish purpose. Inner transformation gained while pursuing a goal often becomes the building block for later success.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThe man who does not shrink from self-crucifixion can never fail to accomplish the object on which his heart is set.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Everyone of us has embedded in us a moral code. I and I alone, can tell myself the unbiased truth. One who accepts self-crucifixion accepts the price of transformation. Criticism is not an easy pill to swallow as it wounds our ego before improving us. Correction is usually frowned at not because it is false, but because it is uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMan\u2019s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Our minds produce output based on input it was fed. A neglected mind does not remain empty; it becomes overrun by all manner of inconsequential thoughts, which eventually exhibits itself as character, a harvest of our cultivated thoughts.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThe Universal Law of Attraction obeys us no matter which way we choose to think.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The mind does not selectively choose only the best of our thoughts or only our positive thinking, whatever dominates it grows stronger and the mind continually prepares itself to recognise and pursue such thoughts, whether good or bad.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas that you disagree with and if so, why?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Yes. I am unclear with this statement: \u201cBefore a man can achieve anything, even in worldly things he must lift his thoughts above slavish animal indulgence. He may not, in order to succeed, give up all animality and selfishness, by any means; but a portion of it must, at least, be sacrificed.\u201d How much selfishness and animality can I reserve for myself that wouldn\u2019t end up pulling me into the black hole I\u2019m trying so hard to avoid? Why should I have a reserve of these traits in the first place? I think purity of heart is as important as achieving purpose.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

There were no exercises to complete.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous question? If so please comment.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

No.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.<\/span><\/strong>
\nA. How interesting was it to read? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span>
\nB. How helpful were the contents? 6<\/strong><\/span><\/span>
\nC. How easy was it to understand? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span>
\nD. Would you recommend it to others? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span>
\nE. What is the overall rating you would give it? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Jonathan Livingston Seagull<\/strong><\/span>
\nAssessment by Akuyoma Vera Ikeriugwo (Nigeria)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

The author’s main idea with regards to the book Jonathan Livingston Seagull is about overcoming limitations.<\/span>
\nIt is also about becoming the best version of oneself through constant practice, dedication and discipline.<\/span>
\nIt is about striving continuously even when the odds are against us as humans.<\/span>
\nIt is about living life in a way never imagined possible.<\/span>
\nIt is about intentionality even when we have a different opinion from the crowd.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important to you. Use personal examples from your own life.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

i. Limitation<\/span><\/p>\n

Humans have always been limited creatures operating under a finite lifespan and irreversible time constraints on how much we can learn and it forces us to prioritize. Our brain also has a finite capacity and can only hold a handful of information per time, though complex reasoning is effortful, it is slow.<\/span><\/p>\n

With all of the limitation we experience, there\u2019s still room for being the best at what we do and opportunities are limitless but, we would rather become like the flock and concentrate on only flying to food and back and never really honing flying as a skill which can be used in other ways other than filling the stomach.<\/span><\/p>\n

ii. Questioning the norm<\/span><\/p>\n

This reminds us that age does not always mean vast experience and that rules made to govern man can only be overturned by man. In the world of today stereotypes are constantly being broken, a lot of learning, unlearning and relearning happens for the greater good. The fear of striking out has kept a lot of us from playing the game.<\/span><\/p>\n

iii. Dynamism<\/span><\/p>\n

This idea stems from the statement \u201cAs one school ends, so does another begin.\u201d Life as we all know is in stages, and the higher we go the cooler it becomes. Getting cooler as we go higher really does not signify comfort because, at higher altitudes it becomes really difficult to breathe, but there is always a way to defy the odds and let it work in our favor as humans.<\/span><\/p>\n

For us who are living, life is a journey, we alight when we get to our destination while others continue. The higher we go the more the lessons learned and the more the challenges faced. We were designed to want more out of life, that is why when we achieve one thing, we soon realize that achievement does not quench the thirst for more, we go for the next big thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

iv. Perfection.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our purpose for living is to find what perfection is and show it forth. It is not our very existence on earth that matters but how many lives we were able to touch positively in the course of our existence. Just like Jonathan whose greater calling was to teach other gulls his life\u2019s work at no cost. Perfection is a big deal, despite the presence of limitations but, practice and mastery may sometimes make it seem like a walk in the park.<\/span><\/p>\n

v. Desire<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThe gulls who scorn perfection for the sake of travel go nowhere.\u201d Sometimes I do not want to put in the hard work but desire the dividends of hard work. That makes me no different from these gulls who are satisfied with how they live their lives, as long as food for sustenance comes, there\u2019s no need to earn a degree in flying.<\/span><\/p>\n

Living in the now is a myopic way of life, we should live with the consciousness that times and seasons change and we need to keep getting better even if it means defying the norm. Knowing that we are limited is one thing but refusing to make anything out of life in the face of limitation is another. We cannot have what we do not desire.<\/span><\/p>\n

vi. Cultural norm<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhatever stands against that freedom must be set aside, be it ritual or superstition or limitation in any form.\u201d Most societal norms have crippled in its people the ability to dream big. That my mother did it, and the mother before her mother too, does not mean we cannot bank on continual improvement, which is the very essence of living.<\/span>
\nNorms have a strong hold on its people and I once lost a good friend to the limitation called \u201cStereotype.\u201d I was told by my parents that my people do not get married to people from his own part of the country,so I did not bother to foster friendship with the individual owing to what I was told. As I grew older that experience shaped how I saw people; for who they really are and not the stereotypes attached to their very existence.<\/span><\/p>\n

vii. Selflessness<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cPractice and see the real gull, the good in every one of them and to help them see it in themselves.\u201d This one resonates with me in so many ways, it reminds me of what my father used to say about helping humanity and not expecting anything in return, however good or bad they may be, the rain falls on each one of us. To see the good in oneself is tasking, how much more seeing the good in another and even making them see it in themselves in our world of today? Just as Jonathan made mention and practice. Constant practice will make this a possibility.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

These ideas have given me zeal to be relentless and dogged when it comes to chasing what I believe in. It has made me understand that limitation is just the blueprint of my design as human and that I can achieve all I want to if I commit myself to it.<\/span>
\nPractically speaking these ideas have inspired me to do other thing like self-development. I will be taking a deep dive into the world of Personnel Management and Public Speaking to be able to communicate, share my personal experiences with others, listen to their own stories, know what drives them and have understanding not only from my standpoint but, from that of others.<\/span><\/p>\n

It has made me understand that there is no place to hide from roadblocks that life throws at me and that no matter how I run, if I fail to learn a lesson from the things that have happened in the past, life has a way of hurling them back at me till I learn a lesson or two before graduating to the next level.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cA seagull is an unlimited idea of freedom and that your whole body from wingtip to wingtip is nothing more than your thought itself.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Importance: Just as the saying goes \u201cYou are what you eat.\u201d I can categorically say also that \u201cYou are also what and how you think.\u201d Life and its achievements are a mental battle, and as long as we do not lose the battle mentally, we are on the right course and will achieve results.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cEvery hour Jonathan was there at the side of each of his students.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The power of showing up and presence can never be over-emphasised in the journey of life. It has a way of driving mentees and those who look up to us be it friends, family members or children not just to attain greater heights but to give off the same positive energy when they are around people.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cBreak the chains of your thoughts and you break the chains of your body too.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Holding on tightly to the excuse of being limited by nature as humans never gets anything done. When the early men were still learning how to survive the idea of limitation was submerged and they put in all they had to make sure they found ways to feed, make sure that food was available, treat wounds and illnesses and protect themselves from harsh environmental conditions.<\/span><\/p>\n

A peek into ancient civilization has thrown more light on the fact that a lot of inventions present in the world today have blueprints that date back to a time where we could never have imagined that such could have been possible owing to the numerous limitations present at the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cYou did not need faith to fly, you needed to understand flying.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Just as flying is in the nature of birds, the gulls did not need to hope to fly, they just needed to keep practicing to hone their skills and maybe come up with other ways of making flying fun. I do not need to hope for ways to make life worth living, I just need to get out there and begin to do it because within the core of my very existence, I am already designed to function in that capacity.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cHeaven is not a place, and it is not a time, heaven is being perfect.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Not until I read this book, I could have sworn that heaven is just but a place that I could have access to after I am done living here on earth of course, if I am found worthy. I never could have imagined that perfection could be termed being in heaven. Jonathan perfected flying, which means if I could perfect being on time to an appointment, take learnings from feedback without being defensive, show up for my friends and family, that could be counted as heaven. Indeed, it is the very little things like putting a smile on a person\u2019s face that truly matter.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWe choose our next world through what we learn in this one. Learn nothing and the next world is the same as this one, all the same limitations and lead weights to overcome.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Of all the statements, this one hit me the hardest because I have a personal experience and I have lived this statement over and over until I made a life changing decision and learned from my mistakes. This statement made me understand that I acknowledged my mistakes and made better decisions instead of living my mistakes and hoping that out of the blues life will take a different course.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas that you disagree with and if so, why?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I disagree with the modus operandi of the elders of the flock. It showed a lack of accountability on the part of the elders if they could not explain the principles behind the rules that govern its people. The system was rigid and did not allow for questions to be asked. It imprinted the fear of being cast away in the hearts of the people. I am sure there were a thousand and one other gulls who had what Jonathan had in him but fear never let them speak up or challenge the laid down rules.<\/span><\/p>\n

Another angle to it is that the elders were also afraid to disappoint its people and chose an approach where basic movement and survival skill was the order of the day. Everyone was banned from learning something new and self- development.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s also sad that the parents never made a conscious effort to visit him after he was cast out, they joined the crowd to turn their backs on him when he challenged the status quo. Even after his return when news of him and his accomplishments was making rounds amongst members of the flock, not for once did care to find out how he was doing. Thankfully their discontinued love and care did not deter Jonathan or make him question what he believed in, he was still full of love and support for those who wanted to rise above limitations.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

There were no exercises to complete.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous question? If so please comment.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

No.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.<\/span><\/strong>
\nA. How interesting was it to read? 6<\/strong><\/span><\/span>
\nB. How helpful were the contents? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span>
\nC. How easy was it to understand? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span>
\nD. Would you recommend it to others? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span>
\nE. What is the overall rating you would give it? 6<\/span><\/strong><\/span>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]PsychoCybernetics<\/strong><\/span>
\nAssessment by Akuyoma Vera Ikeriugwo (Nigeria)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

1. What is the main idea that the author is trying to convey in the book?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

The author’s main idea in the book revolves around the power of one\u2019s imagination and how powerful a tool it is to drive us towards set goals. The author makes us understand that we could have a refurbished self-image irrespective of age, as long as we keep it realistic. He speaks about how every battle begins in the mind and how losing the battle of the mind could mean losing that which we set out to achieve. In summary the author teaches us how failure or success of an individual is more psychologically than consciously linked. He makes us understand that success responds to us based on how we respond or approach it.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. What were the seven ideas which were personally most important to you and why? List these seven ideas followed by an explanation after each one as to why it was important.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

i. Self-image<\/span><\/p>\n

As carbon is to nourishment so is self-image the foundation upon which personality is built. How we perceive ourselves seems to be the way we perceive others and feel others perceive us too. It is the picture we carry in our minds about who we are, our strengths, weaknesses and our place among other people. If one is positive and creates a realistic positive image about oneself, he or she would walk with heads held high up. But if one has a negative image of oneself, he or she would feel others look down on him or her because of the image of himself already created.<\/span><\/p>\n

As a person I am content in and with myself, I am enough for myself. But, as much as possible I acknowledge my strengths and weaknesses and keep looking for better ways to channel them towards positivity. It is important that you are acceptable to you first before others can find you acceptable.<\/span><\/p>\n

ii. Imagination<\/span><\/p>\n

Imagination is a peek into the bigger picture; it is where creativity begins. As I child I watched a lot of TV and was abreast of most songs used in advertisements.<\/span>
\nI remember a particular advert that stood out from Milo, a little boy always wanted to be the best basketball player and would always say this within himself that if he could dream it, he could do it. Imagination gets us to our destination in our minds even before we begin to literally make the move. It is the ability to form limitless mental pictures of a whole lot of possibilities, and is not limited to poets or artists alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

iii. Automatic Mechanism<\/span><\/p>\n

This is the autopilot mode of the human brain which allows the brain to act without requiring conscious information. Our auto mechanism does not dispute whatever data we input; it only processes it and reacts appropriately. It\u2019s a plug and play kind of mechanisms and what we give is what we get. We can only be masters of our automatic mechanism by feeding it information that comes from an objective point of view, not one that was crafted from our inadequacies.<\/span><\/p>\n

iv. Relaxation<\/span><\/p>\n

Relaxation is our steam release valve. I remember the months after I got married, my husband was in a workplace accident that should have claimed his life, there was tension in the air and the faces of all and sundry. One of the responses that saw us through those moments of trials and temptations was the ability to stay relaxed. It did not take away the fact that my husband was in an accident but, we did not need matters getting worse than they already were. We tried hard to stay relaxed and composed. I was 8 months gone at the time and saddled with the responsibility of taking care of him but, not for one day was it recorded that there was a spike in my blood pressure. When I am relaxed the deep recesses of my mind opens up and ideas to things I have long struggled with seem to make themselves available without hassle.<\/span><\/p>\n

v. Negative Feedback<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cNegative feedback will act as a sort of automatic control, to help us “steer clear” of failure and guide us to success.\u201d Negative feedback is always available to help us back on track when we are tolling the wrong direction. One who does not take corrections hardly ever gets to the imagined location. Just like a very popular proverb in my culture reiterates how the stubborn fly always ends up buried with the corpse. Feedback is aimed at correcting course and not stopping course completely, it is the map with which our automatic mechanism navigates.<\/span><\/p>\n

vi. Forgiveness<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWrite a letter to the person who has frustrated or angered you. Pull out all the stops,<\/span>
\nleave nothing to the imagination, then burn the letter.\u201d I laughed really hard when I read this portion of the book, I had to ask myself why I would want to go through such stress only to torch the evidence of how I truly felt at the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cForgiveness, when it is real and genuine and complete, and forgotten is the scalpel which can remove the pus from old emotional wounds, heal them, and eliminate scar tissue.\u201d The clique forgive and forget got me asking myself if it was possible to forget that I coined a mantra for myself that only fools forgot. As I got older, I realized that forgetting was indeed a possibility but, for me it did not come as a complete memory wipe. I used to be able to go back in time to think about incidents that really hurt me and in fact kept memories alive by doing that. But I realized that after sometime, I began to lose fragments of the incident and with time I was unable to play back the incident like it happened. That was how I made the discovery that forgetting after forgiving was indeed a possibility.<\/span><\/p>\n

vii. Giving<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cTry giving affection, love, approval, acceptance, understanding, to other people, and you will find them coming back to you as a sort of reflex action.\u201d To this list I will add respect, sympathy, empathy, encouragement. The list is infinite. At my place of work, I interface a lot of times with temporary staff and contract workers, some of them do the menial jobs and on several occasions get talked down to.<\/span><\/p>\n

I made a mental note of their names whenever we had to work together and always addressed some of them on first name basis, for the elderly sir or ma comes into play and for the younger ones on first name and nickname basis. This pattern to me makes them pliable, they warm up to me easily and are willing to go all the way when I entrust them with tasks.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. How will these ideas or lessons help you in a practical way, both in your daily personal life and in helping you to create a better world? If so, how?<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

These ideas and more that I cannot write about have either given me rest after coming to the realization that my consciousness could jam my automatic mechanisms and frustrate me. It has given me the zeal to let go of what is not within my angle of influence.<\/span>
\nThe last practical experience I had was recently, I was not in a good place with my manager and we both avoided each other like a plague of some sort. It made work a nightmare but we both were able to move on from it after having a conversation and all of the tension left like it was not there in the first place. I have learned that happiness is infectious and intend to share mine with the rest of the world.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Quotes: Are there any statements which the author made that particularly got your attention? If so, please quote them and comment as to why they were important to you.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cThe engrams in the human brain tend to change slightly each time they are played back. They take on some of the tone and temper of our present mood, thinking and attitudes towards them.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s how I know I have truly forgotten hurt; I don’t simply make out what happened like I used to when I try to play it back in my head after sometime. I was also relieved when I learned that trauma of any sort could be overcome with this.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cYour conscience can fool you, your conscience itself can be wrong. It depends upon your own basic beliefs concerning right and wrong.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Objective thinking is as important as thinking itself. The moral code in us has got to function to steer us in the right direction. This is where family plays a very important role, in the upbringing of children who soon grow into adults.<\/span>
\n\u201cThe measure of mental health is the disposition to find good everywhere.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

If I was asked about mental health prior to this time, I would never have chosen the ability to see good everywhere from the numerous options. It feels great knowing that in a bid to try to bring balance to my own life, I could also touch the lives of those around me positively.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMen are disturbed not by things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Our opinion about matters of fact rather than the fact itself is what induces worry.<\/span>
\nThis is the reason I never got good at math while at school, the image of myself that I built around it, I was never able to break out of it. I considered myself dumb for failing in the first place and never recovered from it. I managed myself through school but was never good at it.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cIf you are to be happy at all, you must be a happy period! Not happy because of? Happiness is a mental habit, a mental attitude, and if it is not learned and practiced in the present it is never experienced.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The very blessing of sleeping and waking up is in fact something to be thankful for.<\/span>
\nI try not to attach my happiness to what is to come but revel in the happy things that happen in the now.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cIt is not the child who is taught about love but the child who has experienced love that grows into a healthy, happy, well-adjusted adult.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

This particular one touched my very core and reminded me of my childhood. I grew up in a family filled with love. I may not have had all that I wanted but, my parents made sure my siblings and myself had all we needed per time. Now I have a son who turns 2 in September, who already knows how to give compliments, who knows how to say sorry, who always wants to feed me or his dad when its meal time, a child who would share the last piece of biscuit with anyone who asks for some. I can say for a fact that love begets love, the more you\u2019re loved at home, the more love you have to give in return.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Is there anything in the book that you do not understand or are unclear about, or are there ideas that you disagree with and if so, why?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI don’t make as many good speeches as I used to. I speak so often that it has become old hat to me, and I no longer feel that little tingly feeling in the pit of my stomach, which tells me that I am going to do well.”<\/span><\/p>\n

The author quoted a friend on page 218 as saying this, I had expected that a solution would be proffered but it never really happened or maybe what I was expecting was not what I got. I know such a time will come so my question is how do I keep going when I get to the saturation point of the same goal I once clamoured?<\/span>
\n\u201cStage fright illustrates how universal is the suppression and inhibition of self-expression.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

I do not totally agree with this, matter of fact I think there might just be another angle to it. My husband and I recently took in a child when she turned 10 years, who had really had it rough in life in terms of care. We have been trying to bring her up to speed, though there\u2019s some improvement, it\u2019s just very slow. The beautiful thing is the child is giving it her best shot, though a lot of work still has to be done. She reads now and even spells better. At church some months back, she was given a recitation, no one at home knew because she never mentioned it and she never rehearsed on her own. We were just sitting in the crowd one Sunday morning and she was called upon to render the recitation; she could not even open her mouth. In her own case I would plead a lack of preparation rather than an inhibition of self expression. Prior to that recitation at church, I have given her bible verses to memorize and she did great, she also speaks at the school assembly from time to time and does great too.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Did the book contain exercises for the reader to complete? If so, did you complete all of the exercises and did you find them helpful?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, the book contained some exercises. Though I did not complete all of the exercises I found those I practiced very helpful. I look forward to continuing the exercises, especially exercise 1 on page 27, exercise 2 on page 45 and exercise 3 on page 61.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Was there anything you read in the book that you would like to comment on that was not covered in the previous question? If so please comment.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes. I would like to talk about the response I got when I attempted the exercise on imagination. I have been working on switching careers from the sciences to human resources lately, stemming from my love for public speaking and teaching. I had imagined myself as a learning partner in my organization during a conference wearing a pair of blue jeans, sneakers, and shirt and a beautiful long hair on. In my imagination there was also a projector which I gestured to from time to time as I spoke to the audience. Some 18 days later, I was taking a bath when the imposter syndrome crept in.<\/span>
\nAs documented in my journal I wrote: \u201cThis time I didn\u2019t feel like I couldn\u2019t do it. I was questioning myself if it was the right thing to do.\u201d The reason is: I have a husband, a son who is almost 2 years old and an 11 year old who lives with us, is leaving them behind the ultimate, I asked myself. Thankfully I have a supportive husband who looked me right in the eyes and said, \u201cyou will not make learning partner if you remain in this environment.\u201d I immediately snapped out of that limiting thought. It\u2019s in our own minds that we become what we want to be, it\u2019s still in our own minds that we stay limited, that was the lesson learned.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please rate the following questions on a scale from 1 to 10. Ten is good and one is poor.<\/span><\/strong>
\nA. How interesting was it to read? 9<\/strong><\/span><\/span>
\nB. How helpful were the contents? 9<\/strong><\/span><\/span>
\nC. How easy was it to understand? 9<\/strong><\/span><\/span>
\nD. Would you recommend it to others? 9<\/strong><\/span><\/span>
\nE. What is the overall rating you would give it? 9<\/span><\/strong><\/span>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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